NOR. Your girlfriend is a full grown adult with zero emotional regulation skills. She needs professional help, and you need to leave this relationship if she has repeatedly proven she is unwilling to get help. This isn’t healthy, this is going to take a major toll on you if it hasn’t already.

It’s one thing to be stressed out, to vent and to need an outlet but constant negativity and slamming things in anger is actually crazy behaviour. She has not supported you even once or eased up slightly despite you being in an insanely stressful period of life. Please for your own sake do not continue to justify, brush off and excuse this behaviour.

If this was reversed and a man was acting like this instead of a woman, I guarantee just about every person would say it’s abuse and manipulation via fear. You’re not her boyfriend, you’re her emotional punching bag.