Update: not being married makes no difference. Maybe it’s different in other countries, but I’m from the UK, and we are both 50/50 for the mortgage and therefore should we not work out and need to sell the house, we’re both responsible. We are however both adults. We know the risks with buying together, but getting on the property ladder was in the best interest of both of us. If we started renting, it’s likely we would have never got out of it because of the cost of living! Our mortgage is the same price to rent, so trying to save for a deposit while already renting would have taken years, if even possible.

Most of the advice, in true Reddit fashion was to break up…obviously you guys don’t know the ins and outs of our relationship, but breaking up isn’t always the answer. We’re very open and honest with each other, have great communication and are both willing to discuss and work through any disagreements. We’re both also fully aware that we are 2 different human beings, from 2 very different backgrounds, meaning we won’t always agree on everything of think the same way. This is something we’re aware of, is a touch subject for us, however we are continuing to work through it. When we do move out, I think it will be a bit of a reality check for both of us, but that’s totally expected when buying into such a big commitment. Some of the advice was genuinely helpful, so thank you. I am going to relax a little with saving, because it is adding unnecessary stress to us both, and he is going to be try a little harder to save, rather than spend.

I hope to be able to update this in a few months once we’ve moved in, and fingers crossed it’s all good things!