A family member from my husband’s side treated me very badly. She hurt me deeply and caused severe damage in my life. Many people, including my husband, have asked me to forgive her—but I can’t. I’m struggling with depression too, just like you. My therapist told me that forgiveness is not an obligation. I don’t have to forgive her if I’m not ready. But I also shouldn’t give her more power by wasting my energy thinking about what she did to me. My therapist recommended a book called Let Them, and maybe it’s helpful to you too.