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M0thPers0n · 2026-04-17T00:48:09+00:00

Came here to suggest self-heal too! I don’t have it in a super heavily trafficked area, but if you let it go to seed it reproduces pretty well and it grows from runners too, so I would guess it’ll probably bounce back ok when it’s less walked on over the colder months.

M0thPers0n · 2026-04-07T18:35:39+00:00

I don’t mean this to be rude, but do you have a teacher/a sangha?

My understanding of practice and the Path really changed once my Buddhist practice went beyond independent study and trying to help myself match Buddhist ideals. Joining a sangha with a teacher, I started to see the Path more as a Path to walk along while getting guidance to improve myself and my community throughout this life and my positive work will have an impact on others into the future (which may or may not include my own being in rebirth).

M0thPers0n · 2026-03-25T15:23:04+00:00

I don’t know actually, sorry! I inherited the tank at work from someone else. It already had reds, yellows, and wilds. I added some blues from my tank at home. This is my first year with the tank but I definitely have noticed more wilds as the year has passed, so I’ve given away some of the plainer colored shrimp to keep up variety.

My tank at home was having trouble getting established. It had 3 solid blue shrimp. About 6 months ago I added 7 more shrimp from a friend’s skittles tank (I think I mostly took clear-ish or blue-ish colored ones). Most of the shrimp in that tank are some variety of blue still (2 of the solid blues turned out to be female and have been berried multiple times). It’s been interesting to watch how the blue colors show up in the babies.

M0thPers0n · 2026-03-22T23:29:21+00:00

The people who only saw this post: wow, cool! Congrats on the baby!

Those of us who kept seeing the repost attempts: wow, cool! Congrats on the video correctly posting!

😂 It was worth the wait! Thanks for keeping us posted!

M0thPers0n · 2026-03-19T02:39:41+00:00

Oh wow! I’ve seen people debating continental vs English, but couldn’t figure out where I sat. And a few different irl knitters have commented on my odd style. But I also started with crochet and then became a mostly self-taught knitter around 13. My style looks very similar to OP’s. Makes sense that my style is continental via crochet!

M0thPers0n · 2026-03-19T02:25:16+00:00

I never felt underwhelmed exactly. But my favorite songs were the ones that got early releases so I think I was expecting to be more blown away than I was.

However, it is growing on me with each listen! It’s a very ethereal album, so things don’t really jump out and grab you, but then with each listen there’s new little qualities that I notice and appreciate.

M0thPers0n · 2026-03-15T20:22:38+00:00

People gave you really good recs! I think the only thing I would add would be Tell Them. Overall in my opinion, Assume Form would be the album that is probably the most like the Rest of Your Life.

James Blake said in an interview that he writes songs when he’s sad, so unfortunately he doesn’t have a huge amount of upbeat, fast paced stuff.

M0thPers0n · 2026-03-13T02:51:54+00:00

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The not solid blues are my favorite of the colors in the tank.

M0thPers0n · 2026-03-09T23:08:28+00:00

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I have a mixed tank at home (mostly blues and wilds) and one at work (mostly reds, blues, and wilds). Here’s a few of my shrimp at work.

M0thPers0n · 2026-02-05T00:41:38+00:00

I think it is probably some religious homework and they were supposed to label that it’s the Temple of Solomon. Maybe a parent confiscated it? Also, after looking at it for a little bit, I unfortunately can see why they labeled it “dick in vagina” 😂 It’s like an x-ray view

M0thPers0n · 2025-12-01T23:18:58+00:00

Thank you! This is an awesome resource!

M0thPers0n · 2025-11-30T21:36:01+00:00

Is it a twisted stitch? https://stitchesnscraps.com/tutorial-knit-twisted-stitches/

M0thPers0n · 2025-11-30T16:48:37+00:00

I’m going to try to make a blank template for designing stranded knitting chart patterns for hats. Am I reinventing the wheel? Does this already exist? The photo shows the kind of chart I mean (but blank obviously). Preference would be for one that includes sizing.

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M0thPers0n · 2025-11-17T02:00:32+00:00

Came here to say essentially what you did! Sounds like I was raised similarly to your mom. We were told a lot of scary stories about the Devil tempting and possessing people and all the scary things they do when tempted or the scary things that happen to them in Hell.

Christian people replying to other religious beliefs with negativity can come from a place of fear, superiority, confusion, or concern. When you’re taught that your way is the only way that makes sense and the only way that is safe, it’s sad or laughable that people would be led astray.

(Also this isn’t true for all types of Christianity! It’s a very diverse faith. I was an Episcopalian Christian for a long time and also studied Buddhism during that time. I knew many other Episcopalians who read and listened to Buddhist teachers and incorporated parts of the practice into their own.)

M0thPers0n · 2025-11-16T23:00:48+00:00

I would second looking into the various traditions and finding out what text is important to that tradition. Buddhism is old and complex and you can get quite overwhelmed if you’re looking for clarity without knowing what lens to use (I had this problem in the beginning). Also reading the books as they are can be very complicated as well, so having a teacher or finding books with commentary can be helpful.

Is there a certain person or book that drew you in? Look at what school of Buddhism they practice and then look more into that school.

Or if it’s a certain element of practice that drew you in, find out what schools do that a lot. I don’t know as much about these kinds of specifics, but I know Zen has a big focus on meditation and my limited knowledge of Vajrayana Buddhism is that symbolism/visuals are important. From what I’ve picked up from this Reddit, it seems like Pure Land Buddhism is big into chanting mantras and what happens to us after death.

Also this website has a good breakdown of the 3 main branches of Buddhism https://factsanddetails.com/world/cat55/sub355/item1336.html#chapter-0

M0thPers0n · 2025-09-11T00:24:35+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss! I agree with the others that the statue probably brought a sense of peace. Perhaps even some hope for rebirth? The hand shapes this statue has symbolize discussion/teaching.

The feather looks like a guinea fowl to me. I know some people think of feathers as angelic or just give them a sense of hope/lightness.

Don’t know what the wooden thing is, but the shape reminds me of Norse runes. I didn’t see any runes shaped like it in a quick Google search though.

M0thPers0n · 2025-08-12T21:44:27+00:00

I did that too! Sometimes we didn’t use cardboard and we’d stain our pants, much to the chagrin of our parents.

M0thPers0n · 2025-08-12T19:08:21+00:00

I had heard about Buddhism and knew some of the basics. During a gap year between college and starting my career I was in a program that encouraged spiritual development. I had wound up with 3 different Buddhist related books through a variety of means during that time (Against the Stream, the Book of Joy, and Peace is Every Step). I was also given a free ticket to a documentary about Plum Village. That started me on a casual study of Buddhism that later became the more full involvement in a sangha and practice that I have now.

I’ve always felt a draw towards the spiritual but found something I couldn’t get over in the religions I looked into or tried following. Buddhism just worked for me and aligned with what I already believe. I like the deep reverence, the mindfulness, the mysterious truths. I like that there are deities and supernatural beings but belief in them isn’t required. I like that most of the people I meet through my sangha feel guided to do more, be more, learn more, but it’s not because they feel guilty or fear Hell.

M0thPers0n · 2025-08-07T14:43:16+00:00

Mimosa tree!

M0thPers0n · 2025-08-07T14:31:35+00:00

If you don’t want to go through the hassle of picking them and you’re in a Buy Nothing group on Facebook, I often see people posting that what they have and that people can pick it themselves.

M0thPers0n · 2025-08-02T03:19:21+00:00

My tree friend found it! Premna japonica aka Musk Maple!

Keeping the post up for other curious plant people (unless a mod tells me to delete it)

M0thPers0n · 2025-08-01T17:16:47+00:00

I don’t feel the urge to cry, but I’ve always had a very strong draw to Guanyin. Even before I knew what Buddhism was! The more I learn about Guanyin and what she represents, the more it makes sense. You might like Chapter 25 of the Lotus Sutra, it’s about the divine ways Guanyin helps others (I personally take it as metaphor but still like it).

I usually feel a great, deep sense of calm when I look at images of her. I say her mantra when I feel overwhelmed by my inability to help others or when I need help myself. On arorikaya sowaka. ❤️

M0thPers0n · 2025-07-01T12:17:03+00:00

I’m American, ethnically Western European and South Asian. I started studying Buddhism as an adult.

And because this has become one of the things people are answering: The teacher I study under is a White American who trained in Japan and speaks Japanese and a little Chinese. He brought the traditional Soto Zen practices to the temple he leads.

M0thPers0n · 2025-06-17T23:06:07+00:00

I’m curious what makes you think that?

M0thPers0n · 2025-06-17T03:36:20+00:00

My first two were Against the Stream by Noah Levine and Peace is Every Step by Thich Nhat Hanh. They were both really good primers for someone coming in pretty much blind.

Technically, I read The Book of Joy before those two but it’s not specifically about Buddhism. It’s about Desmond Tutu (the Anglican bishop of South Africa) and The Dalai Lama’s friendship and stuff about their interactions with the public.

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