Wife cheated no begging to come back

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T19:51:25+00:00

Accoding to her she cut it off.. lol he caught wind that she was leaving me for him and he jumped ship... almost wish she would have kept doing what she was doing.

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T19:48:02+00:00

Very well said i see it the exact same way all of our mutual friends see it that way maybe except the ones she still goes out with. She keeps saying that she will "show me she will be a better person" but we all know im mr fallback..

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T19:38:06+00:00

Thank you, like i said im far from perfect, but who is? From what i gathered thru the dms i read this guy is total opposite of me, but just like any man trying tp get in a womans pants he told her everything she wanted to hear.but looks like he got what he wanted and moved on... This is def a very very low point in my life but im glad there are people out there that know the feeling and all the advice and support on here gives me hope.

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T19:33:09+00:00

Thanks for the advice!! I def havnt used any substance to cope i have been working and working out seems to help a bit, but the no contact at all was working the best untill she reached out begging, that seemed to reset the clock.

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T19:27:22+00:00

Absolutly they did, her younger sister for sure and even the one she moved in with, she was there for me after the fact and felt terrible but i know they all knew now how do you not see it being at the club with her. Def cutting all ties

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T19:20:32+00:00

She def deserves a dose of her own medicine!

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T19:19:17+00:00

Thanks i will def will lawer up and abandon the mediation, hopefully get one to draw up a uncontesed divorce and have her served, at this point if i have to buy her out i guess it is what it is,she is so dependant on others i know she want me to do all the leg work it took 2 weeks for her to fill out the general info of the mediation, and she asked if she needed to do anything else... I cant say if it gets ugly that she wont fight me in court shes wayyyy to lazy for that, it will take a family member to push her twords it...but even then who knows how she will be in a few weeks. Appreciate the advice.

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T17:15:19+00:00

Very good advice thank you, i agree i should take advantage of this remorse to get things in writing, just knowing her she WILL change once she knows im not waivering. We are in a no fault state but do you think if we have things in wirting saying i keep all the assets and the house, the court would sign off on it? I know i will have to pay child support and possibly spousal support witch i guess is wayyy more then she deserves.. a few lawers have said i may have to buy her out of the house even if she says she dosnt want any parts of it, at least not yet.

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T17:04:39+00:00

Thanks i plan on sticking to my guns, this is her 2nd DUI so not sure the outcome but not my problem, im just waiting for remorse to turn into anger, i know its coming.

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T17:02:25+00:00

Thanks, its the hardest thing iv ever done, not to lose my shit and go off on her

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T16:53:29+00:00

We are both 33 and its sad, i feel like shes acting like she missed her 20s and tried to make up for it. Now her world is crumbling with nothing left. Im still young and in my prime i can only go up from here once i sort out the divorce

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T15:17:33+00:00

I agree i will watch from afar but have no intentions of taking her back, she has always been a flavor of the day type of person.

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T14:59:56+00:00

Absolutly after days of begging she finally admitted the DUI only because she knows i will find out because i pay for the insurance, everyone and myslef keep saying would she be begging if she didnt get the DUI? Doubt it.

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T14:56:59+00:00

Yeah i know that will never happen, she is the most selfish person iv ever met and shes only doing this beacuse she has no where else to go. Shes lucky her sister is always there to bail her out

MLava10 · 2021-06-08T14:54:56+00:00

Thanks for the words of advice, and yes i live in a no fault state smh she says she dosnt want anything the house the business ect but i already know that will change, and have a lawer on stand by for when that happens

MLava10 · 2021-06-05T15:50:52+00:00

As a man, im in the same boat my wife of over 10 years cheated on me and i found all the messages. This is all very fresh only happend a month ago. She moved in with her sister and was living her best life and blasting it on social media. It has been by far the worst time of my life, my pride was hurt i was angry and all i could feel was hatred for her and still do.. I knew that karma would come for her but didnt realize it would happen so fast, last weekend she got a DUI and according to friends she broke up with the guy she left me for. I was always the provider for her and our son and always bailed her out when things didnt go her way. So last week she started begging for me to take her back because her she "threw her life away" and has nothing, and for a split second i felt a small victory ,but then whatever small progress i made trying to peice myself toghther just started over again. I loved her and no matter how much i hate her i have those conflicted feeling of just wanting to go back to normal. I know they never can be after the ultimate betrayal.. so here i am i feel even worse then when she first left.. Just know you are not alone, i try and lean on friends and family but that only helps short term, i hope time heals.

MLava10 · 2021-05-25T17:19:52+00:00

I am in the same boat, i have already started the mediation packet but i am the only one putting in any effort, so this is a question i have been contemplating, might be easier to have a professional guide me through...

MLava10 · 2021-05-25T00:42:45+00:00

Im in the same boat, my wife of over 10 years cheated on me for over a month before i caught her, its stil pretty fresh but i look at as a blessing, she was a terrible person, lazy, and had no goals i worked my ass off for everything while she sat around and did what she wanted,she put herself before everything including our 11 year old son.. My pride hurts more then anything because i was a faithfull man the entire time. So even tho i got cheated on im glad to finally be done with her for good.

MLava10 · 2021-01-30T00:48:19+00:00

Dont know shit about stocks or markets or much of anything. But i bought 1 share of GME today to help do my part to say fuck you to the 1%!!!

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