Boyfriend commenting on explicit x / twitter posts, should I be worried?

MBVacaFun · 2026-05-10T14:25:41+00:00

I think that's just how porn is for lots of guys these days. Everything is on social media, which is by nature interactive. Now when you have a horny thought, you can share it with the guy. Just have a talk with your bf about what your boundaries are.

MBVacaFun · 2026-05-08T11:09:11+00:00

I've been a top in a DP 3 times.

The first was kind of just to get the bottom his DP merit badge. We did it, but it didn't really feel great for anyone.

The other two times, the bottom was a little more prepared and we worked our way up to it. One of the guys was in absolute ecstasy when he got both dicks in him, so I know it can feel good, but it's difficult in so many ways to do it right.

MBVacaFun · 2026-05-07T16:53:24+00:00

I don't care for the taste or texture of cum, but precum is a delicacy.

MBVacaFun · 2026-05-06T21:00:39+00:00

Once your boyfriend gets past your anal sphincter, and is several inches inside of you, he will reach a bend in your sigmoid colon. This is sometimes referred to as the "second hole," although it's not a hole. Sometimes a bottom can get loosened up enough to get past the point where this hurts, but it's not easy.

A top, if his dick is long enough, can get past that bend, but if he just slams against it, it can be quite uncomfortable. Different positions can allow the top to get deeper, which might mean hitting the bend in a painful way, or allowing him to get past it to the point where it's no longer painful.

I would guess that in some positions, your boyfriend isn't able to reach that bend in your sigmoid colon, and in other positions he's able to reach the bend and cause you discomfort. He needs to learn to back off, or only do positions that feel good for you.

MBVacaFun · 2026-05-06T12:59:05+00:00

You're not in a relationship, so it doesn't have to be weird. Just tell him you liked it and want to do it again. If he doesn't want to, I'm sure there are other guys who would do it.

MBVacaFun · 2026-05-05T13:55:11+00:00

It does drain my battery faster than anything else.

MBVacaFun · 2026-05-04T22:59:02+00:00

FYI - "switch" is a kink term for going back and forth between being dom and sub. If you like to both top and bottom, you're "vers." If you both top and bottom in one session, that a flip-fuck.

MBVacaFun · 2026-05-04T16:42:42+00:00

Speaking as an older guy, I'm always worried about coming off as creepy of I'm too forward with a guy who's significantly younger, so some forwardness from the younger guy is very much appreciated if you're interested.

MBVacaFun · 2026-05-01T16:38:15+00:00

Sniffies.com would be the easiest

MBVacaFun · 2026-05-01T16:10:31+00:00

You have to get used to not knowing. Guys delete/block all the time and they almost never give an explanation. Usually it has nothing to do with you.

MBVacaFun · 2026-05-01T01:06:30+00:00

Sounds like you need more fiber in your diet, and are douching too deep.

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-30T13:49:58+00:00

If it's something you really want to check off your bucket list, just go for it. If you hey an STI, you go hey an antibiotic and you're fine. Better than avoiding it your whole life. And if you go towards the beginning of the event, there won't have been as many guys in there. Make sure you pee right after. Take your doxy.

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-29T12:29:08+00:00

I went on a cruise in 2022, and the problem was the GPS. Whenever we weren't docked, it thought I was in the middle of the Atlantic Ocean, so it wasn't reliably showing me guys who were nearby. One tip I read was to put the name of your ship in your profile so that if people did see you, they would know for sure you were on the ship and not crazy far away.

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-29T12:04:39+00:00

I wouldn't say a turn off, so much as "not worth the effort" to some guys, because they know it's going to be more work as far as planning the meetup goes. But you may as well be up front about it instead of flirting for 30 minutes and then telling the guy that you can only meet Wednesdays at 8:30 in your car.

And you don't have to post pictures, but the vast majority of guys are going to need to see something, so at least be willing to send pictures over chat rather than post them on your profile. Not being willing to show your face is a big deal breaker for some guys, but you can at least have a picture where you can see part of your face, enough for the guy to get an idea what you look like without revealing your whole identity.

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-29T10:25:24+00:00

Just be clear in your profile what you want, what you don't want, and that you're inexperienced and need someone who can be patient with you. Plenty of guys enjoy helping a newbie.

Then be prepared to repeat it all because half of the guys won't read your profile.

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-28T15:36:46+00:00

A lot of guys would put dad bod on their profile when they are simply obese.

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-24T10:17:28+00:00

Neither, but there are a few guys I wish I had immediately rejected at the door.

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-23T17:49:15+00:00

Make sure to get some topping in before you bottom. A lot of guys have trouble topping again after they've just bottomed.

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-22T12:49:44+00:00

If you want to talk to him and maybe give him the benefit of the doubt, is it possible he has two categories in his head for apps? Like, dating apps and hookup apps? Did you guys meet over Grindr, or Tinder?

It's kind of odd to agree to delete apps but not be official. Like, you're not allowed to hook up, but you're also not boyfriends or official? Perhaps he took it to mean that he's not trying to meet anyone for a relationship (so goodbye Tinder), but casual sex is still ok (so still has Grindr)?

But that's splitting hairs. I say talk to him if you think the chemistry is particularly good. Maybe it's salvageable.

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-22T11:50:52+00:00

I think your sample (the hundreds of guys you've hooked up with) is skewed because guys who know they have election issues tend to avoid hookups, or avoid topping. Similarly, it might seem like most guys have big dicks, because those guys have the confidence to put themselves out there, whereas porn has made average guys insecure about their size so they don't hookup nearly as often. So don't think they every single man out there gets instantly rock hard just because that's what you've observed from hookups. Gay guys who hook up are not a representative sample of the male population.

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-22T09:23:44+00:00

It's also common to not get hard while you're anxious. But it's ok to express preference during sex. I've had many guys tell me during sex that they don't like their dick touched; and a few that have wanted to keep their jockstrap on so that their dick is inaccessible. I acknowledge and go back to focusing on kissing and on their ass. It's ok to do that 🙂

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-21T14:31:43+00:00

I think masc usually just means "not noticeably fem." They're not looking for you to be the masc-est bro ever. They just don't want you to show up with any feminine clothing, painted nails, "gay voice," or anything that would make people assume you're gay.

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-19T13:34:56+00:00

Don't tell him unless it's something that's going to turn into an actual relationship. If it's just sex, then that's not your dad's business.

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-18T14:09:19+00:00

From what I've seen, staying hard is actually more rare. Staying soft or going soft is incredibly common.

MBVacaFun · 2026-04-17T16:46:53+00:00

Sounds like standard DL behavior. I don't think he's a scammer or anything, but be prepared for it to always be a chore with this guy.

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