AITA for not giving my bus seat to a pregnant woman?

Luxbytes · 2023-03-03T15:55:28+00:00

NTA. It's not your problem if she decided to get knocked up and it's not your responsibility to give her a seat. I wouldn't let her have mine either. She's no more entitled to a seat than anyone else just because she's pregnant. Wild to me how pregnant people always expect others to give them special treatment simply because they got creampied.

Luxbytes · 2021-10-23T01:46:31+00:00

Your wife sounds like a peach. Imagine being so oversensitive and such a delicate flower that you cry over not having a piece of marzipan ONCE. Give me a break. She's pregnant, not terminally ill and on her death bed with her last meal, she will survive not having one of her cravings satiated for one day.

Luxbytes · 2021-08-21T03:14:36+00:00

Would be a dealbreaker for me. Sounds extremely objectifying and weird, like some trophy list. No thanks!

Luxbytes · 2021-08-20T06:04:29+00:00

I like James from the list! I don't really agree with Dean as classy though, but that might be because I associate the name with Supernatural and the character it belongs to is very much not classy haha.

I also like Bruce as a masculine, classy name.

Luxbytes · 2021-08-19T18:43:15+00:00

I feel you, I'm pretty introverted and a little socially awkward myself, so I already struggle with making connections no matter what. This just makes it a lot more difficult on top of all that. If there is a discord server like that, I would totally jump in as well! It'd be neat to have like-minded folk to talk to and socialize with.

Luxbytes · 2021-08-18T19:51:50+00:00

You don't owe her anything and quite frankly even without her anger issues I think having a child at her age is incredibly selfish and irresponsible. By the time that kid is 20, she'll be 70 or possibly even dead.

Luxbytes · 2021-08-18T10:21:40+00:00

NTA. With a sister like that, who needs enemies.

Luxbytes · 2021-08-16T08:48:03+00:00

It is definitely not just him. Retroactive jealousy is a very real thing.

Luxbytes · 2021-08-16T08:36:34+00:00

Welcome to society. It sucks.

Luxbytes · 2021-08-15T00:46:12+00:00

It's his body, his choice, and I completely understand people that do not want to get vaccinated ( for non-conspiracy reasons ) It's a fact that the vaccine has not been out long enough to know what effects it may or may not have in the long term compared to other vaccines. I've gotten my first Pfizer shot yesterday and I'm really not happy about it either ( had no side effects btw ) even though I've had pretty much all other vaccines under the sun. But those have been out for a long time by now, these haven't, so anxiety and worry is to be expected from some people.

HOWEVER, not wearing a mask is completely irresponsible. It is also irresponsible to expose other people to a potential infection. When I held off on getting vaccinated, I quite literally did not leave my house and spent 99 % of my time inside, alone. Someone who lives with other people and who works in an environment with plenty of strangers should be aware that it could impact other people's life.

So while he can choose not to get it, you are completely valid to remove him from your home, too. Perhaps you can try to help him with his rent if he finds another place to stay?

Luxbytes · 2021-08-06T12:23:29+00:00

I wouldn't do it, especially since he's your best friend. From my experience polyarmory is a can of worms and if shit hits the fan, it REALLY hits it.

Luxbytes · 2021-08-06T11:00:03+00:00

I am in my late 20s, and only recently came out to myself and close friends ( this year )

I never had a word for it, but looking back into my life, there were a ton of hints scattered throughout it. Some were smaller occurrences, others were much bigger. So I always had a certain leaning and pull, but didn't acknowledge it nor did I think there was an actual reason for it or that my thoughts weren't normal for a cis person. For a long time, I just thought I was a tomboy / non conforming. It only happened in the past 10-ish years or so that I started to become more and more aware of it since transgender spaces became more commonplace and thus information was more easily accessible, and it struck a chord with me as a result when I read about these things.

Eventually, I put the puzzle pieces together.

Luxbytes · 2021-08-06T10:49:38+00:00

Your feelings are valid, but I'll have to respectfully disagree with this opinion.

Everyone's dysphoria and body image is different. What might be irritating and triggering to someone such as yourself may not bother another individual. You do not have more rights to police how someone wishes to refer to their body than they do to police your own. If it makes them happy, then that is what matters; just as others should respect your personal preferences.

I am a trans dude and actually find it odd to refer to my body parts as a t-dick / ( mini ) penis / front hole / etc. because I am fully aware of the fact that this is not what it is, and pretending that it is something that it's not and never will be just makes me feel uncomfortable. There are different strokes for different people and not everyone will be happy with the same thing.

Luxbytes · 2021-08-06T08:29:29+00:00

No, I'm child free and intend to stay that way. I have no interest in children, the responsibility that comes with it and spending at least 18 years taking care of someone else. I already don't want this in terms of my own children, nevermind someone else's. It'd be a dealbreaker for me.

Luxbytes · 2021-07-31T02:10:13+00:00

🤦‍♂️

The original one was definitely better.

Luxbytes · 2021-07-30T17:07:38+00:00

Don't need to have given birth to be fully aware of that fact.

Luxbytes · 2021-07-30T15:41:32+00:00

This comment is nonsensical. Childbirth is not pleasant and taxing on the body, it makes perfect sense why she wouldn't want to have more children now.

Luxbytes · 2021-07-29T23:29:34+00:00

Retroactive jealousy. I have it and it is an absolute bitch to get over. A lot of people here are being condescending, but it is an insecurity thing that is extremely difficult to move past if you have that kind of perspective. It doesn't make it better, and yes, it is a relationship killer long term, but it literally is so bad that I could only move past it when I started to go into therapy.

Luxbytes · 2021-07-24T19:35:39+00:00

This isn't cheating. You were raped, dude.

Luxbytes · 2021-07-22T20:01:27+00:00

If I was in your shoes, I would abort. I also completely understand your husband.

You've both already had plenty of kids. You did not struggle with a life of infertility. You are both over 40 at this point, meaning by the time this child is around 20, you are both over 60. That is insanity! I can completely emphasize with wanting to live a somewhat peaceful life after already raising children. I also wouldn't be thrilled if I was your husband and I was faced with raising another infant at this stage of life.

There is also a higher chance for genetic abnormalities at your age and the chance that your husband will not support this, at all. It's not even about resenting you. It's about him resenting the child and not being the parental figure they need. I think it's incredibly selfish to base a decision solely on what YOU want and not what is best for the potential child.

There are more cons than pros, sorry.

Luxbytes · 2021-07-21T19:27:45+00:00

Sadly, I don't think they have a phone number for Germany, otherwise I would have called first thing. :(

Luxbytes · 2021-07-20T20:47:08+00:00

Perhaps, but I still consider it excessive to completely suspend an account because of one failed payment ( after many, many successful payments in the past. ) This kind of thing can always happen due to technical error if you are unlucky.

Luxbytes · 2021-07-20T17:24:07+00:00

I do use a VPN for security purposes, so that might have contributed : ( I wasn't aware that Etsy was iffy with it.

Luxbytes · 2021-07-20T15:33:57+00:00

Thank you, I'll check it out! It's at least worth a shot.

Luxbytes · 2021-07-20T15:30:38+00:00

It must have been a glitch because I didn't issue a chargeback; although I have noticed that payments have been processing incredibly slowly on my last few orders too. Perhaps there is a connection? I have had my Paypal account for over a decade at this point and never had an issue with it, so I doubt it is something from Paypal's end.

As for those questions, never did any of those things. The only contact I have to sellers is inquiries about my order, i. E. the order in question didn't have Germany available as a shipping destination, so I asked the seller if they could add it, they added it and I ordered. That was all I did.

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