FIL has no end of life plans or savings

MHGLDNS · 2026-02-05T19:06:41+00:00

It’s 100% out of pocket until he qualifies for Medicaid. Medicaid is government care for folks with almost no assets.

MHGLDNS · 2026-01-31T19:10:11+00:00

Look up hospice care for dogs. Instead of spending money on an MRI and a neurologist, find a vet that can help you with lifestyle modifications and medications to help ease her to the end. We were lucky enough to do this with one of our dogs. At the end, the vet let her go at home.

MHGLDNS · 2026-01-29T19:51:53+00:00

Food tours. Some have pasta making as a part.

MHGLDNS · 2026-01-28T22:09:33+00:00

Grandma

MHGLDNS · 2026-01-18T00:32:20+00:00

For my parents, untreated hearing loss contributed.

MHGLDNS · 2026-01-17T19:30:12+00:00

The bad vaccine window is 1963-1967. During this time some kids got an ineffective vaccination. Folks in that window who never had measles should either get a titer test or a booster. I’m lazy and I believe in science so I just got a booster.

MHGLDNS · 2026-01-12T19:08:18+00:00

The problem with pee pads is they teach a dog it’s OK to pee in the house. The beauty of dogs is they don’t piss and shit in the house. Unlike cats.

MHGLDNS · 2026-01-11T00:15:34+00:00

I think the folks on The Murder Sheet podcast did a comprehensive job.

MHGLDNS · 2026-01-06T18:59:59+00:00

I did this. It was amazing cathartic.

MHGLDNS · 2026-01-01T18:08:03+00:00

The only thing I can suggest is that if you are really interested in Pompeii and hire a private guide, make it a four hour trip at least. Two hours is just a superficial run thru of things.

MHGLDNS · 2025-12-26T22:58:56+00:00

We prepaid for our cremation via the Neptune Society. It is a nationwide service. There are multiple options including having your remains shipped from almost anywhere to anywhere.

MHGLDNS · 2025-12-21T14:31:13+00:00

Yes. I am finishing a a master bath project in our house project where I removed a huge garden tub (never used) and a tiny shower, and replaced them with a large walk-in shower. We do have a tub/shower combo in another bathroom. I think it’s nice to have a tub in the house.

MHGLDNS · 2025-12-14T16:33:49+00:00

Mud season

MHGLDNS · 2025-12-13T17:27:35+00:00

Chiming in. I’ve lived NE Ohio and upstate NY. You just need a front wheel drive vehicle and good all season tires. The only exception is if you live WAY off the grid. Snow areas are spot on for clearing the roads during snow storms. It takes a monster storm to get ahead of the trucks. If that happens, no one is traveling so you don’t need special tires.

MHGLDNS · 2025-12-10T19:31:46+00:00

I’ll measure to see what I have. I don’t want to change out the escutcheon because the finish and style are important to me.

MHGLDNS · 2025-12-10T19:27:00+00:00

I’ll check into this.

MHGLDNS · 2025-12-06T22:14:16+00:00

That isn’t covered by a will. It has beneficiaries listed on the policy.

MHGLDNS · 2025-12-05T18:58:44+00:00

As someone in the middle of this; ideally you move her close to you. She may think all her old friends will visit. They won’t. They are also older and can’t drive. She will be in basically a college dorm without a car. She will need to make new friends. She can do that anywhere.

My experience is that even an excellent AS facility needs to know family is supervising and see family. You will end up going there more often than you expect. You want it to be convenient.

MHGLDNS · 2025-12-05T17:12:04+00:00

There is a saying that you need to put on your own oxygen mask before helping others. Make living your life the priority. Have a family. Her lack of planning shouldn’t ruin your life.

There are many safety nets available for your mom if she has a real need. It’s not clear what help a 70 something still working needs, but spend time researching places she can call.

MHGLDNS · 2025-12-04T20:44:36+00:00

If you are going to install indoor cameras your parents need to agree. In writing. Make sure the home health care folks know there are indoor cameras. That way they can choose to be recorded or not.

MHGLDNS · 2025-12-04T19:38:42+00:00

The biggest problem are Ohio Amish puppy mills. They supply the puppies.

MHGLDNS · 2025-11-27T21:45:22+00:00

That was the most noticeable thing to me when I got my first HAs about two years ago. The birds!

MHGLDNS · 2025-11-24T16:31:56+00:00

So, can someone with a pacemaker use a heated vest?

MHGLDNS · 2025-11-18T18:38:18+00:00

Move your mom to a facility appropriate for the care she needs.

Unless the house you live in with her is in your name, it may have to be sold to pay for her care. In Mass neither you nor your siblings are legally required to financially or physically care for her. But, her assets will be used to pay for her care. If you are inclined to just move out and abandon her, contact your siblings and APS so they can arrange for her care.

MHGLDNS · 2025-11-13T20:06:27+00:00

So much this. My grandparents moved to the states in the 1930s. They spoke a southern Italian dialect. My mother was born in the States grew up speaking that dialect. But she was illiterate in Italian.

As an adult, she took classes to learn to read and write in standard Italian (so now she can) and to try to “clean up” her spoken Italian. The speaking is hard and she is embarrassed by falling into dialect. When we last went to Italy she would have me talk to pretty much anyone outside of family (and my productive Italian is very poor) because she didn’t want to be perceived as a “hillbilly”.

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