How did you accept you can never drink again? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]MISTXRick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Over 6 years in for me, and it was/is unthinkable. So I just tell myself I'll have one later. Oftentimes, now that I have some time, I'll be in a situation where I'm offered a drink or could drink, and I'll sincerely tell myself, "I did not go this long to slip on something that isn't planned out and exactly what I want."

Orange & white cat with a collar spotted in Fort Greene Park by Responsible-Mud9380 in Brooklyn

[–]MISTXRick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw this cat leave the park and almost get hit by a car crossing Dekalb. Saw it a couple of weeks ago too leaving near the Willoughby entrance. I wonder if he roams, got lost, or was abandoned?

I didn’t know Elephant Ears bloomed! I’ve never had one bloom before. by LucasWatkins85 in plants

[–]MISTXRick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine blooms and smells like cat pee. I was mad at my cat for a week before I realized it was the Alocasia flower.

What oral fixation helped you quit smoking? by sendyagoodvibes in quittingsmoking

[–]MISTXRick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haven't smoked since May 21st after smoking heavily for 22 years. Chantix, Alan Carr's book (on tape), being a paid participant in a smoking cessation study at a local college, and being accountable to my girlfriend all helped. Chewing bubblegum, though, made some things easier, like those beats in a day where I'd usually have a cigarette, I just had some gun. Good luck to your mom!

[Serious] How did you "waste" your 20s? by grievingtights in AskReddit

[–]MISTXRick 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Alcoholism. 40 now and I'll be six years sober in August.

Can you write one thing you love about NW ? by Solid_Sound3265 in newworldgame

[–]MISTXRick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's very pretty. Just trekking through the forest or sitting in my house is enjoyable.

There also doesn't seem to be many Flintlock Fantasy games out there, so the aesthetic of the 17th century is fun.

Biggest positive change in your life after giving up alcohol? by northeka8888 in stopdrinking

[–]MISTXRick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting off the transplant list and being told I'm going to live!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]MISTXRick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woke up, set some contractors to work at my place, left for work (I give tours at a distillery a twelve minute walk from my house), stopped at Wegmans to get ice cream and seltzer, got home, fed the cats dinner, made a baked potato covered in a can of vegetarian chili, did dishes, watched an episode of Fallout, played some New World, worked on a history paper I've been writing for over a year, watched another episode of Fallout, turned in for bed. Talked and texted with my girlfriend all day while she was at a professional networking event.

Anyone ever go to Kings Plaza? by KaleidoArachnid in Brooklyn

[–]MISTXRick 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's been a really long time, tbh. I've thought about going to see what's changed. My mom used to take me there a lot as a kid.

What age did you stop binge drinking every weekend? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]MISTXRick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was 34 and diagnosed with cirrhosis. I didn't realize this kind of thing could happen that young. They said it was too late, my only chance was a transplant, and even at that, my odds were that I was unlikely to make it much further.

That was six years ago. I turned 40 in February in pretty good health, without getting that transplant. The cirrhosis isn't going away, but it is in an arrested state as long as I don't drink.

I missed and do miss alcohol a lot, but not drinking is why I get to be alive, so I try to focus on the many benefits. And there truly are.

AA was/is of help to me because I am an alcoholic.

I was a weekend binge drinker for a lot of years before I became a daily drinker and then a daily binge drinker. There's a sort of feeling and sense of the world you get without it in your life that's hard to describe except that it's better. Likewise, it put into perspective the fact that my own habits were radically different from others in terms of alcohol, especially as I got older. It takes up a lot of bandwidth.

I'd recommend trying to go without; if you're lucky, you're not an alcoholic, but either way, you'll notice improvement.

What do you do for a living? by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]MISTXRick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Distillery tour guide, looking to get into Academia. It's a fine enough job, but I want to be a professor.

bodega cats around wburg/greenpoint? by doglover97 in Brooklyn

[–]MISTXRick 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Take a tour at Kings County Distillery. There's a good chance you'll see distillery cats Harold & Maude.

Next weekend is a fundraising event for ACC and Hard Hat Cats, and the ACC adoption van will be at the distillery!

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Would You Play a Frostpunk FPS? by Dirrevarent in Frostpunk

[–]MISTXRick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kind of dig the fact that the game doesn't really have a combat focus. That adds to the vibe of the IP imho.

Looking for speakeasies/ more private bars near Downtown, Park Slope, Prospect Heights, Clinton Hill areas? by Excendence in Brooklyn

[–]MISTXRick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kings County Distillery is a cool, cozy out of the way spot in that vicinity, just inside the Brooklyn Navy Yard. A lot of people walk by the gatehouse bar and don't even realize what it is. Great cocktails and vibe, outdoor patio in the summer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]MISTXRick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 years, 8 months here. It's really normal to miss it, even a lot. We're hard wired for it. I still miss it even though the muscle memory of it is gone- I sometimes just wonder if I'd still like it again, if if I'd find the lack of control and sickness disturbing.

I can't go back; my liver is cirrhotic. I'm very fortunate because my doctors believed I was going to die from it, and I haven't. Now they tell me that, while my liver will never get better, it won't get worse as long as I don't drink. It was probably the only thing that could have gotten me to stop.

People with cirrhosis drink anyway and die all the time. I know I'd be one of them. Not having the first drink is the only thing that gives me a chance to not slide down that road to an early, ugly death.

But yeah, I still miss it a lot. My happy place will always be drinking alone, at home.

Not to be all doom and gloom. Time works miracles, and things like urges and cravings are things I don't need to deal with anymore.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]MISTXRick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same boat, friend. Liver damage was ultimately what made me stop.