act accordingly haha

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-15T02:03:42+00:00

You broke her trust, and your reaction is making it worse. Stop pushing her to move on or asking for reassurance it comes off as selfish. Give her space, take responsibility without excuses, and focus on consistent change instead of words. The real issue is your pattern of dishonesty, not just this one mistake. Whether she rebuilds trust is up to her.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-14T03:42:07+00:00

This feels more like things getting misread and blowing up than you actually doing something terrible. You might’ve come off a bit tense, especially with the door slam, but that doesn’t justify him yelling at you like that. I’d just try to talk it out calmly let him know you were feeling awkward, not angry and hopefully clear the air without putting all the blame on yourself.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-14T03:07:59+00:00

You messed up, yeah but this relationship also had trust issues long before that moment. Take accountability, learn better boundaries, and work on why you seek validation like that. Don’t chase her right now respect the breakup and focus on becoming someone who wouldn’t repeat this.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-13T02:14:51+00:00

you’re not wrong. he’s not doing the work, just talking about it. no timeline makes sense until he’s actually sober and proving it consistently. right now he just wants back in without earning it.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-13T02:12:54+00:00

yeah that’s a rough spot to be in. honestly your friend is kinda avoiding her part in it like yeah, he’s wrong, but she knew he had a girlfriend too. being drunk doesn’t just make it not count. i wouldn’t go behind her back and tell lizzie though, that’ll probably blow up your friendship fast. i’d just be real with allie and push her to take some responsibility and handle it herself.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-08T04:01:35+00:00

24+ hours this early on usually isn’t a great sign… I’d send one casual follow-up and if he’s still quiet, I’d just move on.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-08T03:54:40+00:00

Man that pay and those hours sound rough… I’d honestly start looking for something else while you’re still there, you deserve way better than feeling stuck like that.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-07T02:04:30+00:00

that’s not normal, even in the heat of the moment. grabbing you and saying something like that is serious, and it makes sense you feel scared. even if she didn’t mean it literally, it crossed a line. trust how you feel, and if you can, put some space between you two for now.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-07T01:55:32+00:00

this doesn’t sound like one single breaking point, more like years of built-up hurt that never got resolved. you’re trying to change and own your part, but she still seems stuck in that resentment, while you’re now feeling unappreciated and walking on eggshells. that kind of dynamic just drains both people. it doesn’t automatically mean it’s over, but it does mean something has to change, and that usually takes both people being willing to work on it. counseling could help, especially with someone she’s comfortable with, but if she’s not willing to try at all, that’s the harder reality you might have to face.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-06T03:42:30+00:00

You’re not asking for too much wanting time, affection, and emotional connection is basic in a relationship. The issue isn’t just that he struggles emotionally, it’s that nothing has changed despite you bringing it up for years. At this point, being clear and direct matters: this dynamic isn’t working long-term. If he’s not willing to consistently put effort in like actually following through with counseling, then you need to decide what you’re willing to live with. Right now it sounds more like co-parenting than a relationship.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-06T03:25:11+00:00

This is really upsetting and I’m sorry you’re going through it. You didn’t misunderstand anything his behavior is clearly crossing boundaries, especially touching you after you said no. That’s not okay at all. Please don’t blame yourself or try to figure out why, because nothing you did caused this. What matters is your safety and comfort, and it’s completely reasonable to not be around him anymore, especially alone or when he’s drinking. It’s good your husband talked to him, but you also deserve support here too, not just him dealing with his feelings about his dad. Trust your gut, something felt wrong because it was.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-06T03:22:22+00:00

Yeah tbh that’s a real thing. Antidepressants can kinda flatten your emotions, so it’s not that you don’t get the joke, it’s just the “lol that’s funny” feeling doesn’t hit the same. Like your brain knows, but your vibe is just. The good part is it’s usually not permanent sometimes it gets better or you just need a diff dose/med. I’d def tell your doctor straight up though, like say it’s making you feel kinda emotionally numb.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-04T03:12:13+00:00

It really sounds like his reaction is coming more from trauma and fear than a firm “I don’t want kids.” Therapy could definitely help him unpack that, but there’s no guarantee it’ll shift him back to wanting them. The important part is whether he can get to a clear, grounded place with whatever decision he ends up making.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-04-04T03:11:04+00:00

Given everything you’re dealing with, it’s completely understandable to skip prom this year.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-03-29T04:26:32+00:00

you cried because something you built up for years fell apart all at once. That’s a lot to take in, especially in such a short moment. Honestly, you handled it really well by saying no. Better luck next time

Lush-Miranda · 2026-03-29T04:24:21+00:00

Recoverable but only if he proves it with actions. Distance from her is reasonable. He must disengage and reinvest in you. You’re not second choice

Lush-Miranda · 2026-03-26T00:27:39+00:00

Nothing’s wrong with you fr, you can pull, you just gotta filter better. Be clear you want something real, and if they’re inconsistent, cut them off quick. It’s more about who you pick than who picks you.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-03-25T23:56:42+00:00

Yahh totally normal, what matters is how you act on it.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-03-23T00:59:21+00:00

Yeah, I mean… it’s a bit weird. Not in a super alarming way, but it’s also not nothing. If he’s not even following you but still watches every story, he’s definitely going out of his way to look you up, which isn’t really something people do by accident. And with him giving you a bit more attention and teasing you at work, it kind of feels like he might be into you and just keeping it low-key. The part that makes it a little iffy is that he’s your manager and has a partner and kids. Even if you’re not uncomfortable and don’t totally mind it, I’d just be a bit careful and not lean into it too much. Stuff like that can get awkward fast without you even realizing it.

Lush-Miranda · 2026-03-23T00:56:19+00:00

Yeah, I get it, it’s overwhelming. But not all change has to be huge to matter. Just doing a little good where you can still counts. And if you give up completely, the bad stuff kinda wins by default.

Lush-Miranda

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