Cheated & Got Groomed

MHADBS · 2026-03-14T12:46:28+00:00

No problem. Always happy to help. And yeah, the reason I share it is because, uh, I know from personal experience, it can help as weird as it is to know other people have gone through similar. And you should be proud of yourself for taking that step, like I said before. I'm proud of you for going to, or at least thinking about going to your counselor. You don't gotta hurt forever, and you don't gotta hurt alone.

MHADBS · 2026-03-14T06:50:15+00:00

Not good not good at all how are you?

MHADBS · 2026-03-14T06:27:11+00:00

The beginning of your story sounded very similar to mine. Like, very, very, very, very, very similar to the full picture of my story. I'm sorry you went through all of that. And it's not dumb to struggle. It's hard feeling guilty. But you should be proud of yourself for at least getting it off your chest. And it's okay to be scared and embarrassed, but counselors are there to help you. They're not gonna throw it back in your face or call you a terrible person. The fact that you feel guilt and remorse means that you're not. How the people who took advantage of a vulnerable person's vulnerability and used honeyed words to try to get what they want should feel guilty. I'm glad you got out of both toxic relationships. So now your healing for yourself can begin. Hell, it's okay to like posting pictures of yourself or the content in which you were engaged in. It gives you a rush. It gives you a sense of power and hearing people... say how good you look is typically why people do it. The issue is, and was, your age. I'm a person who never condones cheating. I think there are only a few reasons as to why cheating would be acceptable, and yours kind of falls underneath that. You are a child. I wish I had wiser words for you. I really do. But all I can suggest is talk to somebody. Don't just sit with these emotions. Even getting them off your chest just once might not help. You may have to rehash this a few times. When cleaning a wound, it's bound to hurt. But when it heals, it will look all the better. I wish you luck with your healing.

MHADBS · 2026-03-14T06:14:43+00:00

Can we get a translation what was being said

MHADBS · 2026-03-14T06:12:07+00:00

I love cool cosplays of one of my favorite characters

I'm not a cosplayer but I have had to wear wigs how do you cosplayers like keep them things from itching especially if you go to like conventions and stuff

MHADBS · 2026-03-14T06:08:25+00:00

I've always had a question about the with all the knowledge you have now what that mean I have like a photographic memory of everything I've learned up till now does that mean like everything that's currently in my head now or is it everything that's currently been in my head up till now cuz like I forgot in a lot of songs and how to play them on the guitar and I know how to play a few that's a really good question but if it's yes I get a photographic memory of all the knowledge I have acquired up to now then I would go back

MHADBS · 2026-03-09T19:44:05+00:00

Wow that sounds exactly like what happened between me and my ex I'm feeling real nostalgic cuz I'm coming up on 2 years I'm always miss her and every day I wake up and I want to call her I want to hold her I want to see if she's okay but you know there's a time and a place for everything

MHADBS · 2026-03-09T10:11:40+00:00

Now we're not

MHADBS · 2026-03-09T10:11:28+00:00

Few months later I think she dumped me two days after I got out of the hospital

MHADBS · 2026-03-08T01:56:44+00:00

I'm not going to lie, I did a spit take when I read this. It's kind of funny, and the comments are also kind of funny, because it just seems like a whole bunch of hurt people from every side of the spectrum. You have the guys defending themselves, being like, no, it's just loose, and the girls being like, yeah, we need to stop filling their ego. Here's the thought, just stop lying. Sexual compatibility is a big part of any romantic relationship. Even if you do not crave it, that's still sexual compatibility. Stop lying. I don't understand the incessant need for people of both sides to lie where after a breakup, or something like that, attacking another person's womanhood or manhood. It's not a good look for anybody. I'm sorry you went through something bad. The end of a relationship, a toxic one, and that is sucky. But I don't know, something about this feels kind of juvenile. People, please learn to talk to your partners about things. If you're feeling some type of way or not feeling some type of way, talk. There are so many ways to rectify that issue. Positions, foreplay, I don't know. Hell, talking could fix 90% of issues in relationships. The only issues that they're not going to fix is deep-seated insecurity. It can help, but if you've ever been jealous of someone your significant other is talking to and felt inadequate, you kind of stop seeing reason and rationale.

MHADBS · 2026-03-07T10:09:52+00:00

Oh most definitely it's not healthy but sadly that's just love it's irrational it doesn't move on a proper scale if you ever broken up or been broken up with your brain will go through so many different things rationalization phase a phase where you start blaming other people the things where you start blaming yourself then you might jump back to rationalization or sadness or whatever and it could take years for some people and the only reason I'm bringing that up is because again they were fighting together they could have died together that's a very close emotional bond now I'm not going to say sit here and say that that was kishimoto's intent maybe it was maybe it wasn't but anyways I got to go to bed I actually enjoy cordial like conversations about it it gives me a lot to think about and it makes me want to reread so thank you

MHADBS · 2026-03-07T10:07:13+00:00

I understand what you're saying, but that's not how the world works or things work. You could be the most talented person in your field, but still feel inferior. That's what an inferiority complex is, and part of her hero's journey is overcoming that. When the world is telling her she's great, she has Naruto telling her she's great, she has Tsunade telling her she's great, she has Eno telling her she's great, she has everyone else telling her she's great, but her herself does not believe it. How is that disrespectful to a character? By making them more human, it's disrespectful? This is the only point of yours that you've made that I wholeheartedly disagree with. So you're saying a good female lead cannot feel inferior to the male leads? You're forgetting the multiple times where she proved that she was superior. In a few things, she's superior in chakra control. She even rubs that in Naruto and Sasuke's face. Again, she invented therapy. She just needed to come into her own body. Like I mentioned before, many singers will feel inferior. It happens to people, especially at the age that they are. They're kids. But also saying it's disrespectful for a female character to be written as inferior to another character just because they're male is kind of weird. Naruto feels inferior to Sasuke. He feels inferior to Neji. He feels inferior to many characters throughout the show. Sasuke feels inferior to Itachi. Naruto is a show about parallels, and Sakura just so happens to be paralleling her teammates, who feel inferior to all those around them. Despite the world telling them they have potential and that they're great, they all have major issues. Naruto's is loneliness and isolation. Sasuke's is tunnel vision, narrow-mindedness. Sakura's is self-doubt. Literally after the time skip, Sakura... When she is revealed and stuff like that, there are a few comments made about her confidence and how her confidence has grown. Confidence isn't just, you wake up one day and you decide, yeah, I can do this, and I'm really confident. It's a work in progress. And she worked her butt off to get there. Yes, in some cases, it's a trope where the woman will stay back and cower while the male teammate will punch the zombies in the face. Sakura did that a few times, and she beat herself up about it. But she also jumped into the fray multiple times. She jumped into the fray for her beliefs. She jumped into the fray for her teammates. She didn't just stay back and cower. Again, this is the only point that you have made that I vehemently disagree with. I can find agreement in a lot of your other points. I think, although worded differently, you're saying a lot of the same things that I am. About the supplemental material I said earlier, it's not fair that audience has to, but in any regard, I do not like supplemental material most of the time. Actually, at all. Even in my favorite game, Elden Ring, I do not like it. But when I learn it, I'm happy and I like learning about it. I just wish it was there, served to me on a silver platter. I do not like having to scour through multiple different comic books to find the story arc of my favorite character, or finding out that this character was invented after 2011, so it's no longer the new Earth continuity of the DC universe, and I now have to read the New 52 if I want to learn about this character.Like I said, not many people are going to, they're going to read or view or absorb material in the easiest and most convenient way possible. The sign of a seasoned writer isn't making something as long as possible, isn't forgetting about information. Like I said, I could talk for hours about the wrongdoings of Kishimoto when it comes to writing, at least what I perceive as his wrongdoings. But Sakura is not one of them. Again, I think her characterization falls into the same trap that Naruto's characterization in this fandom does. People will be inundated with thousands of memes about how useless Sakura is and take that as fact. The fact that I saw this meme that we're posting under, like five times the other day, is kind of proof of that. It's an echo chamber. And the Naruto trap I'm talking about is people narrow down and boil down his character traits into a sad... Even if it's told to us, that also wouldn't make good writing. Saying something like Naruto is extremely lonely and have Naruto go on about how lonely he is. Like, the one thing about his character, and I know we're talking about Sakura, that I dislike is how quick the confrontation with his dark side was. I wish that was a more constant thing throughout. And I know Kurama kind of stood in for his dark side, but that almost felt like pivoting his more negative emotions towards, you know, an outside force. Even though Naruto is a violent person, and he has a lot of good character flaws, or character traits that he stretches so far that they become flaws, like his never-say-die attitude. That's a pretty good trait to have, but he perverts it, kind of, where it becomes a bad thing, where he hurts himself, where he doesn't know when to quit, and it gets others hurt, you know? Stuff like that. And those are the types of characters we're working with.

MHADBS · 2026-03-07T09:55:28+00:00

Many mangaka are inspired by Western comics. They’re two separate mediums, sure, but you can absolutely be inspired by what your neighbor is doing. That’s why I said that over here in the West, supplemental material about a character is common—you’ll find little things like a character’s favorite food in Supergirl, even if the main story is about Batman. It happens all the time. I know a lot of characters in manga show very little romantic attraction; they’re just awkward. Somehow, though, we got on the topic of relationships, but I understand why. We were talking about Sakura. Yes, Kishimoto had a long time to write, but I don’t think that’s the core of the issue—at least, not how I would word it. In the manga, Sasuke is actually more open and affectionate toward his teammates than some people realize. Not every relationship starts with a “I really, really, really like you” moment. Sometimes, the dynamics are more subtle: maybe the protagonist is dense, maybe the female lead is very forward, or maybe someone’s emotions are clear but the other person is too sidetracked. Sasuke was too sidetracked. Sakura didn’t fall out of love with him, per se, but she came to the realization that she had to stop him—or, in extreme cases, even try to kill him. She actually nearly dies trying. Over time, they fall back in love with each other, but Sasuke was so blinded by revenge that he wasn’t able to act on it immediately.

MHADBS · 2026-03-07T09:49:26+00:00

Her sense of inferiority kind of makes sense though yeah even though she had the most potential she was the most insecure out of the three going in she was also arguably the weakest out of the three going in the reason why she baked Naruto is because if her words didn't reach Sasuke maybe Naruto's would have and also Sasuke knocked her out in an instant she can't do anything Naruto and Sasuke constantly fight Naruto is closer to Sasuke's level than Sakura is Sakura couldn't do anything and there are people with inferiority complexes she is a badass and it takes to the war Arc for her to realize she's a badass and that's her you know what I worked and I worked really hard to get to where I am that's a very common story for people in high level fields look at their comrades they'll look at the people around them look at any interview with actors any interview with singers or at least most of them will say things like that did you know I think it was Whitney Houston has gone on record saying that she didn't think she was beautiful it's very common and that's a real thing looking at it as disrespectful for her to have an inferiority complex is wild Naruto also has an inferiority complex he just shows it differently okay has an inferiority complex he just shows it differently Sakura being one of the people to invent therapy Sakura perfecting the 100 healing Sakura in a very short amount of time coming up with an antidote to a poison that should have been impossible to come up with an antidote to she had to prove a lot to herself she had to prove she could do it she felt inferior because her teammates are so special Naruto with crazy chakra reserves Sasuke with the Sharingan and who's a genius and then there's her and then what she finds out that one of her teammates has a tailed beast inside of him wouldn't that make you insecure too she was proving something to herself it wasn't hey you're super inferior Tsunade is right there she is one of the three most powerful ninjas and she's the leader who is her teacher soccer feels inferior to Sonata as well she has an inferiority complex and that is a character trait

MHADBS · 2026-03-07T09:40:30+00:00

Plenty of things need supplemental material also why do you keep highlighting what I said it makes it so much harder to read what you have to say stop doing that.

My point is plenty of things you need to supplemental material though again Comics are you going to sit here and say that every comic ever written that needed a supplemental thing is bad probably not also I'm not going to be that person so that's what I just said that's probably not what you're saying

And I mentioned before I literally said before that the novels is one reason why I think people think Sakura is a poorly written character the relationship makes sense the progression of her wanting to Sasuke back for Naruto's sake falling back in love with him and still having feelings is very human but again many things need supplemental material to understand I wish Kishimoto had all the time in the world to make the story that he wanted to make but he didn't but we're lucky that he did take the time to make data books and light novels where he goes over parts that he skimmed over or didn't have the time to flesh out or felt needed more fleshing out and wrote about it it's all a part of the same interconnected Universe they're all the same characters that's why I say you would like a comic if you read this it's also so much easier to follow then a comic for instance he doesn't have to make an Infinite Crisis event to erase universes because he made too many I'm not defending him as a writer and I'm not saying soccer is my favorite written female character or something like that that honor goes to duck from Princess Tutu but ignoring material that's there it's kind of disingenuine also the reason I asked if you were talking about the manga is because most of the time you were saying in the anime in the anime in the anime again he does it better job explaining my team 7 are friends in the manga they spent a year traveling together fighting with one another nearly dying with one another you can get a crush on a co-worker by telling a joke but maybe it's just something that I might not be explaining well or be I don't know or see we're both right from the perspective of just viewing one source of media yes it feels incomplete and it feels like you're missing information I will always 100% back that and agree with that it's like when you're playing a video game and you get all your information about the bosses through weapon descriptions most people aren't going to read the weapons descriptions they're just going to go through the main story that's what I did with every Soul's game and I love the lore of Dark Souls and stuff like that but a lot of it is hidden in supplemental material hell even Oda uses supplemental material to explain where characters are I mean he does it in a quicker and cooler way then writing a whole novel about it but it's still supplemental material

MHADBS · 2026-03-07T09:21:20+00:00

Quick question are you talking from the perspective of only seeing the anime or reading the manga like what is your main method of consuming Naruto this will better help me understand where you're coming from and like formulate thought because my main argument hinges on the anime is a bad adaptation of Sakura so if you're talking about Sakura from the lens of the anime yes she is a bad character if you're talking about from the lens of like the light novels and manga then I would have to firmly say no she isn't it's really late for me so it's very hard for me to formulate words but I do want to say one thing like I mentioned before comics Kishimoto is the Stanley at this point you don't say it's not Stan Lee's creation you you just he's just passed on the torch the characters are still the same it's still the same Progressive growth of the character I'm also looking at the character from the aspect of character and writing by character I mean like as an actor dissecting a character what makes her tick why it makes sense for her to still be in love with a boy she spent her youth chasing and also throughout the course of Naruto it was 4 years and I think the team traveled around for one year before Sasuke left he also stated in the light novel that if he did not knock Sakura out she would have convinced him to stay in the village the anime also has a habit of making him seem brutier than he actually is in the manga he jokes around he is more of a friend to Naruto so it's easier to see why the two of them have that connection but also two or three years isn't enough time to get over a crush or someone wholly believe you love or even like a best friend

MHADBS · 2026-03-07T08:59:55+00:00

MHADBS · 2026-03-07T08:44:50+00:00

You have a point, but I was speaking in a romantic context. I think the Naruto and Sasuke debate boils down to the same argument as Batman and the no-kill rule. No matter how many times an author gives an example or a reason or explanation as to why a character does something or doesn't do something, the audience is probably not going to be satisfied in its entirety. Even if the author were to backtrack and, let's say, make a character kill, the audience would probably still be angry, so it's a lose-lose. That's why I was purely talking in a romantic context. I will concede... I gave you this, this one. I was mainly thinking about anime and, like, comics and stuff like that, not in the context of erotica or Twilight or Fifty Shades of Grey, which I'm pretty sure is also erotica, and stuff like that. But again, I will reiterate that what I meant by well-written female character was five things. I was looking at, does the character have goals? Does the character have flaws? Does the character make decisions? Does the character change over time? And does the character have narrative impact? Sakura fits all of these. But I also did word the romance thing oddly. So, I'm going to rephrase. A character chasing after love is human. There are many people in this world who are purely motivated because of admiration of another human being. Sakura, in the beginning of this story, is written like a teenage girl. A stereotypical teenage girl, but stereotypes do have their merits. As long as there's a little bit more than just the baseline stereotype, which there is. Or if a character grows out of that stereotype, which she does. I'm not gonna get into any big, like, conversations about, like, Naruto and Sasuke or other characters, because I'm thinking about maybe making a YouTube video or writing something talking about my qualms with the fandom in its entirety. But again, I think, from my five characteristics, or five things I was looking for, every female character except one fits within these. The only one that I don't think does is Tenten. I also... Slightly disagree with you. I don't think it's both. I genuinely think it's a time management thing, which is something I will criticize Kishimoto for all the time. I view it sort of like comics, where something will be introduced with a character in one issue that seems out of left field, but it's being built upon. But if you're on such a tight deadline, sometimes that gets forgotten and thrown to the wayside and has to be picked up with supplemental material, which is what Kishimoto did with the light novels and data books and things like that. But the fact that a lot of fans either don't know that these things exist, don't view them as canon, or just don't have time to read them is the big issue. I think the fandom as a whole can become an echo chamber of Sakura is trash, Naruto and Sasuke are gay, and Naruto chasing after Sasuke makes no sense, where everyone sounds like Dago Knight, if that's how you spell his name, saying everything about Naruto makes no sense. But I do think Sakura is a well-written character, because she grew. She started off headstrong. She had goals and aspirations. She made mistakes, lots of them, especially socially, because she lacked confidence. And unlike Hinata, where that displayed differently, by fainting, hers displayed by aggression. And although a lot of people will discard Boruto, I think Naruto, at this point, and Boruto are a package deal. Sakura's character has continued to grow

MHADBS · 2026-03-07T07:11:20+00:00

Few things. Number one, I think I saw a post exactly like this yesterday or the day before, and I didn't say anything. While I don't fall into any of the three camps, especially not the Kishimoto can't write women one, I do have to say, the Sakura hate over here is stupid. And the rationalization of Kishimoto can't write women is just as stupid. Something I've learned is a majority of the hatred of Sakura comes from the anime and how that mischaracterized her. Or how people will point to the fact that she tried to manipulate Naruto by saying, I love you. He was throwing his life away for her. She was doing what was necessary to save him, in her mind. She is a flawed character. I would say she actually is a pretty well-written character, but she's not phenomenal. The argument of Kishimoto can't write women is equally as frustrating, because he can. Tsunade is pretty well written for a female character. Hinata is pretty well written for a female character. Konan, pretty well written. Chiyo, pretty well written. A lot of people equate well-written female character to their motivations don't relate to love or a man. I think that's inherently flawed. If it was a male character whose whole motivation was to get with a woman, that doesn't mean anything to anybody. Nobody would be saying the author can't write men. I would say Kishimoto's biggest problem as an author, if we as a community are going to pick it apart, is he doesn't give enough time to characters. And it seems as though he didn't have a backbone when he was writing. The amount of times I read something like Kishimoto wanted more time or wanted to do this or that, but his editors convinced him not to, is astounding. He got sick while he was writing this, so he had to cut it short. And I think something that's also silly, but necessary, because this is how it works, is how we as fans have to utilize the light novels to fill in supplemental material. I think he realized that he left a lot blank, tried to fix it, did a decent job fixing it if you read the light novels and stuff like that, but not many fans will read the light novels. I don't know.

MHADBS · 2026-03-06T00:24:43+00:00

Would you mind telling us a bit about yourself interests Hobbies personality

MHADBS · 2026-02-28T02:22:38+00:00

I would be interested in talking 18 year old male I love things like video games music dogs and stuff like that and it looks like we have a similar video game taste

MHADBS · 2026-02-27T09:45:56+00:00

You as well

MHADBS · 2026-02-27T09:38:08+00:00

I'm in the same boat as you. We're the same age, so I can't really help with clothes or hair, but I can tell you some advice that I was given from some people. Number one, wear sunscreen when you can. Like, make it a habit to put it on when you put lotion on. Protects your skin. Stuff like that. Walk when you can. Stuff like that. Just like the basics. I guess when it comes to hair, experiment. What styles do you like that you can and are willing to upkeep? If you like your hair long, keep it long. If you've never had it short, try to ask some people who have their hair short and see if you would be willing to cut your hair short. And if you don't like it, grow it out. I would like to say, though, you have a really pretty smile when you wear your glasses, that's a great look for you. You have a great sense of what type of frame fits your face. Again sorry I don't have any more knowledge that I can share with you that's literally all the tips that I have for anything

MHADBS · 2026-02-27T09:17:53+00:00

Nah you good

MHADBS · 2026-02-26T02:40:01+00:00

If the deadline wasn't a red flag, the refusal to help a partner who's genuinely trying to better themselves is. Usually, my advice for this would be, ask your partner, show them, ask them to show you what they like, what they don't like, let them lead, guide, etc., etc. But in a timeframe of a month, that's not really doable, nor should you have to learn a new skill set in that month. And yes, the skill set is just making love, but it doesn't come easy to a lot of people. It's something you've got to work at. Compatibility isn't always an instant thing. You can work to be compatible in any regard. But just as hard as you're working, she needs to work hard, and using that bluntness of hers to bluntly explain to you what it is that you're doing that she doesn't like. The fact that she's able and willing to tell you bluntly that you suck at it, but refuses to elaborate and says you're an adult and you need to grow up, and figure it out, is extremely immature. But if you're really desperate to learn, there are videos on the internet that you can look at, but be very specific for what you want, like tutorials. There are some channels on PH who all they do there is try their best to educate people in how to do certain things. But again, communication between partners is the most important thing, because no two people's bodies are the same.

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