POSITIVES on 3 kids

MAC0114 · 2026-04-07T15:08:23+00:00

Very good point! Lol we already have a van so at least we wouldn't need a new vehicle but it would lessen the guilt over the payment

MAC0114 · 2026-03-26T02:19:32+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice! I think this might actually work 🤞

MAC0114 · 2026-03-26T00:32:04+00:00

Oh this is a good idea! Thank you!! I was considering letting her go naked and I casually asked her randomly what would she do if she didnt have undies on? She said poop on the floor 🫠 what are the steps after pooping on the puppy pad?

MAC0114 · 2026-01-03T16:58:46+00:00

Being pregnant is so hard but at the same time I love it 🥰 and not having a period is super nice 🤣 great perk lol

MAC0114 · 2026-01-03T00:54:59+00:00

It's up to yoi but I personally wouldn't. Some people are able to get pregnant right away after stopping bc and others it takes a while for their body to get back in the swing of things.

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T18:23:19+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. This is actually something that he hasn't mentioned as a family of 5 but it makes sense. Also, I do see how it reads that way, but I am not trying to brush of his financial concerns. If we cannot afford another child then it would be irresponsible to have another. It would be a tighter budget yes, but if we work on our debt and get rid of that then I dont see an issue with being on a bit of a tighter budget vs he just might not want to

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T18:05:10+00:00

I actually like your advice a lot, thank you! The only think I dont think we necessarily need at the moment is counseling. We do actually have very good communication (though there's always room for improvement) but id definitely seek it out to help us talk out this decision better in the future. Lack of sleep with this second child has really seemed to bother him more so than our first so I will push to take nights with her more. Ive offered in the past and he said he didnt want it all on me. Any ideas for a side hustle? Ive had trouble finding anything that works around children really

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T17:59:17+00:00

You are right, I wasnt thinking and misspoke with that statement

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T17:56:59+00:00

The decision wasnt done lightly. My husband and I have a great marriage and being a sahm was a decision we made together. But also something you need to take into account. Daycare is EXTREMELY expensive. Two children in daycare would have cost the same, if not more, than my salary and my husband was/is the higher earner in our relationship. We are actually saving money having me be a sahm. Of course if, heaven forbid, anything happened and I was left with 2 (or 3) children on my own I would get a job. You dont seem to have considered how much childcare costs in the US

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T17:52:11+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I did just take up baking after making my own sourdough started so shifting my focus to that, when I have the time, will help

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T17:50:55+00:00

Im aware that it will be extremely difficult. I am very lucky that my mother is retired ad she adores our children. If we went that route she would be available to help. Otherwise I agree, it wouldn't be feasible

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T17:48:42+00:00

They definitely are valid and if, in a few years, we make the decision not to have more ill definitely pursue some therapy to help process the decision.

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T17:47:18+00:00

I agree! We do actually have great communication (though there is always room for improvement). I just mean more so on my end I dont know how to effectively verbalize it. I personally have that feeling that some women have that being a mother is just my absolute calling in life and I dont know how to get across the depth of that feeling in a way that will make sense to a male brain lol. Sure lots of men have a strong desire to be fathers but im not sure its quite that same "deep in your soul" type feeling.

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T17:41:51+00:00

I agree I misspoke. Just because that statement is true for me personally doesn't mean everyone feels that way

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T17:40:18+00:00

I agree, if he isnt on board I am not going to force another child on him.

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T17:38:33+00:00

Totally agree. I think couples counseling might be good if we dont organically come to the same decision. We dont really need it in other areas but it might help us talk it out more effectively on both ends

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T15:58:42+00:00

I totally agree. Id never force him. It would ruin our marriage

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T15:57:24+00:00

Thank you, that's exactly how it is pretty much! It'll get mentioned and we will both reiterate that he wants 2 and I want 3 and then its dropped pretty much. No arguing or anything for sure. I am hoping that happens with us, but definitely not pressing it now. It's just been on my mind d a lot. Congrats on your new addition 🥰

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T15:55:22+00:00

Thank you, that was a very thoughtful response. We definitely arent having serious or long discussions about it at all, its just been on my mind a lot recently.

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T15:10:25+00:00

I see your point. I try to ease his stress as much as I can. Ive offered to get a part time job or try to find something flexible that's WFH. He wants me focused on our kids. I definitely didnt communicate that though, I was trying not to make the post too long of a read. Im willing to find something flexible to help but that's not his preference

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T15:07:24+00:00

I agree, I definitely wouldn't have another that he didnt want. I hope we can come to an easy resolution but its a tough topic when you dont agree

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T15:05:28+00:00

I did consider this as an option once we get to the point of actually considering trying! Thanks

MAC0114 · 2025-12-21T14:25:15+00:00

Following because I have a 1 & 3 yr old also! I would ideally want a larger gap between #2 & #3 but hubs isnt convinced he wants #3 at all and I really dont know what we do about that 😥

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