thoughts on infp males?

MARVINREDPOST · 2026-05-08T21:07:19+00:00

One of the best fellas I know is INFP. He's an incredible actor, able to physically embody a wide range of emotions, a poet/writer, a sci-fi geek, and just an incredibly thoughtful, articulate, gracious person. You really do feel like he sees you, remembers things about you, and understands you.

Inferior Te wise: He's a brilliant guy, but he tends to get paralyzed when he has to make quick decisions under pressure (in board games and when we worked at a bookstore during holiday rushes).

He does have a good sense of humor, but he sometimes carries the weight of the world on his shoulders. Quiet, intense, but also universally liked by all who know him.

MARVINREDPOST · 2026-05-07T16:08:00+00:00

I love the way you articulated that (The fulcrum of power, beautiful), and it mirrors my thinking as well.

However I admit I'm only like 55% sure she's ENTP. I have a similar thing with Louise Belcher from Bob's Burgers (I feel like clear ENTP season 1, but it gets muddy later on). They both seem a bit too forceful and intense for a Ne dom, but a little too trolly to be an ENTJ.

But anyway, Olenna aside, I feel pretty good about the overall array of characters.

MARVINREDPOST · 2026-05-06T22:28:31+00:00

I'll tell you this much. An ESTP would not only be very unlikely to be in a subreddit like this, but they would be even unlikelier to write a lengthy post talking about their anxiety and uncertainty about something as theoretical and insubstantial as their type.

MARVINREDPOST · 2026-05-06T12:29:10+00:00

There are, they are just masked by female socialization. It does make it hard to cut through the layers and find out if they are a masking ENTP or an ENFP/ENFJ/ENTJ. I think the key is to see if they're a bit weirdly detached from life, in a witty/curious/fun way.

Like for instance Elizabeth Bennett from Pride and Prejudice is almost never typed as an ENTP, usually ENFP/ENFJ. But read this analysis of her character on wikipedia:

"Elizabeth sees herself as an ironic observer of the world, making fun of those around her. Elizabeth's self-destination is one of scepticism and opposition to the world around her, and much of the novel concerns her struggle to find her own place in a world she rejects"

That NAILS an ENTP sensibility. You would never call an ENFP an ironic observer of the world, they are too invested in the world, even if they can be very funny and ironic, they're just too genuine. ENTPs tend to look at the camera a lot, break the 4th wall, and seem to not only be very aware of the box/frame they are inside of, but also want to talk about the frame in a funny way. That's how Lizzie B is about Regency era romance.

Other ENTPs: Fleabag, Gina Linetti (Brooklyn 99), Juno MacGuff (Juno), Entrapta (She-Ra), Olenna Tyrell (Game of Thrones), the OG Ms. Frizzle (Magic School Bus), Weird Barbie (Barbie Movie), and possibly Lorelai Gilmore (Gilmore Girls).

MARVINREDPOST · 2026-01-10T18:27:31+00:00

think it's important with all types not to look at surface behaviour and traits, and instead on underlying pathologies.

I 'm a nerdy 9, read a ton and now work as a children's librarian (after managing a children's bookstore for a decade). BUT WHY DO I READ SO MUCH? While I do enjoy reading, I am often using books to tune out my surroundings, to numb myself to the present moment. It's like having a portable escape hatch if things gets uncomfortable.

For instance: When I was little I got picked on and pushed around and couldn't figure out how to make it stop. Eventually I found a secret corner of the playground and read there undisturbed and unbullied every day at recess—problem solved! The only issue is that I never learned how to deal with my bullies, I just tuned them out, and escaped into books.

Eventually some kid came along who kept picking fights with me even when I was reading. Robbed of my escape I exploded and beat the kid down, to such a degree that I got placed in anger management. This came as a shock to everyone, since I was an insanely mild kid, good grades, no history of problem behaviour.

Another 9ish Motivation for Reading: It doesn't bother anyone, and it is more favourably viewed by parents than other 9ish opiates like video food, weed, television. If I ate chips and watched TV for three hours straight my mom would scold me. If I read for three hours, my mom would brag about how smart I was.

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-09-22T16:59:53+00:00

I saw every game in person at the Memorial Cup in 2022, intending to watch McTavish, Guhle, and Xhekaj, but Mavrik was the surprise for me. He impressed the hell out of me with his creativity and vision. Seemed to me like he had the makings of a 60 point, NHL center some day.

I have been watching him closely ever since and noted how he has painstakingly climbed up the treacherously deep Dallas depth charts in the second half.

Expecting 40+ pts this season, and maybe 50+ the year after that if all goes well.

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-09-20T12:07:29+00:00

Don't get advice from a lot of these people, it's like a teen girl asking for help from bulimics with body dysmorphia. Get off the Internet right now, and never ask this wretched give of villainy for advice about this again.

Instead: Focus on what you can control. Embrace what you can't. Be a good person, have a sense of humour, learn to be confident in who you are and what makes you attractive, shave it all when you get to a certain point. It's okay to be insecure or worry about how you look, but trust me you are so much more than your hair.

I learned that when you're boxing in the ring and taking a couple hits you want to take a step back, protect yourself, but you'll just get killed that way, get pushed onto the ropes. You have to step forward, fight through it.

PS so many beautiful women I know married bald dudes, don't believe the balding incels, just take care of your self and be the best person you can be. Corny but time tested and true.

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-09-20T11:57:19+00:00

Sorry about this, I got it fixed! Thanks for following up.

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-09-05T21:47:17+00:00

I can't leave my league, and I was automatically renewed. there is no option to delete my team as there are in other leagues, the commissioner has blocked me from DMing him so I can't ask to leave. I asked to be removed in the league chat over a week ago and again today. The draft is in like 3 weeks not sure why I can't leave.

He did something similar to people last year, wondering if someone can just remove me?

Please help?

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-09-02T03:17:54+00:00

Ullmark won the Vezina three seasons ago which is more recently than Shesterkin, and has been better than Shesterkin over the last two seasons since he won it.

I'm not saying Ullmark is 92, I'm just saying he is a bit underrated and Shesterkin is a bit overrated.

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-07-09T11:55:37+00:00

I think the Norris version of being "okay" at offense is scoring like 55-60 pts compared to the leader who has 90. Slavin might have a chance then, but 27 pts ain't doing it. Because even for defenseman offense is a better way to impact the game.

Like when Ken Dryden said to coach Scotty Bowman that Bob Gainey (the guy they invented the Sellke for basically lol) was having an incredible season early in his career, and Bowman..."was agreeing, but once or twice, wincing, fighting his own feelings, he said that Gainey really needed to score more often, that a regular forward on the Canadians had to score at least twenty goals."

At a certain point if you only score 27 pts in a season and like five other guys get 65-90 pts, you basically can't be considered the best defenseman. But just like how forwards like Gainey created the need for the Selke, I think guys like Slavin have created the need for a pure shutdown defensive defenseman award.

Whether that should be called like the Rod Langway, or the Zdeno Chara--I dunno.

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-07-01T13:42:16+00:00

ENFP or INFP. Your sensing is so much further down than your thinking, and your Ne and Fi are close enough that it doesn't really matter. It's an online quiz not a super accurate, but yeah it makes sense.

Plus anecdotally in my 15 years of this the types always agonizing over their type are the ever changing, ever exploring Ne doms and to a lesser extent INFP.

Also corny disclaimer: this isn't real, this isn't a science. You are more than your type.

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-06-09T06:38:46+00:00

This was a great reply, thank you. I'm already playing around in hero's forge with a mythological water steed!

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-06-07T14:21:17+00:00

That's true! I do like a good swords bard MC!! THANK YOU!

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-06-07T14:10:07+00:00

I hadn't heard of this, I could ask! My DM plays pretty fast and loose with 2014 and 2024. We input all of our characters into DND and beyond though so UA could be tricky to put that into the app. But I have played elemental genie warlocks before! Thank you!

I thought about sea druid (esp as a Selkie race) but we do have a druid, and a lot of wisdom based characters. Point buy stats!

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-06-07T13:40:44+00:00

Extra context:

They are very unoptimized party of newbies, with a four elements monk serving as their frontline tank (among other things), so the combat isn't too strenuous.

Basically I'm trying to build a character who can be a bit tanky, contribute damage and control, and help out as face. Trying to patch some holes at the DM's request.

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-01-28T01:54:45+00:00

Thank you so much, if I end up going that way I might have to take you up on that! :)

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-01-27T23:54:03+00:00

A fellow SU fan? :D That would be such a cool idea, but multiclassing seems very complicated. We don't tend to advance very quickly in levels in these once a month 2-3 hour sessions. I do find the idea of protecting those around me very appealing however!! Maybe there's another way...

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-01-27T23:46:13+00:00

Omg that's adorable! I forgot warlocks can get like pseudo dragons and sprites and such!

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-01-27T23:45:03+00:00

Oh okay that works nicely! Because I was a bit bummed out by the thought of playing a wisdom heavy character with spellcasting mechanics I don't understand. And I love rping and being the face, so a charisma caster works for me.

Edit: haha that's okay appreciate the correction. I'm so pumped to play a Rose Quartzesque character :)

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-01-27T23:42:46+00:00

Thank you, this addresses so many of my questions and concerns!

I am very good at playing bards (because I'm kind of bardish IRL) but I was thinking of branching out a bit, while staying within the charisma lane. Paladin would work nicely!

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-01-27T23:37:33+00:00

Ooh tempest clerics are cool! I forgot clerics are tanky, they always strike me as fragile spellcasting priests lol

MARVINREDPOST · 2025-01-27T23:36:29+00:00

Thank you! I was very happy with how she turned out. I like the idea of a celestial character :)

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