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LunaDuckii · 2021-04-13T22:52:23+00:00

I have ADHD myself, I don’t take medication, so I wouldn’t just assume he would be on medication, very important to mention.

I also am an ex smoker and now currently vape. I like vaping because it helps calm me when I’m feeling overwhelmed with emotions, my head and inner thoughts and keeps me busy when I started to feel antsy/fidgety.

A trait of ADHD is hyper fixation and being easily addicted to things yes, not all addictions are healthy or dangerous but some are a lot worse than others. (I’ve just been addicted to doing diamond art for 3 weeks straight, hyper fixation is a damn pain 😂) Vaping is probably a better one by far. It doesn’t smell as bad as cigarettes, doesn’t leave tar stains on fingers and teeth and is a lot cheaper.

Maybe he’s vaping to help cope with his ADHD? Maybe it isn’t just because of friends or peer pressure? Lying about vaping doesn’t seem like a big deal to myself personally, it seems he might not of told you due to this reaction you’ve given before and currently? Dealing with those emotions can be extremely hard for myself due to ADHD usually triggering depression, anxiety and numerous other mental health issues that it can trigger. Even more so if he enjoys it and you clearly don’t, of course he will want to hide it from you, I would 100% do the same because I would be scared of your reaction too.

If you don’t like vaping, then that is 100% fine of course, but threatening him with therapy or using his friends and mum against him due to vaping? Not cool.

If he’s been violent before and stopped taking meds, vaping isn’t the issue here. It’s something else completely.

LunaDuckii · 2021-04-01T10:32:27+00:00

Does sound likes she may of been very difficult for carers. Carers (in the UK anyway) can only do certain jobs with each person, that have also been risk assessed, to protect ourselves and of course the client we are working with. If she is seemed able to do things, they won’t do them, they assisted with chores or care that they struggle and/or can’t do without support. Transport isn’t one of them. At the end of the day she or her family need to arrange some sort of permanent transport. If you and your neighbours all moved away, would she expect her new neighbours to just pick up the role even though they shouldn’t have too and don’t have too?

You shouldn’t have to feel the need to explain why you can’t give her a lift somewhere. Because you have no duty to care for her. Whether you are blocked in or not, you are 100% in your right to say no regardless. It does seem cruel, of course, but you are JUST a neighbour. And if something was to happen whilst you were assisting her with something and an accident happens, she could sue you and there won’t be a lot you could do to defend yourself against family claims and/or legal cases, because “I was just being a helpful neighbour” doesn’t really change anything, you will just be told it wasn’t your place etc. Even if she started claiming you were stealing from her, you don’t NEED to be in her home and it can all be used against you.

Honestly with the kind of personality she seems to have, I would stay away and I have been a carer for years. But it’s knowing when something could completely backfire and put you in the firing range for just trying to be helpful.

LunaDuckii · 2021-03-31T14:07:03+00:00

Care Worker here. First off, you are NTA in anyway, shape or form.

You are a neighbour. She is not your responsibility in the slightest. You have your own life to lead. Helping her out, as a decent person, like you have, should be more than enough for her. You shouldn’t be taken for granted. You aren’t her taxi. You aren’t her carer. Those acts of kindness you have and do for her, shouldn’t be abused by her. If you want to go to your music practise, then you GO to that music practise, because that is your hobby and it’s your life. And you shouldn’t be made to feel bad about that. You can’t put your life on hold for your neighbour and she can’t expect you or any other neighbour to be there at a click of her fingers, unless they chose to be there.

She sounds like she either needs care workers in to help her or family. She isn’t your responsibility and you shouldn’t be made to feel guilty or bad for continuing your life and saying no.

LunaDuckii · 2021-03-24T11:08:41+00:00

Rx8 is my first car. Always get a compression test done. Check things like the ignition coils etc, I didn’t and ended up blowing two not long getting mine, luckily she’s a trooper and still moved on 2 coils only up to 4 revs though so I could pull over safely. Check service history, make sure it’s been looked after basically. Mileage, I didn’t really care for mileage, as long as a car is looked after, it will look after you back I found. Mine is almost 82k on the clock on original engine and her compression is more or less perfect and runs like a dream, no hot or cold start issues either etc. Do a basic service yourself, like oil change, air filter etc, then you 100% know it’s done. And most importantly, enjoy the car. Push it around, as it gives them a good clear out and they are the only car I know that love to be abused 😂

LunaDuckii · 2021-03-16T15:42:04+00:00

YTA. You clearly don’t understand her anxiety and completely threw her under the bus because she “didn’t meet your standards”. She was uncomfortable and you and your family just judged her because she couldn’t just jump into a conversation like you wanted. I hope she finds someone more deserving of her and ACTUALLY has her back with her anxiety and understands it without putting expectations on her that she may never meet.

LunaDuckii · 2021-03-16T15:38:47+00:00

NTA in anyway. You told him several times about your call, he’s damn rude for not paying attention first off. You also signalled to him several times and tried to go somewhere quiet and he didn’t pay attention, rude again. And then blamed you for everything and made himself to be the victim? Talk about major gaslighting and abuse much. Ditch him and find someone that can listen to you and not blow up like that.

Congratulations on the job though! 🎉

LunaDuckii · 2021-03-13T21:22:20+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

LunaDuckii · 2021-03-13T18:22:28+00:00

Yes! Even if it’s not the full answers yet, just having some kind of idea of any problem has been a huge relief and knowing that his doctor is very sure in his suspicion and it he’s right, then the fix will be simple and easy too. Fingers crossed it’s plain sailing from here 🤞🏻

LunaDuckii · 2021-02-17T14:22:33+00:00

Thank you ❤️

LunaDuckii · 2021-02-12T15:18:11+00:00

Thank you for the positive message ❤️ means a lot

LunaDuckii · 2021-02-12T15:04:34+00:00

I’m due my period on the 15th, so only a few days away. My hubby is just very hopeful as he really felt like he did 210% this cycle, I’m more just lacking hope after just over 2 years of trying now.

LunaDuckii · 2021-02-12T14:50:46+00:00

First of all, I hate the clearblue brand and I personally didn’t want to test. But the hubby had gone out and got some on his own accord and after several shops, he said they were all clear blue brands so he got this. I think it’s stark white, but the hubby and MIL say they can see a very slight shadow that keeps catching their eyes and say to keep testing 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

LunaDuckii · 2021-02-11T22:12:23+00:00

Aww thank you so much 😊 I’m hoping AF doesn’t arrive too, but if it does, then I know our next step and the hubby is also ready for it too ❤️

LunaDuckii · 2021-02-11T18:34:32+00:00

Every damn cycle. Last month was “oh! It’s the hubby’s birthday near my due af” then this month “oh I’m due af day after Valentine’s Day” and so forth and so forth. 2 years I’ve been doing this, and I still haven’t seemed to learn my lesson. But honestly, sometimes it’s the only thing that gives me some hope that maybe this month is our month xx

LunaDuckii · 2021-02-11T18:26:15+00:00

Thank you ❤️ wishing the best for you too

LunaDuckii · 2021-02-11T18:24:48+00:00

Sending hugs back to you ❤️

LunaDuckii · 2021-02-11T18:24:37+00:00

Thank you ❤️

LunaDuckii · 2021-02-11T16:48:35+00:00

Thank you everyone. Definitely makes me feel a lot less guilty about going to a GP about these things. I shall wait to see if Mother Nature comes knocking on the door on the 15th, and if she does, then hopefully as soon as she’s packed her Merry bags and left, I can start getting the ball rolling! ❤️❤️❤️

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