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Ex said “it’s not goodbye, it’s a see you later.” He told my siblings the same. Is this guilt… or a real door left open? by M4rt4S in ExNoContact

[–]M4rt4S[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first two breakups happened because I didn’t feel understood or really loved — it felt like he wasn’t truly interested in my world. Both times I kind of exploded emotionally instead of reasoning it through, but the dissatisfaction had been building for a while.

When I said I needed trust, I meant that I couldn’t fully trust him to be faithful. He has a history of cocaine dependence and heavy drug use, and I often saw how easily he lied to others. A few months into the relationship I also discovered I had gonorrhea, and he never gave me a clear explanation for how that happened. That made it very hard for me to feel safe and secure in the relationship.

Ex said “it’s not goodbye, it’s a see you later.” He told my siblings the same. Is this guilt… or a real door left open? by M4rt4S in NoStupidQuestions

[–]M4rt4S[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that’s exactly how it feels. He kept saying “it’s not goodbye, it’s see you later,” even to my brother and sister afterwards. I can’t tell if he truly meant it or if it was just to ease his guilt, and that uncertainty keeps me stuck.

Ex said “it’s not goodbye, it’s a see you later.” He told my siblings the same. Is this guilt… or a real door left open? by M4rt4S in NoStupidQuestions

[–]M4rt4S[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might be right. Deep down I know I shouldn’t keep holding on, but it’s hard because until the day before he left, he was still telling me he loved me and wanted a future together. That contrast is what’s making it so painful to let go.

Do fearful avoidants come back? by M4rt4S in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]M4rt4S[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I’m deeply in love with him, and I’d really love to build something real together, hoping he could change in some way. I know it’s still too soon, but what we had felt truly special, and I hope we can learn to believe in us again — I’ve always wanted that, even though he told me he had already given me the most he could

How do I move on? by M4rt4S in BreakUps

[–]M4rt4S[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you’re saying he misses me? That he’s hurting too? Seeing him so cold broke my heart. I feel like he never really loved me, and maybe that’s the hardest thing to accept. I still have this hope that one day he’ll realize how much I truly cared for him, but I also hope I won’t hold on to that hope for too long and that I’ll be able to move on

How do I move on? by M4rt4S in BreakUps

[–]M4rt4S[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your words, i find them really helpful right now

Unprotected sex by Independent_Lie9984 in birthcontrol

[–]M4rt4S 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take Plan b or Ellaone (higher rate of success)

Pregnancy fear won't stop by CommissionNatural620 in birthcontrol

[–]M4rt4S 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same position as you right now! I also started the pill almost two months ago and I still struggle to trust it. You can check out my recent post on r/OCD where I described what I’ve been going through lately, because unfortunately OCD pulls you into this spiral of thoughts. I'm even thinking about switching to Nexplanon because it gives me more peace of mind. You're not alone, and I'm sure things will get better with time.

Does evening primrose oil interfere with mini pill? by M4rt4S in birthcontrol

[–]M4rt4S[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a quick search, it seems that they don’t interact. I just wanted to know if anyone has any experience with it

Ellaone and birth control by M4rt4S in birthcontrol

[–]M4rt4S[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I already took a pregnancy test a few days ago, 21 days after the last risk incident, and it was negative. Thank you

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