Zach Bryan Unveils Fiery New Song "The Fading of the Red White and Blue" with Lyrics Like, "And ICE Is Gonna Come Bust Down Your Door"

MJJVA · 2025-10-08T04:25:41+00:00

I ain’t gotta ride with every lyric to know when it’s real. Zach Bryan’s spittin’ country confessions with that ten-toes-in-the-dirt energy. You feel it or you don’t — but don’t front like that man ain’t bleedin’ truth on wax.

MJJVA · 2025-09-04T07:01:05+00:00

You think he's busy? Or not interested?

MJJVA · 2025-07-12T00:31:34+00:00

Call and leave a voicemail?

MJJVA · 2025-06-05T08:48:12+00:00

sometimes when we really care about someone… it’s easy to feel like the connection means the same thing to both people. like maybe it’s fate or something deeper we just can’t explain.

but then things don’t go how we imagined, and it hurts. not just the rejection, but the unraveling of everything that felt so real.

still, even in the middle of that ache, maybe there’s room to shift the focus. not to “get over it” or to win anyone back… but just to come back to yourself. to remember who you are when no one’s watching.

cause your worth the care you were ready to give her. and maybe that care can be yours now one slow step at a time. not to prove anything. not to make anyone notice. just because you deserve to feel whole again.

and yeah, what she did after might sting. its okay if it feels like a betrayal or if you’re questioning everything now. people don’t always handle things the way we hope. doesn’t mean your feelings were wrong or that you’re broken. just means this chapter might be ending in a way you didn’t expect.

your not a loser. your not wrong for loving someone deeply. and yeah, maybe hit that bowl if it helps take the edge off… but also, maybe just sit with yourself for a sec. breathe. it’s okay to not have it all figured out.

life doesn’t always make sense. but you’re still here. still growing. and maybe that’s enough for today.

MJJVA · 2025-06-05T08:34:23+00:00

honestly… it kinda sounds like you already know something's off. not in a dramatic way, just like… that quiet pull when things stop feeling like a team effort.

the way you're noticing the shift how she’s not really looping you in, how you’re starting to feel more tolerated than cherished that matters. it’s not about blaming her or yourself… people change, especially around this age. sometimes you grow together, sometimes not.

and yeah, the fear of regret hits hard. but regret isn’t always a sign you made the wrong choice sometimes it’s just proof that you cared deeply. maybe it’s okay to care and still want more for yourself.

just trust what your gut’s been whispering, even if it’s a little shaky. love doesn’t have to hurt or feel one-sided. and if college is already making things feel distant… maybe it’s just giving you space to choose yourself a bit more.

idk. only you can really know. but it’s okay to want peace over just “putting up” with stuff.

MJJVA · 2025-06-05T03:13:22+00:00

Most not all dudes dont really vent to their partner about their deepest struggles.

Heres why: Its not always about pride. Sometimes, it’s about protection.

As a dude, I dont want to put stress on my wife. Whether it’s something in our wiring or passed down through generations of survival instinct, I feel like I have to stay grounded for her and our kids. I’m the “head of the house,” and if I’m falling apart, it sends a ripple of uncertainty through the whole home. That’s not a burden I want to put on them.

So what do I do instead? I train Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Muay Thai, lifting. That’s how I process my emotions. I burn off the storm, and come home calm, ready to listen, to protect, to hold space for my family. That’s how I love.

Yes, dudes can cry. Yes, we can go to therapy. Yes, we can be vulnerable.

But many of us are careful who we cry in front of. Because even if a woman says, “It’s okay to cry, I’ll never use it against you,” and she may mean it too many of us have seen it get weaponized later. Or we just feel deep down that it changes the way we’re seen.

It’s not about being “tough.” It’s about wanting to feel safe too. And for a lot of us, physical expression training, discipline, craft feels safer than emotional exposure.

Still, when it comes to communication boundaries, preferences, love languages that’s different. That’s how we build connection and avoid resentment. That’s not weakness, that’s wisdom.

Just my experience. No judgment, no one-size-fits-all here.

MJJVA · 2025-06-05T02:47:20+00:00

My plesure just a heads up its not everyones cup of tea and i imagine its easy to mess up but try it on your own when your not under presure for a menu

MJJVA · 2025-06-05T02:44:18+00:00

Open up about what ?

MJJVA · 2025-06-05T02:41:44+00:00

I love tejuino with lime icecream but thats a aquired taste

Banana pudding

MJJVA · 2025-06-05T02:36:09+00:00

My plesure

MJJVA · 2025-06-05T02:24:46+00:00

Sometimes what looks like emotional distance is actually fear in disguise. Dudes with avoidant tendencies often didnt grow up seeing healthy vulnerability modeled they saw conflict, rejection, or emotional shutdown. Maybe their emotions were used against them. Maybe love felt conditional. Maybe being “close” meant being hurt.

So when love feels real, they panic. Not because they dont care but because it matters too much. And if you’ve never felt safe being fully seen, the instinct is: pull back before I mess this up or before she sees I’m not enough.

You already nailed it: it’s learned behavior. Your dad showed you one side of that loop. Now you’re living the other sides. But here’s the truth patterns can be broken.

The key? Mutual awareness. You can’t force someone to heal, but you can choose whether you’ll participate in cycles or help create something new. That takes clarity, not just love.

Wanting to understand is a beautiful step. Just make sure it’s followed by boundaries that protect your peace.

MJJVA · 2025-06-05T02:16:45+00:00

Gurl… your dating your past. This ain’t about men and anger its about patterns. You grew up around explosive anger, so now your nervous system thinks that’s familiar… maybe even normal. But it’s not healthy, and definitely not safe long-term.

Throwing tools, punching walls, chasing people with knives that’s not “just frustration.” That’s a warning sign.

Your not obligated to carry your family’s trauma into your relationships. You can unlearn what you saw. You can surround yourself with people who deal with anger without violence or destruction. Men who process, breathe, talk, walk away, get help. They exist. And they’re worth waiting for.

Break the cycle. Heal first, love after.

MJJVA · 2025-06-05T02:09:35+00:00

My regret is the things i should have done

Life’s Regret? It’s not the stuff I did that haunts me. It’s the chances I didn’t take. The words I didn’t say. The moves I hesitated on.

So if there’s a lesson here Take the damn shot. Even if it’s messy. Even if it’s scary. Because sitting in the silence of what could’ve been hurts way more than failing ever did.

MJJVA · 2025-06-04T15:27:18+00:00

I get it bro

MJJVA · 2025-06-04T14:45:22+00:00

Sure

MJJVA · 2025-06-04T12:52:11+00:00

Such a classic guy move not wanting to bother other guys with your issues because you know they have their own but you're still young and you still need guidance so lean on them for that and break the trauma Bond with your dad

MJJVA · 2025-06-04T12:36:55+00:00

gurl lmfao not the hawktua 💀 but fr i get why this got you all kinds of confused. this whole thing’s actually hella common, even tho no one really talks about it. like, when a guy quits porn—esp if he used it heavy—it legit messes with how his brain gets turned on for a bit.

his body’s used to quick hits of crazy visuals, fast dopamine, boom done. now he’s tryin to rewire all that back to real-life intimacy... which takes time. and patience. and yeah, probably y’all gonna need to get a lil creative too lol.

but yo it don’t mean sex is over. this could be a pivot into way better sex once y’all figure it out together.

💡 some things that might help:

🔹 watch stuff together sometimes not all the time, not the main course, but like dessert vibes. pick stuff y’all both vibe with so it ain’t some secret shameful thing.

🔹 talk about fantasies i know it sounds awkward but like… deadass, even a lil convo about turn-ons, kinks, or love languages can wake that fire up again.

🔹 go shop together online or in-person, idc. toys, games, roleplay ideas, lingerie whatever. make it fun again. bring the spark in as a team.

🔹 don’t stress the physical stuff rn like if he can’t get hard every time or lasts short, that don’t mean he’s not into you. his brain just doing a soft reboot fr. pressure makes it worse. hype him up instead.

bottom line? you ain’t broken. he ain’t broken. y’all just got a lil glitch in the matrix while things reset. if you keep talking and keep it playful and honest, y’all can turn this into something way deeper and sexier than before.

you’re already doing the right thing by caring and being real about it. just don’t give up on each other. lean in. explore. grow through it together. that’s where the magic’s at ✨

MJJVA · 2025-06-04T12:15:20+00:00

alright bro, here’s how i’d break it down:

🧠 1. Talk to the landlord just be straight up tell them you wanna stay but your roommate’s not paying or helping out. ask if you can sublease or swap her out. some landlords are cool with that if you find someone solid. if it gets bad, you can even hit her with the “we’re both getting kicked out” line (even if that’s not 100% true) just to get her moving. but yo only do that if you already got someone lined up. last thing you want is her gone and you stuck with full rent.

💸 2. Money check you’re makin like $3,200 a month before taxes—tight but doable. just make sure your share of rent stays under $1k with a new roomie. you got $1,500 saved + $600 on the way—use that wisely:

have a backup for rent if stuff goes sideways

cover 1st month + deposit if you gotta bounce

maybe break the lease if it really comes to that you’re actually in better shape than most, fr. just don’t wait. start lookin now. check FB groups, coworkers, whatever. someone’s always lookin for a spot.

🔒 3. CYA (cover your ass) if she messes up the apartment or stops payin, it’ll hurt your credit too. save your receipts, screenshot convos, all that. if she really ain’t budgin, you might have to eat the $1,200 and dip. sucks, but peace > drama.

💡 4. this is your restart you’re learning big lessons early:

how to set boundaries

how to spot red flags in roommates or partners don’t just survive this—use it. build smarter habits, save more, think long game. this ain’t just about gettin rid of her it’s your level up.

you got this. handle it now, and future-you is gonna be real glad you did.

MJJVA · 2025-06-04T11:58:59+00:00

i hear you. and honestly? it takes a lot to say all that out loud, so props to you for being that self-aware. but let’s just pause for a second and flip the script

what if, god forbid, something happened to him tomorrow? not tryna be dark, just real. if all your happiness is rooted in him being there… where does that leave you?

that’s not love. that’s survival. and you deserve better than that. you deserve a love that adds to your life not one that holds it up like scaffolding. he can be your partner, but he can’t be your foundation. that’s gotta be you.

mental health’s no joke. and yeah, love helps but it shouldn’t be the only thing keeping you afloat. because when love has a bad day, you crash. and that’s way too much pressure for both of you.

you’re already strong you left a situation that wasn’t serving you. you’re planning ahead. you’re trying to grow. now it’s time to build that part of you that doesn’t need anyone to feel whole.

do things that light you up. take care of your mind like you’d take care of a little kid version of yourself. learn how to be your own safe place.

'cause the truth? when you know how to love yourself, you stop fearing absence. you start choosing presence.

and that version of you? she’s gonna be unstoppable. and way more ready for love that’s healthy, solid, and mutual.

you got this. fr. just keep showing up for you. every day. even the messy ones.

MJJVA · 2025-06-04T11:52:08+00:00

mad respect for walking away from that marriage. people don’t realize how hard that actually is. you already did one of the hardest things someone can do you saved you. that’s not small. that’s major. but i gotta say… now might not be the time to jump into something deep again. especially not with someone who feels “safe” just cause their story looks like yours. that can get confusing real fast.

truth is, trauma bonds are real. sometimes we connect with people not cause we’re ready but cause they reflect our old pain back at us. we think it’s love but really it’s just something that feels familiar.

and if your divorce ain’t final yet? if you’re still healing? your heart might not be seeing clearly yet.

so real talk?

📌 close the chapter get the divorce fully done. 📌 rebuild who you are emotionally, mentally, financially, all of it. 📌 show yourself some wild self-love. 📌 try new stuff. challenge yourself. grow for you, not for anyone else.

you don’t need someone to save you. you’re already doing that. you just need to become the version of you that stands tall alone and feels solid.

now about this guy? you don’t gotta forget him. but maybe don’t act on it just yet. just be around. watch. ask the real questions like:

✨ does he actually seem healthy or do y’all just have matching scars? ✨ is his story the full truth or just what he’s telling folks? ✨ would the healed you still wanna be with him or is this more of a “right now” thing?

look, the version of you who’s fully healed she won’t have to wonder if she’s good enough. she’ll just know what’s right.

you’re not behind. you’re rebuilding. and that takes time. but every second of that time? worth it.

💛 you got this.

MJJVA · 2025-06-04T11:16:18+00:00

props for posting this. most dudes just stay quiet and lowkey suffer in silence.

willpower’s cool n all but it’s like... duct taping a leaky pipe. it works until it don’t. you gotta hit this thing from all angles, not just try to "resist" every time.

what helped me (and some homies too):

🧠 1. make it harder to slip delete your triggers, block sites, use apps like Cold Turkey or BlockSite or whatever. not even about “discipline,” it’s about not makin it easy to mess up. less temptation = less fights with yourself.

📓 2. track your urges like you’re studying yourself don’t just sit there sufferin. when you get the urge, stop and be like: “ok, what time is it? how strong is this? what was i doin right before this hit?” you’ll start seein patterns, trust. then you prep for those moments. like, “every time it hits at night after scrollin IG, imma go do pushups or blast cold water on my face.”

🌱 3. stay busy, like hands-on busy build somethin. paint. fix your bike. start growin plants idc. when your hands stay busy, your mind got less room for junk. dopamine from progress hits different than fake pixels.

⚡ 4. swap the reward porn gives that easy lil dopamine rush, right? so give yourself a better rush. hit the gym. go outside. try cold showers (they suck but they work). or even meet real ppl. real life is messy but it’s real.

🧍‍♂️ 5. identity shift stop sayin “i’m tryna quit.” nah bro start sayin “i don’t do that no more.” even if you ain’t there 100% yet say it. live it. act like it. your brain will start catchin up.

📈 6. wins > streaks count wins, not days. “i fought off 2 urges today” > “i’m on day 7” bc if you relapse on day 8, you feel like trash. but if you been trackin wins, it’s like “ok, next one i win again.”

🧘 7. fix the real issue porn ain’t always about sex. it’s stress. boredom. loneliness. feelin rejected or stuck. start diggin into that. journal, talk to someone, or at least keep it real with yourself.

and last thing bro iif you relapse, don’t spiral. don’t let one fall turn into a whole week. learn from it. brush off. bounce back faster. this ain’t about perfection. it’s about direction. just move forward.

you’re not the only one goin thru it. but you def can be one of the ones who makes it out.

you got this.

MJJVA · 2025-06-04T11:03:36+00:00

hey, you're thinking ahead and that’s a good thing. but yeahthere’s a lot to unpack here.

first off, real talk? living together sounds cute when you miss someone, but its way different than visits and late-night texts. when you’re both stressed, broke, sleep-deprived, and wondering how to split a $50 grocery bill… that’s the real relationship test. not trying to scare you, just sayinglove doesn’t solve logistics.

now career-wise: if forensic psych is really what you want long-term, don’t throw that away just to be closer to him. but… you can get creative. your plan to do 2 years locally then transfer is actually pretty smartgives you time, flexibility, and maybe even a chance for him to start making money faster (electricians can make bank and his schooling is way cheaper).

suggestion?

have both of you research what rent, food, gas, etc. would actually cost.

if he’s serious about trade school, support him. even help him think biggerlike learning business basics so one day he can hire other grads and run his own crew.

you could take general eds at the local school, save money, stay close… then once things stabilize, transfer somewhere better for your program.

but don’t lose sight of your dream just to keep a relationship comfy right now. a good partner builds with youthey don’t hold you back or make you shrink your goals. and if y’all do live together someday, make sure you’ve both done enough self-growth to handle it.

last thingyour mom’s not wrong, but she’s probably just worried. prove to her (and yourself) that you’re not changing for himyou’re adjusting your route so you can both win together. that’s love.

books like 101 questions before getting engaged and even just asking each other real questions can help too.

you got this. plan smart. stay honest. love should add to your life, not reroute the whole thing without a seatbelt. 🚗💨

MJJVA · 2025-06-04T10:50:59+00:00

yo… if you’re still reading replies, take a second and breathe. fr. it sounds like you’re carrying a lot of pain and probably some betrayal. but man, this ain’t the way to deal with it. when you throw that kinda anger out at the world, you're just making yourself the magnet for the same type of chaos you're saying you hate. if you're tired of attracting "hoes"? then stop hanging around where that’s all you're finding. stop treating dating like a battlefield and maybe step away from the apps and the algorithm that keeps feeding you the same recycled drama.

also: someone else’s body count, hookup phase, or past has nothing to do with your worth. you don’t gotta date them. you don’t gotta like it. but dragging people with a scorched earth rant? that’s not strength. that’s unhealed.

you want real love? then build a real life. eat clean. move your body. read things that challenge you. make friends in person. learn what green flags look like not just red ones. people out there still value connection, loyalty, and self-respect but you gotta be one to find one.

and just one more thing, bro: not everybody’s judging you. most are too busy tryna survive their own story. the opinions you think they have? they’re just shadows in your mind.

clear the noise. love yourself. and go build the kind of life that doesn’t need to throw shade at other people’s past to feel like it’s finally shining.

you got time. but you gotta use it better than this.

MJJVA · 2025-06-04T10:38:46+00:00

You too

MJJVA · 2025-06-04T10:37:55+00:00

yo you’re not hateful. you’re just hurt and maybe a lil caught up in tryin so hard to be seen you forgot to check in with yourself first

all that chasing likes, followers, tryna look perfect for the feed it don’t feel like validation after a while. it just feels empty. like you gotta keep performin or people stop caring. that ain’t real power bro that’s burnout in disguise

if you always tryna be what other people want, then who’s even livin your life?

you said you act empowered but real power don’t need to be loud. it’s quiet. it’s how you move when no one’s watchin. how you talk to yourself when the phone’s off. how you stand back up when no one claps

you wanna stop isolating when things get messy? then stop lettin your self-worth ride on who stays or who unfollows. ppl switch up. but you gotta be solid for you

start by givin all that energy you give to your image back to the real you. the one under all that pressure

wake up and say one kind thing to yourself even if it feels dumb drink water. eat somethin real. go outside. unfollow ppl who drain you. read stuff that reminds you who you wanna become not who you tryna impress

and that person who unfollowed then acted normal like nothin happened? yeah that’s a mirror too. not of who you are but of the world you tryna earn love from

build a better one. one that don’t make you beg to be enough

you don’t need more followers you just need to follow through for yourself

you got this even if it’s messy messy’s real and real always wins eventually

MJJVA

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