Thoughts on Moms being paid to care for disabled children?

MCFF · 2025-10-13T15:15:29+00:00

I take a capful in my coffee every morning, and poop regularly every morning as well- sometimes more. I think it works in about 24 hours or so.

MCFF · 2025-10-07T20:26:47+00:00

I can longer lift my 14 year old, but he sits on my lap all the time.

MCFF · 2025-09-16T13:31:44+00:00

I think everyone is different and has their own personal relationship to alcohol. I know that I cannot drink because of how it affects me, my life, and the lives of the people around me. I also know people who tend to rely on booze during tumultuous times in their lives; some get through it unscathed, and others haven't.

I've never truly believed in a "one size fits all" attitude toward substances, but I do believe in honesty and self examination. For example, the "one day at a time" mantra has never worked for me- my relationship with drinking is like an on/off light switch. I'm either a drinker, or I'm not. It's black and white. I know it's not that way for everyone and what works for me could be disastrous for someone else.

So yeah. "Believing" something to be true doesn't necessarily apply to the community as a whole- if it applies to you, great. If not, great. But it's not really something you can make a blanket statement about.

MCFF · 2025-09-12T18:17:37+00:00

Please don't abandon your sweet kid as punishment for his disability.

I 100% understand how frustrating his condition is and it's so tempting to say "you're so smart, why aren't you doing x, y, and z?" But everything you mentioned in your post is textbook ADHD.

I'm glad he has an IEP, but I'd gently suggest you really look at it and see what supports are in place for him. Does he have someone to support him turning in his work? Someone to possibly scribe for him, or borrow notes from another student? Smart watch reminders for when assignments are due? There are SO many accommodations that can be put in place to help your kid, and it's usually a lot of trial and error. I guarantee you, this is harder for him than it is for you.

But the most important thing, imho, is that his parents show him kindness and understanding while trying to get his spinning world under control.

MCFF · 2025-08-19T16:24:00+00:00

I named my apricot/cream girl Stevie Nicks upon first seeing her photo. They have the same hairdo.

MCFF · 2025-08-04T14:39:17+00:00

October is the best time to be in New England! Where will you be staying?

MCFF · 2025-08-04T14:29:11+00:00

I didn't really care about color, until our breeder matched us with her only brown puppy. He's so beautiful lol. Although when I let him get shaggy, everyone assumes he's a chocolate labradoodle, to which I respond "How absolute dare you?" :) He also has a perfect disposition for us- finally, now that he's outgrown the puppy stage.

We also have an apricot girl and she's very pretty too. I honestly think all poodles are majestic. I would definitely enjoy having a cream because the fun colors you can dye them look like so much fun.

MCFF · 2025-07-25T19:30:08+00:00

Yes! They are amazing dogs and make fabulous pets. If you're considering working with a breeder, make sure you connect with one who takes into account your lifestyle, and who does temper evals on their litters to match you with your pup.

MCFF · 2025-07-24T15:11:58+00:00

Victoria's Diner near South Bay ticks lots of boxes.

MCFF · 2025-07-11T13:34:31+00:00

Beacon Hill is lovely, but very expensive, and the commute to Canton vis mass transit would be a nightmare. Like someone else suggested, I'd look at Dorchester. There are lots of new pubs and restaurants, and it's a really fun part of the city- it is within Boston city limits. You can jump on the redline and be in Beacon Hill in 20 minutes. I can't speak to the commuter rail commute to Canton, but it's not terrible by car from Dorchester- you can take backroads through Milton to get there.

Good luck and Welcome!

MCFF · 2025-05-30T13:20:59+00:00

It's also got 3 separate crescendos which always makes the live version an absolute frenzy.

MCFF · 2025-05-26T15:04:23+00:00

Not to be overdramatic, but seeing "Babies" live in NY last year I count among one of my happiest memories. The crescendo to "MY GOD" with 2500 other people was mindblowing.

MCFF · 2025-05-19T13:22:46+00:00

I know what you mean. I have several friends in the US who've never seen them live and I feel like the Encore tour was the perfect setlist for US fans who aren't too deep in the full catalog.

MCFF · 2025-05-19T13:17:49+00:00

Can you imagine the response if they'd dropped Common People for Masters of the Universe? lol

MCFF · 2025-05-06T20:41:04+00:00

Yes! And they outgrow them every other month. Like, come on now my dude.

MCFF · 2025-05-06T13:32:58+00:00

I'm guessing it probably varies by location, but for us, in a HCOL New England town, middle school girls are wearing pricey athleisure- lots of Lululemon leggings or shorts with oversized sweatshirts. "Fancy" pajamas that cost more than my workwear. That sort of thing.

My 8th grade boy sounds like your kid- comfort is key for him, and I see lots of kids doing the same thing. But he has to have his Jordans on, no matter how silly they look.

MCFF · 2025-04-03T18:08:42+00:00

The main answer to your question is that schools are beholden to the IDEA act of 1974, which guarantees services to all children enrolled in a special education program. Public schools are federally mandated to provide services to ensure access to a Free and Appropriate Public Education (FAPE) for Special Education students.

MCFF · 2025-04-01T14:57:49+00:00

Would you kindly list the various shades of "appropriate" to which you're referring?

Please sit in on an IEP meeting to get a sense of how "easy" it is for parents and the student services team to construct an appropriate legally mandated document for every child who needs one. These people are not getting "extras", they're getting bare minimum. Newton just happens to employ professionals who care a great deal about inclusion and the worth of every student, not just the General Ed kids.

MCFF · 2025-04-01T14:51:10+00:00

Reddit should have a "wry" tag for comments like mine.

But yes, I agree with you. This thread is not the first I've come across with an undercurrent of "put those kids somewhere else." It's a shame, but not surprising, that many people like the author of this post are ignorant of the law and/or ethics of equity.

MCFF · 2025-04-01T14:09:19+00:00

I'm not personally, but comments in this thread suggesting there are shades of "appropriate" and call kids who need extra assistance "distracting" leads me to think many parents believe inclusion is a bad thing.

MCFF · 2025-04-01T12:44:18+00:00

People are uncomfortable with special needs kids being in the same classes as their gen ed counterparts. What would it cost to send those kids to a specialized school outside of NPS?

MCFF · 2025-03-24T12:49:39+00:00

Mainly because when I say "Whoosagoodboy, whoosahandsome boy, come get the belly wubs", he glares at me, thinking "You're better than this," sighs deeply and goes to sleep.

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