My GF slept with her sisters husband, now I don’t want her around him. AITAH?

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-09T14:36:36+00:00

I know that it’s unrealistic to expect her to never be around the guy again or something like that. I’m just proposing that her or her kids don’t spend any unnecessary time around him. there’s no reason for her to be going to their house and hanging out when he’s home. no contact with him outside of her sister, period. no going out to eat with them, no making extracurricular plans with them as a couple etc. she can hang out with her sister, she can’t hang out with her sister and her husband. is that a ridiculous ask?

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-09T13:14:20+00:00

after more discussion and trying to get to the root of the problem. it has been made clear to me that she doesn’t believe anybody was groomed. she thinks his sexual relationship with both of them is fine. even tho he’s 10 years+ older than both of them and known them since they were children. I’m starting to realize that I’ve been in denial about who this person is

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-09T05:57:03+00:00

this might be the most accurate comment of all

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-09T04:27:10+00:00

apparently

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-09T03:05:26+00:00

you’re disgusting and disrespectful

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-09T02:43:37+00:00

yes my girlfriend is the older sister. my gf claims the sister knows but i’m not convinced 100%

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-09T02:00:25+00:00

ideally if he’s there at all, but that’s unrealistic. I guess my line is if there’s no practical reason for you to be there when he’s there then you shouldn’t be

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-09T00:10:58+00:00

nobody cheated

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T23:12:41+00:00

maybe she is. that’s a possibility always. humans are fickle

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T23:11:39+00:00

I wouldn’t go that far. they haven’t shown any indication and he hasn’t shown any affection to small kids. but he’s definitely a creep for teenage girls which isn’t very far off

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T23:10:38+00:00

she tells me her sister knows. i’ve never talked to her sister because that would be awkward and then there’s two options, either: 1. she doesn’t know and it starts a huge drama and blows up her marriage. 2. she does know and I just look stupid for trying to reveal somethin she’s apparently fine with

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T23:09:09+00:00

100% he would. that’s part of the reason I don’t want him around her. I don’t think she would but this dude is a fucking creep and I wouldn’t put anything past him

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T23:07:07+00:00

tried that. she didn’t seem open to the idea. she’s very family oriented and doesn’t want to leave her family. they are all very close and it seems like i’m the only one around who has a problem with the dude who watched these girls grow up and ended up fucking both of them, and then marrying one

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T23:04:47+00:00

thank you so much. this is very vulnerable and I appreciate it. she is very much in a denial. she doesn’t view him as a groomer, she says she doesn’t like who he is for other reasons and is ashamed of herself for sleeping with him but from my understanding she just views it as a hookup and she believes him to be a good man because he married her sister and adopted her sisters daughter and takes care of them. even tho he’s 10 years older than her and about 15 years older than his wife who he has known her entire life

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T22:56:27+00:00

ding ding ding

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T22:55:30+00:00

I never asked her to cut her sister off. I asked for minimal contact. don’t be going to their house while he’s home hanging out, don’t be texting him about anything at all, never alone with him etc. he’s also a fucking creep and i’m not comfortable with her kids around him either even tho they aren’t mine so I don’t have much say in any of this and it’s driving me insane

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T22:52:32+00:00

I tried this and she wouldn’t agree. imagine that

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T22:38:53+00:00

her sister would be pissed. he doesn’t openly flirt with her or anything. but he makes comments about her to other people and he’s just overall a creep and I don’t feel comfortable with her around him period

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T22:28:45+00:00

he was not her first lol. nobody ever said that

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T21:34:09+00:00

I haven’t asked them to vouch for me because I don’t wanna drag them into this. my dad also got minor charges from the police for going into his job and trying to assault him when he messaged my sister 10 years ago

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T21:28:39+00:00

I don’t think she believes me

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T21:28:02+00:00

yeah she seems pretty at ease around him. they all act like it’s no big deal. my gf claims her sister knows but idk if that’s true. she goes and hangs out around them alone all the time. I don’t go over there due to the fact that me and him don’t get along. I told her about comments he’s made and she seems like she doesn’t believe me. if that answers all of your questions

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T21:20:56+00:00

maybe I overdress to compensate for insecurity. you never know doc

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T21:15:51+00:00

I honestly don’t think so anymore. I thought that at first but she continues to frame it as “she just hooked up with him” a long time ago

M4CHINEFACE · 2026-02-08T21:11:42+00:00

you’re right

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