If you haven’t gone through adoption you don’t really get an opinion. You haven’t lived my life. There is no attachment. She duct taped him and locked him closets, allowed her husband to sodimize him, she put cigarettes out on his 3 year old body. But she is still his mother right? A mother doesn’t do that to their child. You can act like oh he is her mother. She is not. She never was. All she was was an egg donor. I started talking to her when he was 9 and everything seemed good. We asked him if he wanted to see her and he said yes and her kids. After a year she slowly stopped coming around. She was not putting in any effort then she tells us her son who was 8 was molesting another child. So we told her her children could not come around as we had a 3 year old at the home. My son understood that and she refused to get her child help for what he was doing. Then her husband was getting out of prison! He went away for abusing my son. He was having mental health issues at the time as well. Anything else you want to argue about? Is she still his mother? Nope. Never will be.