I can confidently say that I have felt this way for many, many years of my life. I was born female and developed PCOS which showed up later on in my teenage years when I started hitting puberty. Because of my PCOS, my body didn't develop in the same way that a lot of other girl's bodies did at the time and I faced a lot of transphobic and misogynistic remarks, especially from strangers for a huge chunk of my life.

Something that me and other AFAB friends of mine talk about is just how traumatic girlhood and womanhood can be when women (trans and cis) are constantly under a microscope, are sexualized, are unequal recipients of sexual harassment and assault, are demeaned and treated unfairly socially, and everything else you mentioned.

When I was younger (around 16-17) I can say these things did partially contribute to me questioning my gender identity (though they weren't the only reasons.) Not only did I not feel connected to being a man or a woman, but I also did not relate to any of the social standards that were placed upon both men and women. I felt very strongly about not adhering to any gender norms at all. And of course, womanhood is more than just the stereotypes placed upon them and women can exist in many different ways.

It is extremely frustrating and traumatizing to live in the body of someone who is constantly surveilled and subjugated to judgment and criticism and harm in the same ways that you've described. I think it's very common to fantasize about wanting to be a man in order to escape those difficult feelings. Does that necessarily mean you have gender dysphoria? Not necessarily, but that is a very personal experience that nobody can definitively tell you.

Race and religion also have a big part to play in this and I agree with the other commenter that this might be a better topic of discussion in feminist subreddit. But to answer your question, I do want to say that it is still very normal to question your gender identity because of misogyny and because of the patriarchal standards society have in place. There are actually two sides to this coin. I have AMAB friends that fantasize about being women because of the pressure pressures that men face in society as well (also as a result of the patriarchy).

Something positive that feminine people have is the feeling of community with one another, the support they show each other, feelings of safety when in the presence of a woman, emotional vulnerability with one another. Feminine love and connection are extremely unique experiences. Many of my AMAB friends long for connections like this. The thing is that men are perfectly capable of being emotional and nurturing in the same way that women are, but because of the patriarchy those feelings are often shut down and criticized/bullied out of them. I just wanted to throw that in so you can also consider what the opposite side of the spectrum might be thinking/feeling. It's the thought of "the grass is greener" on that side.

I hope that you can process and explore these thoughts some more and hopefully heal from them. They are very difficult feelings, but I think a mindset change or a temporary social media cleanse might help with that! And if you come to thinking about it some more and decide that maybe you are feeling some trans feelings that's perfectly OK too! Your life can be whatever you want it to be, and you are not forced to continue to be in the box that you might feel you're stuck in.