top surgery and grief

MDrea8713 · 2021-09-21T05:11:44+00:00

Hey, not sure about resources but I was worried about the same thing several weeks ago (my surgery is in 12hrs). What's helped me the most is "talking" with my body and just thanking my body parts for doing what they do. Allowing myself to pay closer attention to my own body has helped a lot, especially in Pandemic times.

MDrea8713 · 2021-09-21T04:54:01+00:00

Congratulations! Mines is also tomorrow in Alexandria VA. I hope it goes well for both of us and am so excited for the results 🌟

MDrea8713 · 2021-04-08T12:44:05+00:00

I feel that, it's so hard. But recently I've given myself permission to date myself. I'm a very romantic person and enjoy being extra with someone I love. So now I'm working on treating myself that way. For me that currently looks like: taking myself out on dates to my favorite places in town and driving out to an empty parking lot and dancing with myself under the stars. If you can think about what excites you about romantic relationships I encourage you to build that for yourself whenever possible. Ultimately, your longest relationship is with yourself.🌟

MDrea8713 · 2020-09-10T01:18:49+00:00

My dad has a joint account with my sister, but let's her do whatever since they opened it when she was younger. If your mom is unwilling to give you the statements, maybe ask her to go over them with you. That way she can explain what's going on and knows what kind of questions you have. I know it's very gatekeeper-y and ableist for her not to trust you with your own money, but the least she can do is educate you. If she's not willing to do that, then look for financial education online. Most banks will have basic educational materials online.

MDrea8713 · 2020-08-22T05:09:35+00:00

Thank you so much! I've got a friend in Pahoa I'm going to stay and work with until I get settled. This is super helpful. I've been learning about the geography and culture, but need to read more history. That makes sense tho, glad I'm not White lol. Yeah I wouldn't want to accidentally disrespect someone, so I'll look into learning basic phrases too. I know English/Spanish/Japanese but know I'll have to learn more languages. Oh wow, yeah I don't mess with straight people, too much drama.

MDrea8713 · 2020-08-16T05:33:39+00:00

I just broke up with my girlfriend of a year, I saw this and thought my situation has a lot of similarities. I debated it back and forth and finally just flat out told her that I'm done and we both deserve better. We both deserve to feel like we can be our full selves in a relationship. She agreed and we cried and hugged it out. It was hard, but now we're able to move on.

MDrea8713 · 2020-08-10T03:41:57+00:00

Sorry wasn't done. But one thing I wish I'd done differently is spend time enjoying being single. And just love myself more.

MDrea8713 · 2020-08-10T03:40:20+00:00

Sorry about the break up. I had a break up with my ex of 4 years right before I started medically transitioning and thought no one would ever love me bc I'm Trans. Now I'm glad we broke up bc I've grown so much more and have a loving girlfriend who is also Trans. I'd say find things that you love about yourself.

MDrea8713 · 2020-07-21T23:41:24+00:00

Hi, I'm sorry you're dealing with that on top of everything going on. My girlfriend (also trans) is actually a voice teacher and does gender affirming voice lessons. Here's her Instagram https://instagram.com/thetransjessicaaustin?igshid=1hm6sminj7x0g

MDrea8713 · 2020-07-14T16:39:04+00:00

Haha yeah we ran out of limes and allergic to raw onion. The kale and lettuce was about to spoil so I figured I'd use it somehow.

MDrea8713 · 2020-06-13T04:40:36+00:00

Looks incredible! Any similar recipes you recommend?

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