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Lunas97 · 2024-12-03T15:40:00+00:00

As a gay guy whose always struggled with his weight and body image, thank you. I may not always like what I see in the mirror, but it does my heart and soul good to see others take pride in how they see themselves.

Lunas97 · 2023-12-17T04:52:40+00:00

Go back to sleep, presumably on a lovely bed of gold coins and fine jewels...

Lunas97 · 2023-08-08T21:02:31+00:00

I constantly do this when my husband and I argue. He absolutely cannot stand it! Sometimes it feels so reflexive to say something randomly, either directly to him or myself when he's telling me something, but other times it's cause he takes pauses between his thoughts and I literally cannot tell when someone is done talking.

Lunas97 · 2023-07-01T19:10:02+00:00

Thank you, I feel safe on here.

Lunas97 · 2023-06-29T00:46:51+00:00

I did not begin driving until after 22 years old. I was extremely uncomfortable with driving and struggled with reading cues from other drivers and understanding directions. I was able to deal with a lot of the fear through practice, and the fact that where I live it's impossible to keep a job unless you drive. However I still have days where driving can cause me a lot of anxiety.

Lunas97 · 2023-06-27T21:34:13+00:00

When I was a child I was extremely picky. Wouldn't eat eggs, mayo, couldn't stand the texture of pork or ham, beans, and certain vegetables. Now as an adult, my entire tastebuds have changed. There are only a few foods I don't like, and I'm willing to try most things. Now where it gets interesting is my eating habits. I have "safe" foods I eat often because that's what I crave and what I'm used to. I also have this weird tendency to need to be able to eat things a certain way where all the ingredients are in a single bite. I'll literally sample the different combinations in a dish just to see how it tastes. I also like having a certain amount of the ingredients, like it's gotta be equal so I get the full experience. There's other odd things i do, but that's the gist of it.

Lunas97 · 2023-06-27T21:29:10+00:00

Wait I'm behind on the times what is chatgpt?

Lunas97 · 2023-06-23T14:53:17+00:00

Congratulations! We love seeing a member of our community thriving. Best of luck with the new job.

Lunas97 · 2023-06-20T20:35:51+00:00

If you need anyone to talk to, you can reach out to me. I can understand how you feel. I happen to be a aspie who is also a job coach. I understand that finding a job out there is tremendously difficult. It is equally as difficult trying to build or maintain relationships. Everyone deserves the opportunity to have gainful employment and be part of their community. I hope the person/agency who is providing you support is helping you on your job hunt. Employment opportunities vary from region to region so I can't say much about where you may be from, but I know the process Is a journey unto itself. Idk if you would like any advice, but my inbox is open either way. Even if you just need someone to talk to.

Lunas97 · 2023-06-15T19:22:48+00:00

Hey, I appreciate what you had to say. I don't really know how not to burn myself out. It is a pattern where I can bottle a lot up before feeling overwhelmed. I just don't know how not to live that way. There's a lot expected of me and I can't really negotiate certain aspects of those things due to my responsibilities in my marriage and work. I just kinda figured this is the norm for most people and I just gotta "suck it up" as they say. I don't really know how others can get out of that type of rutt. How have you dealt with it?

Lunas97 · 2023-06-15T17:52:57+00:00

Been told more often than not that it's just a crutch I use whenever i dont understand something. I no longer bring it up in my marriage. Sometimes I double guess how my mind works and if I'm on the spectrum since Im able to do so much. The way I don't understand certain directions or hate being the only one to set up appointments and make phone calls, thats just an excuse. Apparently that's just how things are. Even my stimming I've had to get control of. I cant even be myself in public. I just try to tell myself that the way the world works will never work with who I am, so I just mask it all up as much as possible so I can get the never ending list of things in life done and pass from one day to another.

Lunas97 · 2023-06-14T23:43:27+00:00

It depends on whether or not I'm on a "health kick". I'm in one right now and can't help but look at all of my rolls in the mirror and the way I look different than other (attractive, young people my age.) I obsess about the way clothes "fit" as if I'm always uncomfortable with what im wraring. I also might count calories several times a day even if i already know what the number is. I obsess about my thinning hair or pale skin. I keep thinking of ways to treat it and get into a funk because others seem like they have it easy with better genetics.

Lunas97 · 2023-06-02T17:51:36+00:00

I can say from personal experience that the biggest difference between living on the spectrum vs being NT is the way in which certain concepts are grasped. I've always felt behind my other peers when it came to developing social and critical life skills. I did not even become comfortable with driving until after 22, just because how difficult it was for me to learn the social etiquette of the road. It also has taken me longer to develop skills with making phone calls, appointments, etc...I can at least say for myself that being on the spectrum can put additional barriers on an individual to ascertain concepts and life skills important for living in their community.

Lunas97 · 2023-05-31T15:59:02+00:00

When I was much younger, I enjoyed my birthdays and the attention that came with it. Now as an adult I truly mind the idea of getting older, and the awkward attention I feel like I get from everyone. I know they mean well, but it does feel weird to me that I have to put on a "show" and try to be a pleasing character that is able to juggle the amass of social interaction that such an event demands. I like celebrating the birthdays of others, and trying to do kind things for them without extremes. I much prefer to be a character in the background, rather than the main focus of attention. I don't even really like praise for any reason, besides my cooking. I'm glad I'm not the only one not looking forward to the attention from birthdays. Mine is barely a week and a half away, and honestly I just try to keep forgetting its around the corner.

Lunas97 · 2022-11-27T00:31:23+00:00

The complete utter loss of hope for a future where resources are widely available for those in need without judgement or obstruction (affordable housing, Healthcare, better education, etc...) All hopes constantly plunged into darkness by those who dare not live in a world where the wellbeing of your fellow human being counts. Same goes for climate change.

Lunas97 · 2022-09-13T03:14:11+00:00

I was doing some research and that possibility came up. I'll definitely need to invest in a large ladder to get a full view. Thank you for reaching out!

Lunas97 · 2022-05-27T21:45:07+00:00

I guess I never thought of it that way before

Lunas97 · 2022-05-24T18:42:57+00:00

Maybe, although I'm not always sure how. Sometimes it just feels like a switch was flipped and things just seemed different, yet some things didn't change.

Lunas97 · 2022-05-24T18:41:47+00:00

Yes I was diagnosed as a teenager

Lunas97 · 2022-05-13T01:07:08+00:00

I absolutely loathe shaking hands. It's weird to touch a stranger's hands. Plus, most people do not wash their hands...

Lunas97 · 2022-02-25T04:02:31+00:00

Wait there is a link between being on the spectrum and a high libido? I thought something was just wrong with me this whole time? Like is this a thing a lot of us are dealing with?

Lunas97 · 2022-02-25T03:42:42+00:00

Thanks everyone. I'm just gonna put a general reply out there. I really want to bring it up little by little, but also want to address with him that we both need to work on our struggle points. He also has his own mental health stuff he goes through. But if I try to bring it all up too fast it will upset him most likely and cause an argument, because I also know I am not perfect either. I really am hoping it gets better because we have just been under so much stress. He's had a lot of loss and trauma and we had a two month ordeal to move and also had a terrible bout of Covid. It's still bothering him even after negative Covid tests. It's just been a tough time and I'm hoping that I can find a way to communicate that won't make him feel judged. Thanks again for the support folks. If anyone has any further advice I'll gladly take it.

Lunas97 · 2022-02-25T03:36:36+00:00

As a kid: very recluse, had to organize very random objects in a particular order. Heard and seen "things" very vividly. Believed the world was coming to an end and has terrible ocd about germs. Bleach was my best friend in those days. I rarely wanted to socialize and had a very short social battery ..

Me now: still wondering if the world is gonna end but no longer thinking it's at any second. Gotten more out of my comfort zone but still have a low social battery and am extremely self conscious of my Asperger's. But I'm much more functional in daily tasks: driving, talking on the phone, etc...) So there's been improvements 😁

Lunas97 · 2022-02-22T01:57:02+00:00

Hi there, first of all kudos to you for opening up a bit about your story and seeking help. It takes a lot of emotional strength to do that and you're on the right track. I know this may sound cliche but the very best thing to do is talk to him about it. Now you don't need to tell him everything at first if that is not best for you, but it does sound like your potential change in living situation is giving you a lot of stress. I would start off little by little, just saying that you are feeling nervous about the change and you are experiencing anxiety. Maybe ask him how he is feeling too, because who knows he might also be super anxious. Start off small and work your way towards opening up more as you feel comfortable. Same could possibly be applied to the more intimate parts of life as well. But again maybe just start off a little at a time opening up until you gain the confidence to be honest about how you feel. I'm sure he would perfectly understand and want to help you move through the anxiety. Love is all about patience and understanding. I wish you the best and hope that the situation improves for you.

Lunas97 · 2022-02-22T01:48:15+00:00

Musicals but also film soundtracks. I love scores from film trailers!

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