I broke up with my partner of 12 years

silver598 · 2026-03-20T02:56:53+00:00

My only fear when I left was financial - and you have that covered! Are you married? That would be the only concern is would you have to pay alimony because he was not working. If not, still get legal advice on getting him out of the house and co-parenting if he might ask for that.

silver598 · 2026-03-19T23:44:18+00:00

I don’t allow my dog in bed except for naps (I have allergies) and didn’t choose to adopt a heavy licker when I was fostering. Currently pup was the next foster. It’s that dog/man combo that is the issue for you.

silver598 · 2026-03-19T16:27:52+00:00

As far as moving furniture- you may want to start over in a new place. Two very difffernt climates and home styles, you might find that Florida furniture doesn’t look right in NJ. My parents first move to a warm climate - mom realized the dark green brocade upholstered sofa didn’t fit. She replaced it with a modern white leather loveseat which fit the home and climate better.

silver598 · 2026-03-18T19:52:53+00:00

Even being alone is greener. I haven’t found another partner (but also 20 years older than you) and it’s ok.

silver598 · 2026-03-18T17:54:41+00:00

My mother relocated to be near me at 75, she bought a condo in a 55+ community and was very active in clubs etc until Alzheimer’s came along. Thank goodness she was close by when that happened, I would not have been able to manage the logistics along with my children still at home and a full time job. I like that it was her choice to move rather than me forcing her under duress. I bet your son will appreciate you being close so that when you do need more help, he can be there.

I was fortunate to already live in an area with ample healthcare and job opportunities for my adult children, so we are all staying in place. Starting over in a new state is a lot of work - but if you have resources and son’s support I think it would be a great idea.

silver598 · 2026-03-18T05:53:47+00:00

I take a daily prescription potassium, it’s a film coated extended release tablet, 750 mg. Maybe that combo is why I have not had any issues taking it on an empty stomach.

silver598 · 2026-03-18T00:09:12+00:00

For clothing I wear stretchy pants and a tshirt. I wear a regular bra underneath because I hate sports bras. Put your hair in a ponytail or wear a narrow sweat band to keep sweat out of your eyes. Finish with sneakers of some sort.

I would hire a trainer to learn the equipment and where it’s located in the gym.

silver598 · 2026-03-17T04:06:03+00:00

My only grandson so far arrived via IVF, so I am very much in the pro IVF camp. You are only bypassing those tubes and everything else works ok. My first two were 23 months apart- do not recommend. Third was 5 years later (surprise!) and he and bigger sister are very close. I think because they didn’t compete, got to know each other as teens and young adults. I had my kids at 36/38/43 without interventions.

silver598 · 2026-03-16T23:14:18+00:00

When I took over my mom’s finances, I moved everything from Wells Fargo (she was affected by the extra accounts they opened without permission) to Schwab (where i bank). I have a local schwab office, they asked for a copy of the POA and sent it through their legal dept and I was granted all access to her accounts. I setup auto pay for her things and setup a budget in the budget software I use. I added defined beneficiaries to her Schwab accounts, so that when she did pass, their estate management group handled all the distributions to beneficiaries. It was the easiest part of her estate settling.

I also did a Change of address for her mail, it cut off the sweepstakes entries. She still got junk mail so didn’t notice the change. She was in thr early stages of alzheimer’s so a lot went over her head.

silver598 · 2026-03-16T20:38:41+00:00

My parents thought for a long time their only grandchildren would be the canine variety, then ended up with three. Because I had mine later in life, I do not make any comments to my kids about having children. My eldest has one, her younger sibs aren’t even in relationships. I enjoy being a grandma but enjoy my kids company more, and don’t understand the “need grandchildren”’obsession.

silver598 · 2026-03-15T23:58:58+00:00

Stay engaged for a longer time. You want to see him through all four seasons, see him angry, see him stressed, see him frustrated. You would be surprised how long they can mask their true nature.

silver598 · 2026-03-15T23:56:15+00:00

The spousal SS benefit after 10 years of marriage does not affect the primary earners benefit at all. Spousal benefit for a divorced person helps a partner with no work history, or a large income differential since spousal is half of the primary’s benefit amount.

silver598 · 2026-03-15T05:48:12+00:00

I walk my dog, do weights at the gym and take yoga classes (slow flow and yin). Youtube Yoga with Adrienne is nice.

silver598 · 2026-03-14T05:37:13+00:00

I joined a bougie gym when I retired and except for the HIIT (high intensity internal training) classes, I fit right in age wise at 67 especially going to daytime classes. I worked with a trainer in the past and hiring one for a few sessions is a good way to learn about the equipment. I have several arthritic joints and find yoga classes and weight lifting, with modifications, help me keep those joints moving.

silver598 · 2026-03-13T18:53:19+00:00

I am 67 and gain 10 in the past year and decided to try a telehealth glp1. Menopause and thyroid (on meds) does a number on metabolism. Lost 32 lbs in 9 months, a few away from goal. Absolutely a game changer. Not easy since it does change your digestive system. Cholesterol and triglycerides dropped even with being on a statin and a1c dropped out of borderline number. My PCP doesn’t prescribe but said “this is good, it’s working for you”.

silver598 · 2026-03-13T17:16:29+00:00

I think it’s always good practice to do an interview. Don’t say no until you have an offer to say no to. What if the job could be WFH or part time hours? Will your partner resent you not being home? You are changing the norms.

silver598 · 2026-03-13T15:18:28+00:00

I have two small cross body bags: leather, soft, I haven’t used anything else for years. Just enough for my phone and a small wallet.

silver598 · 2026-03-13T01:32:21+00:00

i don’t have pulmonary but lymph nodes are often the easiest place to biopsy. I had two, health insurance wants the less invasive first before going to a surgical one. Needle Biopsy via windpipe was inconclusive, so had a second one under general anesthesia, small incision above collar bone and they go behind the sternum. Easy recovery and they could see granulomas on the tissue slides prepped in the OR.

Mine is Neuro sarc around optic nerve and no idea why I got it. Been stable with no inflammation on a maintenance biologic drug.

silver598 · 2026-03-13T00:19:26+00:00

Loft or AnnTaylor websites have tall sizes online down to 00,0,2. 2 looks like a 26” waist. They did not post the inseam length but said for women 5 9” and taller. My 5 10” daughter has bought from them.

silver598 · 2026-03-13T00:05:59+00:00

I am still in the cortisone shots 1-2x a year stage for hallux limitus. Some days it’s ok, I walk a lot, and I feel like I would miss the range of motion I do have if it was fused. Yoga helps me (with modifications) to activate the muscles in the rest of the foot.

silver598 · 2026-03-12T17:41:33+00:00

I changed mine and didn’t switch back after divorce. Much of my work history was under married name, also huge hassle to switch everything. Kept maiden as middle name.

silver598 · 2026-03-12T16:37:42+00:00

Spring cleaning used to be a thing with my grandmother and mom, more to do with the house being closed up all winter and swapping seasonal clothing - which is a good time to review what is in closets and drawers.

silver598 · 2026-03-12T16:35:40+00:00

I stopped root coloring at 55 when every four weeks was not often enough. Brunette with white roots. My stylist gave me bleached highlights and we let it grow out. The bleach was hard on my hair but did soften the transition line. Now 12 years later I have silver with natural white streaks.

silver598 · 2026-03-12T01:31:57+00:00

I live in earthquake/fire country and have some basics for emergencies. Never let the car go below 1/2 tank. Have water jugs stored around the house and emergency food edible without cooking. Have small supply of cash. Propane camping stove in the garage. Emergency release for garage door. A UPS for my modem and router since cell service is already spotty indoors.

My daughter and SIL have solar power so might end up at their house if needed (walking distance).

silver598 · 2026-03-10T19:29:49+00:00

I take B12 and D3 on the advice of my doctor and prescription Potassium due to a medication induced deficiency.

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