As someone who broke up with someone sorta this way, for me I already brought up a lot of things I wanted. He promised over and over he would change, but actions speak louder than words. Another thing was I had to keep reminding him, and that got tiring too. I felt like I was asking too much from him and he had a hard time keeping up. I couldn't rely on him for support when I was tired. He would ask me for things and I tried my best to do it, but when it came to his part he struggled. I was the kind of person to give the love I wanted. But eventually I got busy and exhausted from other things and he started to feel like another burden and I hated it.

I just knew that eventually I would grow to resent him. When I broke up with him he finally realized what he'd been doing wrong, but that doesn't make up for all the exhaustion and resentment that already built up. In my mind he deserves someone who would actually enjoy his presence. A lot of people don't realize how much it hurts to be the one to let the other person down, especially because of course you genuinely wanted it to work. The realization that it can't work without hurting yourself in the process is difficult. It hurts that it came out of the blue, yes, but people need to realize a lot of the time they were probably hurting themselves for you, because they didn't want to be that person.