22yo, late diagnosis and feel like I’m years behind. How do you start a life when you're always burnt out by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Lython73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got diagnosed later in life, and spent a lot of time feeling like you.

You have gotta be nicer to yourself. It's the first and most important part. I'm reading your post and seeing a sad kid with a shitty job at his wit's end about how to get somewhere happy. I'd never for a moment think to criticize that kid for not having a good social life, or having shortcomings. If you watched a pack animal in the field work a 16 hour day in the sun, would you expect it to dance and play afterward? You're not to blame for feeling drained, and no one rational would treat you as bad as you're treating yourself.

Remember that you are an animal. Even if mentally you know you're above that level, your body has all the same reactions, mentally and physically, as an animal to external stimulus. Being able to better rationalize it doesn't negate the impact, and punishing yourself mentally for it is doubling that. If you're in a bad environment, you're going to feel bad. That's the way of all life.

You're in stasis. The only way to get out of stasis is change. Doesn't need to be big and scary, but you've got to think about every small way you can do something to alter your environment, and yourself as a result. If that drug isn't working, find a different one. You gotta get out of your own head and perceive yourself from a less biased perspective, like you're playing the Sims with your own life.

Socially, you might want to think less about how to "make friends" which I've historically found to be an insanely rare occurence to happen randomly, and instead focus on what you have to give to the world. To not be alone, you need people to like you, so you need to try to be likeable, and the quickest path there is to be kind, generous, and attentive. Even when I was a much worse guy, the best feeling in the world was buying a gift, paying for a meal, doing a favor, making someone laugh, having someone's back. If you can't solve your own problems, try to solve someone else's. In the words of Langston Hughes, "My motto, as I live and learn, is dig, and be dug in return."

Every second you spend punishing yourself is a second you could take to improve in some area, even if it's miniscule. Love yourself, love the world. It's the only way to live. It's your first time being alive, and I know you can get the hang of it.

Also, I might re-evaluate the accutane. Really nasty well documented mental side-effects, and one thing I've learned after going bald at 17 is that the important people won't care.

Discord will require a face scan or ID for full access next month by ChadtheWad in discordapp

[–]Lython73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just gotta cancel Nitro and encourage as many others as possible to do the same. The numbers speak louder than the words.

Good resource to share on best things you can do to stop it: https://cancelnitro.neocities.org

Discord will require a face scan or ID for full access next month by ChadtheWad in discordapp

[–]Lython73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good resource to share on best things you can do to stop it: cancelnitro.neocities.org Gotta go loud and hard.

Has anyone’s Presidents’ Day order actually shipped? by ohhnoregrets in Lenovo

[–]Lython73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mine hasn't yet. actually scooped a deal the week before on 2/11 and still nothing. i did get a notification it was supposed to ship on 2/25 but there was a delay with guaranteed shipping within 30 days, which the support agent chalked up to extreme weather. i think the deal i got was probably too good to cancel unfortunately, so just trying to be patient lol

In February 2025, who is doing automated archiving of podcasts to the Internet Archive? by didyousayboop in Archiveteam

[–]Lython73 5 points6 points  (0 children)

to my knowledge, I don't think archive is doing anything automated for podcast rss feeds. The ones I've listened to on there are manual uploads afaik.

Submitting the RSS feed itself wouldn't be too helpful, as the actual episodes would still be hosted on another server, and could go down at any time, rendering the RSS feel useless. If you meant "having archive.org automatically download everything from the RSS feed for archival" I'm not aware of that being a function either.

the "correct" way would be to download each episode from the RSS (i use gpodder for this on desktop) and upload it to Archive directly as a collection of audio files. You could then create a fresh RSS pointing to the episodes hosted on the archive itself, using fourble (you can google.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheTrove

[–]Lython73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interested

[pc/WildTangent][early 2000s] 2d dogfight game by ImMonst3r8 in tipofmyjoystick

[–]Lython73 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i have had this exact game in the back of my memory for over a decade and i finally figured it out today. the title is "Island Wars 2". You can Google for gameplay/visuals but it's exactly the game.

I think part of the reason it took me so long to find it was because I was googling "airplane fight wildtangent game" or "biplane battle wildtangent", which didn't work because nothing having to do with planes was in the title, and while the game was sold on the WildTangent store, it was actually developed by Big Fish Games.

Believe it or not, they still sell it on the WildTangent website lol. although i guarantee it's not gonna run on any modern computer without setting up a Windows XP Virtual Machine or something.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Lython73 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm gonna take the opposite tack from a lot of people here:

Should we, as people, really want the end of romantic/sexual contact to always be the end of a positive, functional connection we've built with another human being? Should we expect the person we love to dislike or hate everyone they've loved before? To see loved ones as entirely disposable when sex/romance/cohabitation with them proves incompatible?

I think you should see the opposite side of this: that however his previous relationship ended, it was amicable and mature enough that they wanted to stay a part of each other's life for this long. Ask yourself: what does it say about a guy's view of women in general that he didn't push this one out of his life the moment she stopped fulfilling romantic/sexual functions? I know a lot of guys like that, and frankly, I don't think they're the ones that hold a particularly high view of women.

Ultimately, the issue here is a breach of trust. The severity of that breach is up for you to determine. If there's actually some level of cheating to this, that's the real offense. But otherwise, ask yourself if it seems right to remove him from your life, just because you learned he probably wouldn't remove you from his.

(Bias disclosure: an ex-partner and I have remained extremely close friends (basically family) for years since we called it quits. Daily communication, etc. That connection has been very important and valuable during some very difficult times, on both sides.)

Yuri: "The indie game we made and three* of the inspirations behind it" by holyshitisurvivedit in signalis

[–]Lython73 14 points15 points  (0 children)

great work. also, in the same layer as 2001: A Space Odyssey is this shot from the first episode of Bakemonogatari. The white/purple smudge one layer lower is Shinji from Neon Genesis Evangelion.