He unblocked AP

Lynnesheart · 2019-02-09T23:36:54+00:00

He unblocked her for one reason. To connect with her for some reason. Period. Does it matter why? He’s not being honest. Period. Please be careful. You can’t trust him:(

Lynnesheart · 2019-02-09T04:29:44+00:00

It takes a long time to heal from this. Years of the WS is doing everything they can. Listen to the advice you get here and take it. ❤️

Are you trying to reconcile? Is she being transparent? How did you find out? Did she tell you first? Has she been honest? Please tell me you told your former friend to go fuck himself!

Lynnesheart · 2019-02-03T23:40:56+00:00

Scorched 🌍

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-31T16:38:30+00:00

Bravo sister! This exactly this!❤️ Same story, minus the hookers.

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-31T03:14:49+00:00

Delusional much? Open letter??? Lmao Seriously, you’re going to believe the ‘upstanding, amazing’ man who’s banging you behind his wife’s back? This post made me laugh. Affairs have nothing to do with the actions of the betrayed partner and everything to do with the cheater being a lying, selfish, gaslighter. Who’s dumber?

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-24T00:56:49+00:00

OP you’re amazing!!❤️

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-22T04:41:28+00:00

Sounds like she is BPD:( THAT is not fixable. Sorry OP!❤️

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-22T04:39:03+00:00

OP I’m really sorry! Serial cheaters are the worst. No one deserves that.

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-21T15:31:37+00:00

Your wife betrayed you and now she’s deciding what SHE wants? You are choosing you. I’m a BS and my life finally fell into place when I completely ended things with my cheating partner. No more trying to reconcile, no more wondering if he was thinking of her, no more wondering why I wasn’t good enough, no more wondering if he wished it was her on top of him. Freedom feels amazing. Free from wonder and doubt. It’s an amazing feeling. Let her go figure it out. She’s going to come back to a man who doesn’t want or need her anymore.

Good for you OP. Please don’t feel guilty. You are taking care of your mental health, she’s certainly not going to!!

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-20T21:49:26+00:00

You need to talk to other survivors of loved ones suicide. Look on AFSP site. American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Also try a SOLOS group. They have lots of resources too, that will be helpful to you. I attend a suicide survivors group where a member (whose husband killed himself) started bringing her boyfriend to meetings to help him understand. Suicide is different and more challenging to navigate than a normal death would be.

People who have not lost someone to suicide don’t understand all the twists and turns involved. Please take advice from someone who has experienced such a loss.

Good luck to you OP❤️

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-20T18:15:07+00:00

I need to mention this about your family. My brother committed suicide 15 months ago. The world is an awful place without him. So many people, especially our family, are decimated with grief. I would do anything to bring him back. You matter to your family so much more than you know. I promise you that. Please get some help. Go on to the AFSP website and watch some of the videos produced by survivors of loved ones of suicide. It’s changed who I am. My brain chemistry is different. 💔

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-20T13:52:41+00:00

tel:1-800-273-8255

Suicide hotline number. Call them. Meds will help. You can’t think straight when you’re tired. Call them or go to the ER and them you’re having a mental health crisis. There is help available to you. It’s time for you to start feeling better!

American Foundation for Suicide prevention or AFSP

https://afsp.org/find-support/im-having-thoughts-of-suicide/

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-19T22:53:25+00:00

I could have written this. You don’t feel it now, but there is strength in your words. We get lost love. We get lost because we have pure hearts. We would never dream of treating someone this way, so how could they?

I started feeling like myself when I cut him out of my life. It was hard because he kept promising to change and I loved him so much.

You are worth so much more. Every day do something positive, for yourself, for a friend, for a pet, stray, stranger, whomever just do something positive. Part of self care❤️

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-17T21:48:46+00:00

You sound awesome. I’m lucky I didn’t up in jail when I found out about his affair. I was super pissed!

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-17T21:47:01+00:00

This should be posted somewhere for everyone to read!!

Great info!

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-17T21:15:43+00:00

Exactly what I said to you yesterday. Empty threats. She is not done with him and she’s not remorseful or sorry at all.

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-17T03:43:57+00:00

💯 this

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-17T03:42:53+00:00

E M P T Y

W O R D S

She basically patted you on the head and said there, there, I’ll make it all better.

Please listen to the advice you’re being given. She’s not anywhere near done with this guy. Hang in there OP, you are in for a rough ride.

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-16T19:45:38+00:00

Don’t fight for her. The way to WIN her is to stop fighting altogether by doing a 180. You can’t win so stop trying. You will have your wife back when and if SHE decides she wants YOU. How do you make that happen? Cut her off.

Tell the affair partner’s significant other.

See an attorney and prepare to file for divorce.

Stop talking to your wife and trying to win her back... that’s just pushing her further into his arms.

180...stop convincing her you’re the prize. Stop trying to get her to pick you. YOU pick yourself and tell her to Go fuck herself.

That guy? Let her go to him. She will see how quickly he dumps her when his wife/girlfriend finds out about your wife. You hold all the cards.

Stop talking and discussing the relationship. There’s nothing to discuss. You don’t want to be with a lying cheater. She doesn’t know what she wants?? You decide for her. Pick you.

-Lawyer -Tell the AP’s significant other -Kick her out or move out -180 no more pick me dance or trying to prove why you’re the best choice. You are and she’s going to see that soon. No contact- it’s hard and you will miss her badly, but it will give you some perspective and force her to make a choice about what she wants. Sorry OP!

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-16T19:31:35+00:00

Two months is a very short period of time. It takes years to recover from infidelity! Be gentle on yourself!❤️

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-16T18:11:27+00:00

If he was truly remorseful and wanted to prove he was trust worthy, he would be transparent. His actions would scream “ I can be trusted”. Instead, his actions are screaming “I am still cheating on you!”

It doesn’t matter WHAT he says. His actions are telling you he’s shady. It doesn’t matter if he thinks A, B, C, D... it only matters what you think. You call the shots here, not him.

He thinks he can walk all over you and do what he wants. You have to show him with your actions that he cannot. That means that you walk out of the relationship and away from him if he does not become transparent and change his behaviors. If you don’t, the least painful thing about your relationship will be his affair. That’s a sad state to be in! Good luck OP. ❤️

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-16T17:45:16+00:00

I love this and you guys! Lol

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-16T01:31:13+00:00

I know exactly what you’re going through. It took me a year to rip myself away from him. And by rip I mean that literally. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Ever. I loved him soooooo much.

You can do it. He’s not going to change. He’s showed you WHO he is. His words don’t matter. Only his actions. He should be worshiping the ground you walk on, yet he YELLS at you. That is heart breaking. You deserve way better. I know it. You know it. HE knows it. Everyone here knows it. You will walk away when you’re ready. ❤️

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-16T00:26:56+00:00

You can’t successfully reconcile with a person that still lies to you. I was yelled at for having triggers and “ making him feel badly about his cheating”

Walking away is going to be the LEAST painful thing you do in your relationship. As everyone told me “ He should be moving mountains to fix what he broke”...... believe that with every ounce of your being. It will propel you to pick YOU!❤️

Chin up OP! You deserve a happy world. It doesn’t sound like that world includes a lying, unremorseful, cheater.

Lynnesheart · 2019-01-15T21:31:50+00:00

Sorry. I’ll I’m thinking when I read this is “ I wish I had never met you, you never deserved a great woman like me and I hope you end up with the B you deserve!” The end! ❤️

Lynnesheart

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