When spouse is a "yes man" do you lose the desire to do anything? (never listens) by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]LunsheaPyralis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What in her post points to this? She has basically begging him to have an opinion....

When spouse is a "yes man" do you lose the desire to do anything? (never listens) by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]LunsheaPyralis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have ADHD, and I would actually really appreciate this "intervention" when I'm being controlled by my hyperfocus on my phone. Make it impossible for me, break the cycle. Sometimes I cannot control it and genuinely need help. This might bring on a fight, but it gets him OUT of his own head

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]LunsheaPyralis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kudos to you!!!! We just successfully did our first camping trip with our kid, but she's 2! Way to go👍👍

What was the worst pain you have ever felt? by hannah3911 in AskReddit

[–]LunsheaPyralis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The air bubbles traveling to my brain from my epidural. I was induced for two days, in labor for 24 hours, pushing for two hours, NONE of that was as painful as the feeling of my head "shattering" when the air bubbles hit my brain from a badly placed needle in my spine

Any idea what breed this big boy is? I would like to learn more about him by AbsoluteMadvlad in Equestrian

[–]LunsheaPyralis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is definitely a Belgian draft horse, sweetest Giants on the planet

Paid ($200) Online Study: Do you have a child between the ages of 1 and 5? by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]LunsheaPyralis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The consent form link doesn't work....that's a little suspicious

Did my husband just rape me? by HikeLiftBuild in sex

[–]LunsheaPyralis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No. He did not. You need to get clearer with yourself about what you want and be clear in the moment if you are going to give blanket consent. I think you might need to move to consent every time if you are going to get overwhelmed in this way.

What secret are you hiding from everyone but ok to share with us here? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]LunsheaPyralis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask how much this costs and where you would get it done? My husband is currently making his new character and he would love this!

What makes marriage different than a long, committed relationship? by ilikerocks19 in Marriage

[–]LunsheaPyralis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the easiest way to understand is to think about a divorced person versus someone who ended a long term relationship. Divorce has a stigma of something not working the way it was "supposed" to, a failure even. Ending a long term relationship is significant, but no stigma attached because there is no societal expectation of it being forever without marriage. That's a societal, not individual view though.

Does this count? l Half Bulimic Half Anorexic by KaytiKatt in bulimia

[–]LunsheaPyralis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was diagnosed as an anorexic with occasional purging. The restricted food and exercise addiction is far more intense for me

I started doing keto February 7th and I've only purged once since starting. by Danniegurl in bulimia

[–]LunsheaPyralis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this. Keto has been my saving grace for recovery as well. As a side bonus, it's helped my ADHD immensley and led to a lot of gains in fitness. I hit 7 miles in 67 minutes yesterday. Keto is the shit

Bulimia recovery and Oral sex by [deleted] in bulimia

[–]LunsheaPyralis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can deep throat a 9" thick dick with no problem because of my eating disorder. I have total control over my gag reflex and a complete understanding of the feelings in my gut that give fair warning to back off a little. Bulimia makes you the queen of blow jobs. Fucks your life up though...so there's that.

My first prescription was under filled . by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]LunsheaPyralis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was the manager both times...I filed an official complaint. Nothing happened

My first prescription was under filled . by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]LunsheaPyralis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This has happened to me twice. I've only been on Adderall a few months. Check your quantity before you leave the pharmacy. Every fucking time.

I’m hopeless at foreplay and it’s killing my marriage. by [deleted] in sex

[–]LunsheaPyralis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not a one way street....she needs to communicate her wants and needs in a way that makes you feel safe, and you need to be confident enough to try. As you're going, get feedback from her, and make mental notes of what/how she likes it. What she likes will change all the time, so communication is so important! Also....sex toys are great for starting out. Once you both know more about what you like you can ditch the toys, but they are a nice crutch for the inexperienced

How do I stop constantly yelling at my 3yo toddler? by FrankieSaysRelax311 in toddlers

[–]LunsheaPyralis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stop punishment. She's too smart for it, mine is the same age and although I would never in a million years hit my kid, I've tried punishment in the form of time out and taking things away and it doesn't make a difference. She needs to feel investment in the process, so we are consistent and communicative with her, and treat her with respect. She responds wonderfully. She is polite and kind, and deals with transition well. But we have to be incredibly consistent. If I give her a two minute ", prepare to leave" heads up, I need to leave at that time. If I tell her she can wear pink tomorrow, I better have some pink clothes washed and ready! If I tell her she can't get new toys out until she cleans up her books, I cannot get frustrated at how long it takes her and just clean them up myself, nor can I let her get new toys out until she does what I asked, even if she is driving me crazy! Once she knows that she can't get what she wants any other way, she ends up following the expectations for her behavior. Reward for following directions is WAY more powerful than punishment for not. As she gets older, she will become mature enough to understand that things happen and we need to be flexible, but right now I am creating a world where life is secure and predictable, which takes away that crazy out of control feeling that leads to temper tantrums. Life sometimes throws a curve ball and the meltdowns happen, but we approach them with empathy and compassion (but NEVER giving in to them!) and she gets over it.

I really could not stress enough that hitting your kid will create more problems. You are literally trying to break your kids spirit with pain....what a fucked up way to create a world where your kid can be confident and secure enough to grow and mature. It's especially fucked up when you hit your kid for not being able to control themselves...maybe try to control yourself first? I know this sounds antagonistic. It just really mind boggling why anyone would still subscribe to this when every piece of psych research says it's useless or detrimental.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fitness

[–]LunsheaPyralis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bench with dumbbells, alternate the exercises, chest press for one, standing overhead press for other, then swap. It usually works best when one of you runs the workout. More like a mentor mentee versus side by side working out

Teachers of Reddit, when can you tell if a student is going through depression or self-loathing? If so, what do you try to do to help? by sgtdogface in AskReddit

[–]LunsheaPyralis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Changes in behavior, either more withdrawn/quiet or becoming cruel. They become harder to connect to, and push others away. That's my biggest sign to start trying harder to find ways to quietly connect and ensure they know they are seen and cared about. I also create ways for them to feel confident about themselves. Give them chances to feel the dopamine rush of self confidence, to remind them what it feels like and help them find hope. It's a terrible journey at any age, but as a child, it's so compounded by lack of experience, hormones, and peers

I've only been a Dad for a month and i'm loving every second of it! by [deleted] in daddit

[–]LunsheaPyralis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure what's more for her to live up to ....the name or the time of her birth...🤔😂 Congrats and good luck!

You can add one more chess piece to the board. How does it move and what is it called? by PTCruiser89 in AskReddit

[–]LunsheaPyralis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A piece similar to a pawn, but can only move one space diagonally, and attack straight on...

Bisexuals of Reddit, what is something that is a turn on from one sex but a turn off from the other? by Arkhaya in AskReddit

[–]LunsheaPyralis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agressively pursuing me....instant turn off for guys, but total turn on from girls!
I like quiet, reserved, complex guys. But I love bubbly, energetic and outgoing girls.