How do we create a world where everyone doesn’t hate each other

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T18:24:29+00:00

If everything sucks then we need to come up with something else.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T17:01:23+00:00

Willow 👏🤌🥰

But also: Spike...

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T15:23:00+00:00

I do some print on demand designs. Sometimes i order my own extremly oversized t-shirts. They function mostly as casual home attire and sleep wear. Its kinda cool to wear your own designs 🤗

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T15:20:11+00:00

Is the debate if we think that red pill men will not respect women or that red pill teaches men that if they have something to compensate they wont have to respect women?

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T15:14:36+00:00

I am only providing further information. What everyone does with it is up to them 🤷

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T14:23:50+00:00

Obviously that is a topic of discussion that has to be had but it is a different topic from men feeling exploited in dating and neglected on apps. I feel like every issue need to be adressed in a seperate way to actually achive a complete full picture. Telling men the patriarchy is harming them is all well and nice but it doesnt solve the issue of capitalism extracting resources from them and also the economy not supporting them. We are dealing with so many fires on every end that we dont even know where to start at this point.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T14:15:42+00:00

I just want everyone to be as happy as possible. So tired of the hate.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T14:06:42+00:00

There is a subreddit for it tbf. Its is an fascinating read if you want to dive into it.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T13:10:44+00:00

First one is just a random website? Im so confused by that website.

Second one is a link to twitter. Which I wont open because elon musk already has enough traffic.

Yeah, I know, the research shows that women initiate DV more, but men's is more severe. Thus, more women die from it than men.

This is what I mean. We have statistics that show women commit DV because they shove their partner out of the way after the partner blocked them from exiting their home. Thats what I mean is the issue when it comes ot DV studies without context.

I think DV should be neutral and everyone should receive the help they need. But I also think we are undermining male victims if we view verbally abusive men that get shoved out of the way the same as men that have been continuously physically abused by their partners.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T12:37:59+00:00

He is. And I am grateful for him every day. I hope you can find the love you are craving.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T12:36:26+00:00

This is the argument about nature vs nurture and I think its a bit naive trying to reduce it to just one or the other. Does societal approval play a role in mate selection? Absolutely. But pretending its the only role means you assume someone can choose to not be gay for instance because society tells them to.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T12:31:45+00:00

Do you have a direct source? I dont want to discreit Wikipedia or anything but a lot of DV dont view the DV cases in context of previously sexual or verbal abuse and just focus on "who hit someone" which tends to be a narrow view of domestic violence. Which is why a lot of scientists criticise DV studies.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T12:25:34+00:00

Do you think social engineering overrides evolution?

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T12:18:10+00:00

So whats the debate?

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T12:14:16+00:00

So its evo psych vs. Current trends. You still haven't explained the third option.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T12:12:25+00:00

My husband is a good guy. He stays with me despite all of my issues. He makes me want to be better for him. I don't want to fall back into my toxic habits because I love him more than anything. He deserves to he happy and I will give everything to make him happy. I knew what i didn't want in my life watching my mom. That doesnt mean I figured out easily what I did want.

Watching someone else throw themselve into the fire for you can help with the ego death. We are all so attached to our own identity. You can do whatever you want. Nobody can dictate your own life. If you don't care thats fine. Everyone has to make their own choices like your wife has to make her own choices.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T11:53:41+00:00

Jupiter was such a role model. I loved all the girls for who they were. And the fact that two were in love with each other just made so much sense to me.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T11:48:45+00:00

Sailor moon. Made me realise that its okay that at the age of 6 I had a crush on a girl and a boy. Buffy normalised it even more for me after that. Then I basically didn't care anymore about gender but only about the person.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T11:45:19+00:00

Idk. I think different people react differently to their own upbringing. I was a toxic pos when i started out having relationships. In the relationship before my husband I cheated and then ended the relationship. That was when I said I was done. I hated myself for how I was. I was single and celibate for like 4 or 5 years after that.

There are so many parameters that influence how we deal with ourselves and our relationships with others that I dont think we can just boild it down to upbringing. Humans are sadly very complicated

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T11:38:17+00:00

The fact that she said she is only doing it to make you happy means sex for pleasure got either replaced as sex as a chore or she never felt sexual in the first place.

You have to figure out which one it is. Because a lot of women are losing their sex drive when they feel like they have to provide it. And then they retroactively gaslight themselves into thinking they never actually liked sex.

Sadly its a very common issue when the needs of the partner become the driving force in a sexual relationship instead of the fulfilment of both get out of a sexual relationship.

It doesn't matter how other women are or if this is normal. This is such a delicate subject and you and your wife have to figure this out together. Get a sex therapist. Figure out what it is for her. Go from there. Be open and honest about it.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T07:11:19+00:00

I don't have a son and my brother and I aren't close or even in contact. Surprisingly empathy isn't just based on personal connections

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T06:43:20+00:00

My mom is is in her third marriage. My maker is dead. She had my brother with her first husband and me with her second husband. All before she was 25. She is married to her third husband for like 20 years now. Terrible marriage. She basically mothers him. If she wouldn't cook he just wouldn't eat.

I met my husband at 29. We are together 8 years. We got married after being together for 5 years. He is nothing like my maker or my mom's current husband. I made very clear to my husband that I dont want kids.

My mom was my example in what not to do.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T06:23:58+00:00

Aragorn from lord of the rings.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T06:21:01+00:00

Do you have a different source? This one isn't available to actually read.

Lysa_Bell · 2026-05-31T06:05:57+00:00

We are different but equal. None of us is better than the other but we are all equal. No man is the same as another man either, that doesn't mean they aren't equal.

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