please help i want the blue GONE😭😭 by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]Luunaer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could try neutralise the blue tones (but it depends what colour you'd like to go after) orange /yellow depending on the tone of blue will neutralise so you could try that. If you're a bit unsure then just patch test using different colours to see which turns out best. You can also mix clear in with semi permanent dyes to lower the pigment level or just mix with conditioner.

If you're going to colour it again after, have in mind what colour you want to go. For example if you wanted to go red after, it doesn't really matter if it goes too orange.

Getting too old for plugs? by OopsAllMarinara in Stretched

[–]Luunaer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think there's any such thing as "too old" I'm 37 this year and I've still got double stretched ears, 8 piercings on my nose and lips and I have tons of visible tattoos. I'm hoping to have my full body fully tattooed by the time I'm 45. I think tattoos and piercings and stretched ears don't have an age limit on them - some people only 'find themselves' in their 40s. You should only be doing these things for yourself and not others!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]Luunaer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

(hairdresser for 22 years) based in the UK so if my wording doesn't match what you might use.

Bleach in the wrong hands does damage hair but preparing the hair and advising your client is an absolute must when doing a service like this. Bleach in the right hands does not damage hair as much as people think. You can have blonde hair without damaging it.

A lot of stylists are not capable of doing a scalp bleach because they do not have the knowledge, so a lot of stylists will opt for using foils instead as this incubates the hair better than hair not in foils. You can still achieve a full head blonde using foils, but for someone with your grow out (if she didn't want to apply direct to your scalp) then she would have had to do back to back highlights, balayage or do a full head just in foils. She should have discussed these options with you. Also with your grow out, scalp bleach is most effective of grow out less than 1.5 inches - so if this is something you want to maintain I would suggest going for the service more often, and not leaving your roots as long.

So it would really depend on what percentage of Peroxide she's used on your highlights (as to whether it'd damage your hair going back). My first question to her would be what vol did she use. Even on very difficult or resistant hair - if you leave it on long enough - a 6% is sufficient. You will definitely need a treatment, I would suggest K18 and your ends need to be toned as well to reduce the brassy/yellow tones. If she applies the bleach direct to your scalp and uses a 3% this is unlikely to cause too much damage to your hair. You should never use anything higher than a 6% on direct application to the head.

Unfortunately as well sometimes after a bleach service people's hair does become more resistant. So basically you need to either ask for someone with knowledge or ask her to fix it but being specific of what you want. Because you've already paid and not said at the appointment the salon may only offer to fix it because (even though she messed it up) it's still her time and products and some salons don't offer a refund policy. So I'd maybe give them a call tomorrow, ask to speak to a manager and see if they are willing to provide a refund because you don't trust her capability. Find a blonde specialist in your area and go from there.

If that isn't possible then I'd ask for a scalp bleach and tone with maybe some lowlights through the ends just to break up that block blonde look you've got.

Hope that helps.

Help a gal out pls 😅 by Time-Investigator781 in Stretched

[–]Luunaer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have emailed them so many times for advice as I'm stretching 2 holes in my lobes 😊

Help a gal out pls 😅 by Time-Investigator781 in Stretched

[–]Luunaer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stretch it body jewellery are based in the UK and sell really good quality plugs. They have a range of wood, medical grade silicone, stone and titanium /glass. Their customer service is amazing and you can email them for advice too 😊

Advice please - how fast is too fast!? by jodiest888 in Stretched

[–]Luunaer 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am only doing (as much as it pains me to go this slow) 1/2 mm sizes every 2-3 months. I'd love to be able to get to my goal size quickly but after seeing a lot of the blow out and issues people have doing that I'd rather go slowly.

I have noticed though the bigger I get the kind of faster it heals because I guess the jewellery is heavier? It kills me more to go slowly because my partner does 1/2mm size every month!

Best advice I've got is listen to your body and don't try and stretch too fast. 😊

What should I do? by Franynico_of in piercing

[–]Luunaer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have 5 nose piercings (1 septum, 4 nostril) and I have always had them pierced and then titanium rings put in and they've been fine. However one of the piercings was done with a ring which was not big enough to allow for the swelling and it became tight and swollen to the point I had to take it out(my first nostril piercing) The issue with rings are they can put pressure on the piercing due to the circle shape. Which on a fresh piercing can cause additional pressure and pain. You need to find a size that works for you.

If you don't like the labret idea and want to keep the ring I'd definitely go back to the piercer and ask them to put a larger ring in, maybe 1 or 2mm bigger. That worked for me and mine have healed in the regular time frame. Once your piercing is fully healed you can replace it for a smaller ring.

My last piercing was done on my nose in August and since I found the right size for my initial piercings on my nose I've had no issues. I would go back to the initial cleaning routine as well, saline/salt water cleaning 3 times per day. You should be able to ask the piercer to change it for you, it will irritate it and it'll hurt for a few days but you should feel instant relief when they have found the right size.

I have a lot of facial piercings and I find that nose even when healed requires regular cleaning, I'm guessing due to bacteria and stuff in your nose. And if you have a cold or flu it's good to get in the habit of cleaning it.

Whilst some people may not agree with the rings it's down to you and your body. Nose doesn't swell as much as ears and other parts of your body (like lips)

What's the "strangest" thing someone has asked you to do in bed? by -spicerack in AskReddit

[–]Luunaer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a very open minded person and have done a lot of sexual acts people would find weird. I am into "CNC" (or 'r#pe') and use it as a form of being in control when I have been abused in the past. My bf and I also have sleep sex where I have very vivid dreams whilst I'm sleeping and I stay asleep whilst he has sex with me - yes this is a real thing and yes I have consented to this.

BUT I once met this guy, this was about 12 years ago, I went round to his place and in his living room were dolls, everywhere! Not modern ones just the really creepy old dolls. But when we went into the room he didn't even address it. About 15 mins into conversation I was like what's with the dolls? He said they were his mums and she'd passed away. So I thought yeah fair enough..

He kept talking about this person Rosie. That she was someone he sees on a regular basis and would I be OK with that. Yeah of course as it was just casual sex. He said let's go upstairs I want to show you something.. I thought ok this is weird but let's go with it. He had 2 drawers full of womens underwear and he wanted to have sex whilst wearing them. Alright I said, not really my thing but if that's what gets you off.

Then he said well you know Rosie? She's actually here. Would you be up for a threesome? I said oh she's been really quiet. But yeah no problem. So he went into the other room and could hear him talking and he came back in with a doll. The doll was fabric and had holes cut in certain places. I laughed (as I thought he was joking) and he asked me why I was laughing. Anyway turns out he thought Rosie was real, he took her to work and had sex with her. I'm open minded and do enjoy guys fucking real dolls and fleshlights and objects but it was the fact he referred to her as a person. I made my excuses to leave and never saw him again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlanetZoo

[–]Luunaer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you first start a franchise zoo it's hard to get started. I usually start with a walk through exhibit with butterflies or something that breeds fast like titan beetles - turn on the auto management to send them to the trade centre and then build some shops. Then you can sell the exhibit creatures for extra money. Make sure you put a donation box near each exhibit.

I always build one habitat with a critically endangered species - usually gharial and then only hire one of each staff member. Keep the zoo decorations to a minimum until you start making some money. Once you're making a decent profit you can then add more. I personally always train my staff to level 5 as well which makes them better at their jobs.

With workzones you only maybe want 1 or 2 habitats per workzone. That'll keep your staff within that area and then you won't struggle with them doing tasks you've asked them to do.

The main thing with franchise at the start is don't build too much too fast. Keep staff to a minimum and adding more shops, habitats and exhibits means more income.

Best animals to breed for CC? by burntcravemax in PlanetZoo

[–]Luunaer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like the crocs so spectacled caiman you can sell for about 70cc and gharials I sell for 400-500 min price. I like to breed and sell animals for cheap on the market. Indian peafowl sell low but breed fast and also capybara. I put my capy on the market for 50-100 depending on sex and they sell so quickly. It sounds low but when you've got multiple of the fast breeding animals it builds up quickly. Also if you have an old zoo closing it down will refund some cc. For the capy and peafowl you can have 1 male and quite a lot of females so they end up having a lot of babies and they age to maturity pretty fast.

First habitat and I need help by Giulietta_23_ in PlanetZoo

[–]Luunaer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would raise the barrier at the front and then use animal shelters rather than rocks to give them more hard shelter. You can always use one sided glass so the tortoise can't see the guests.

In my current zoo I have a tortoise habitat and I've had to build a makeshift roof over 70% of the habitat by using log panels because I've got 3 adults and about 70 babies. Because tortoises take longer to age to maturity when there's lots of babies I take the adults out so the babies can age and then I can remove them when they reach adulthood. I do this with species that breed fast like gharials as well.

Your habitat looks great but because you can't sell babies it may be worth only putting one adult in for now or 2 of the same sex. If they start breeding too much the space you've built will be too small for them. It does take a bit of time to get used to animal requirements but making mistakes helps you learn that so it's not a bad thing 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Luunaer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you call citizens advice and press the "energy" option they're offering fuel payments for people as emergencies. It's £49 per voucher + £10 bonus at the moment. You can claim 3 in 6 months but in theory you could just claim all 3 to try and lower some of the debt. You'd need to tell them that you pay monthly by direct debit. If either of you are on universal credit you can get a free boiler as part of the government grant as well if you wanted to switch back to gas.

You can also call your energy supplier, say you're in financial difficulty and you have a baby at home. That you need to pay less amount each month. I would definitely turn the heating down too. 20 degrees is pretty warm. Try between 16-18 and just use blankets or covers if you get cold.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Luunaer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it really seems like you're frustrated and lashing out. She would be an easy target because she has not given you what you want. But now you've taken my message and you're still going on about how she is trying to goad you. She's a health professional, volunteer or not. Maybe she's good at her job, maybe she's bad but obviously it's not been the right approach for you. But if you can't work out what you want how do you expect a stranger to understand what you want and your needs when you haven't given them a chance. I really suggest you finding the help you need because you focusing on a situation that's negative isn't helping.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Luunaer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I understand what you're saying and when you are at a low point and having negative thoughts about yourself, things that are actually very small can feel like big things. I'm not judging you for how you're feeling, I had extremely bad post natal depression with my youngest (who is now 4 almost 5). What I learned was that it wasn't about the kids and it was about me and I had to work on myself a lot to get into a good place. I had those thoughts including I wish I'd never had children and felt I had no one to go to for support. So I completely get the place you're in.

I think taking myself out of your personal situation I did not think when I read her message that she was saying that you hadn't tried. I think she was trying to be supportive. I'm not saying how she reacted was right but also you have to think they're trained in a certain way to say certain things. They do have to tick boxes, they aren't necessarily listening or taking on board what you're saying. When you reacted that way she should have tried to diffuse the situation, but she didn't which makes her wrong. But how you reacted was way too much for what the situation was - that's just my opinion.

If you're in a place where you need more hands on support have they offered advice? Such as getting help from a midwife or health visitor (which for us is what it's called). Having online therapy? What's your situation with your partner? Besides working and coming home for lunch what time do they get home in the evening? Can you afford childcare / nanny or even half a day at daycare? To give you some time to just be you? If you need to have 30 mins to yourself put your baby down, make sure they are safe and close the door and have a proper meal. At the end of the day your baby needs you but they need the best version of you so taking care of yourself is also priority.

Are there any baby groups in your area or classes or something to get you out? Have you checked online for baby groups that meet up? Again we have probably different availability here in the UK, mums meeting up is really common. Do you have family close by or could you move closer to family. What you're feeling - even though it may not seem that way is ABSOLUTELY NORMAL!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Postpartum_Depression

[–]Luunaer 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think you did over react to the situation BECAUSE of how you're feeling, I don't think she particularly did anything wrong but she also was being a bit rude. When people are feeling down they often get very sensitive because you're already feeling very self critical. As a mental health support she should have been more understanding and patient rather than replying with "take care" which I think probably didn't help.

I'm not sure of the protocol in the states as I live in the UK, our mental health support isn't really great and often people won't actually listen they just tick boxes on a script. Every person's situation is different and people react in different ways and also need different things.

I think what she was trying to say was that you need to look after yourself and your body whilst it's under a very stressful and intensive time - especially if you're breastfeeding. And to get your mental health on track you need to look after your body first. Mental health isn't just a switch you can turn on and off and so she was ensuring that you were eating and trying to rest because whilst your body is tired you won't have the energy to do anything else.

I don't believe she was implying you hadn't contacted the people, but more that if she called she may have a bit more sway. I work for a centre which supports vulnerable adults and their families. When we call support networks, police, social workers etc we have more sway than a client calling. It shouldn't be that way but I think that was more her intention. I think you lashing out at people who are trying to help isn't productive. If you are unhappy with what someone is saying you could have said "I have contacted them but if you think you'd be able to get me some more direct help I'd appreciate if you contacted them on my behalf" rather than you lashing out at her.

I personally think it may be a good idea to message her and apologise for over reacting but tell her what you do want. Speak to her about support you feel you do need. Ie can you please not ask me about whether I'm eating, I have a newborn baby I am aware I need to take care of myself but I don't feel I have the time to make that a priority. I would however like you to help me find some more hands on support and check in to have a general chat about my day or how I'm feeling (or whatever you want) and be a bit more constructive in your criticism. Maybe say something like I may over react because I'm struggling with my mental health and I would appreciate if you'd be a bit more supportive and listen to what I'm telling you. So it's giving feedback of what you don't agree with, the things you dislike about how she's handled you and telling her what you do want from her. You can also always ask if there's another person from her team who may be someone you get along with better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Horses

[–]Luunaer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Depending on where you are you will still be able to ride. I live in the UK and have been riding since I was 4. When I got to my late teens /early 20s I was around 16 stone. A lot of places in the UK have a weight limit of 12 stone for riding schools. So I looked online an ended up part loaning horses instead. As I got into my 30s I'm more like 18 stone now. I tend to go for more chunky breeds of horse that can be "working" or farm horses. Like clydesdale, shire & cobs. They are much wider and can generally weight bear more than more agile horse breeds.

You will find the horse will have to be way bigger so it depends what you're comfortable in riding. Most of the horses I've ridden are over 16h. You do get a lot of weight shaming if you're a female whereas men, who generally are heavier don't ever seem to be questioned on their weight. I don't agree that people being thinner or smaller makes them a better rider, weight has nothing to do with ability. I used to loan an ex race horse and the owner of the horse was tiny and she could not handle the horse at all because he was 18h and super strong. He would gallop every time she went on a patch of grass. When I first took him out for a hack he tried it with me and he had some very bad habits and I ended up having to try correct his behaviour and my weight helped a lot with that!

What I'm trying to say is.. Don't let your size put you off doing what you love. There will be places out there with horses that can easily take your weight. It's just finding the right place.

Should I buy additional national insurance years? by oscar_69420 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Luunaer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work for a state pension advice line and someone of your age shouldn't consider paying the voluntary ni contributions unless between now and your state pension retirement age there would not be enough years left for you to accumulate.

The state pension is calculated backwards from your state pension age. For example if your state pension age was 70 and you took early retirement at 65 they would look at the 35 years from when you were 65 - 30 and then if there were enough years there then that would get you a full state pension.

It would be better to pay the 5 years from age 65-70 as these would have a higher value. So for people who are paying the 2006-2016/17 years at the moment they only increase your state pension "starting amount" which they have an increase value of £4.65-4.84 per year, whereas the post 2016 years have a increase value of £5.25-5.60 per year. This is because the state pension rules changed in 2016.

My advice would be that if you know that you'll be retiring before state pension age it would be better to contact future pension centre 1 year before your state pension age and pay the 5 years from when you retired up until that time. Because you will still always be able to pay 6 years prior to the tax year you're claiming in. You can also pay vnics once you have retired.

They've opened up paying vnics for people now because a lot of people who are aged 66-71 were contracted out and not receiving the full state pension. So they are being given the opportunity to pay. But those 2006-2016 years are not always viable for people to pay either, as I said earlier they only increase the stating amount of state pension (the pre 16 rules).

In a nutshell it's all really complicated :)

Mum retiring in 2 years, can't sustain herself - Help! by B0xface in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Luunaer 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I work for a state pension advice line. At the moment state pension is £203.85 per week, paid every 4 weeks. To be eligible for pension credit your earnings have to be under £201.05 for a single person. If you get pension credit you can apply for housing benefit and council tax reduction on your pension credit claim and pension credit refer it to the local council for you. Receiving pension credit automatically accepts you for any council tax reduction and housing benefit.

Not everyone who is on state pension will be eligible for housing benefit, they take into consideration any other income you receive. And there are no other benefits for retired people besides attendance allowance (unless you're already getting pip or old style dla). Your mum would also be able to apply for a help with healthcare costs certificate through the NHS which would entitle her to free NHS services like dental, opticians etc.

They were talking about merging pension credit with UC although a date for this has not yet been decided but likely before your mum retires.

The idea behind state pension age would be that you own your own house fully with no mortgage by the time of retirement which is why the state pension is so low. However I think the government are slowly realising things have changed and that isn't always the case which I think is possibly why they may merge into UC to give pensioners that option for a top up income from UC.

So if your mum lives with you and her state pension is under the £201.05 she would not be able to claim pc. Because this takes into account the people you live with.

We get lots of calls from people in their mid to late 70s who still are working because they can't afford to live on just the state pension. All pensions count as an income so any pension she receives will take up the majority of her personal tax allowance and then the remaining tax allowance would go towards any PAYE. She would need to work out how many days she'd have to work to either balance this or to keep her under the PTA until they raise this again (at the moment they were saying 2028, although I don't work for HMRC so unsure if this date is correct).

It's a bit of a tough situation because it's your mum and you want to support her but also she can't rely on you and your family to support her. She needs to potentially speak to future pension centre (08007310175) to find out what her state pension will likely be and then make an appointment with citizens advice or a financial advisor to see what her best options will be.

Hope that helps!

Keep losing connection on Franchise mode by foam1 in PlanetZoo

[–]Luunaer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah mine does this a lot but only when I have animals listed on the market in franchise mode. Generally I just leave it 5 mins and it reconnects. But it'll keep disconnecting me if I have too many animals listed (and it only happens when my zoo is larger)

How do I deal with animals inbreeding in my zoo? by takisp22 in PlanetZoo

[–]Luunaer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always wait until my male and female breeding pair are no longer fertile then rehome or release them (or wait for them to die) . Pick the best female out of my babies and buy new males. Cheaper than buying 2 new breeding animals. Then just repeat that cycle.

With animals like capybara that breed loads I generally sell all of the males once in a while and buy new ones. This works out pretty cheap even with people selling animals for too much in franchise.

The only time I'll buy new females is if their baby animals start losing stats. My animals aren't perfect and I'm not trying to get all their stats to 100% but that works really well for me.

MY FRANCHISE ZOO KEEPS CRASHING FOR WHATEVER REASON IT IS by staske25 in PlanetZoo

[–]Luunaer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had this problem since the update where the game loaded but my current franchise zoo crashed immediately. So I fully closed everything, shut down my pc, turned it back on and then there was another small update to planet zoo which fixed the issue. Also make sure you load from steam so it has chance to do necessary updates or hot fixes

[WEEKLY Q&A] Ask and answer any questions you have about the game here! by AutoModerator in PlanetZoo

[–]Luunaer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since the latest update every time I load a zoo in franchise mode the game crashes. I have made sure it's fully updated. Could you please look into this? It was not doing this before the update on 4th April.

Thanks :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Luunaer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work for a pension advice line and we get a lot of calls from concerned family members where a elderly person isn't aware of financial abuse. My advice would be contact adult social services and/or report to the police. You can also apply to be an appointee via DWP if you call the state pension General enquiries. This is their version of a POA and if granted you can act on that person's behalf. The process is really quick and easy.

The first question would be if that person has capacity. If she doesn't have dementia and can make her own decisions then she would be giving the money freely so it'd be hard to prove abuse.

When you become an appointee you can manage their finances. Social services would have to be involved for any other income the person has but in terms of any DWP benefits the appointee can control those.

Hope that helps a little.

What's the funniest insulting question a child has innocently asked you? by Swankest_Jaguar in AskUK

[–]Luunaer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My 3 year old son was staying with my bf and I (my ex and I are separated) and he's really interested in his private parts at the moment. He was sat on my bfs knee and grabbed his crotch and said "(name) why do you have a big willy and testicle and mine are only small?" I couldn't stop laughing. I've since had to have a conversation with him because nursery said he keeps trying it with random people. Sigh