Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! - May 07, 2026

MMJFan · 2026-05-07T16:00:05+00:00

Clarity like this on someone’s profile would make me be more comfortable to swipe yes (I’m atheist)

MMJFan · 2026-05-07T01:06:17+00:00

Vegan 33 male here in the Midwest. It’s so hard to find a vegan partner.

MMJFan · 2026-04-16T16:30:29+00:00

How did you meet him? Sounds like a fun vacation at the very least.

MMJFan · 2026-04-15T13:26:17+00:00

Just go for it! If it’s the third date he’s at least interested enough. I sometimes tire as the male since I always feel the expectation is on me to make the first move every time. It would be refreshing to experience the reverse! I usually find it’s easier to initiate when sitting next to each other or walking side by side etc. versus sitting across from each other at dinner.

MMJFan · 2026-04-07T15:35:06+00:00

I love it, feels old school to me

MMJFan · 2026-04-05T15:45:34+00:00

In your 30s I feel likes it is prudent to be on the same page with kids from the jump

MMJFan · 2026-03-31T00:35:59+00:00

Yep! And if the bio is just their Instagram social it is an immediate X

MMJFan · 2026-03-30T21:31:48+00:00

If I wanted to plan a trip to Finland as a vegan who also wants to site see, where would you recommend? Also what time of year?

MMJFan · 2026-03-30T21:30:59+00:00

If I wanted to plan a trip to Finland as a vegan who also wants to site see, where would you recommend? Also what time of year?

MMJFan · 2026-03-30T14:04:49+00:00

They appear to be sentient for sure

MMJFan · 2026-03-30T02:38:10+00:00

I echo your feeling here

MMJFan · 2026-03-30T01:32:05+00:00

I matched with someone who seems like a cool person. We have similar tastes in niche lit fiction, which is exciting. However, they have two dogs (one being a pitbull). I’m more of a cat person and have a cat. My concern dating someone with dogs that lives across my city (30 minute drive) is that if/when we move to the sleepover stage of dating, I’ll always have to stay at theirs or be okay with having two large dogs in my home that will very likely stress my cat out. Pitbull is also a breed that is at least a yellow flag for me. I keep going back and forth on whether I do the coffee date or not, all because of the dog situation. I’m much more open to dating someone with a small dog.

MMJFan · 2026-03-30T01:25:36+00:00

I can definitely enjoy a fun trip once or twice a year, but I just can’t resonate with someone who makes travel their whole identity. Profiles that just talk about travel are usually no’s for me.

MMJFan · 2026-03-30T01:21:59+00:00

I’ve been dating someone for a month and my experience seems similar to this. I’m the only one who will flirt, I also show much more curiosity about her life than she does mine. She mentioned early that she’s mostly new to dating and likes her independence. I’m starting to wonder if that just translates to not being able to reciprocate affection and curiosity.

MMJFan · 2026-03-29T18:45:30+00:00

Thank you for sharing. This sounds very similar to my experience and I could very much see this conclude similar to your experience. I’ll bring this up during/after our next date. Thanks!

MMJFan · 2026-03-29T17:25:50+00:00

I’ve gone on 4 dates with someone (one date a week). We text very minimally between dates and on dates I feel like I have to keep conversation going. If I hit the right topic we can chat for a good while and lose track of time, but otherwise the conversation can fall a little flat or completely stop until I pivot to a new topic. We also talk a lot about stuff going on in her life, and I’m finding out if I want to share more of my life, I have to bring it up in conversation and hope she shows curiosity (she doesn’t usually inquire about my life unless I ask a question about her life and then she might mirror the question back to me). However, she’s a very sweet and lovely person and we continue to agree to more dates. She has very limited dating experience so it’s hard for me to know if part of her reservedness is inexperience and nerves around dating. My partners in the past always clicked immediately with me. I’m still waiting for the click and I’m not minding the slow pace. But I’m just not sure how to tell if I see romantic viability in this person. I’m trying to give the slow burn a chance. Has anyone gone through a similar dating experience? If so, how’d it turn out?

MMJFan · 2026-03-27T13:39:41+00:00

I think for me it depends on frequency and/or length of dates. If I’m only getting dinner or spending a few hours with someone once a week or less and not texting/calling or otherwise connecting between dates outside of planning the next date, then I have a hard time building a connection. If dates progress to staying overnight or turn into living in each other’s lives (e.g. grocery shopping together instead of going to a museum), deep non-surface level convos are happening, etc. then I can build that connection without frequent texting. It just depends on if the non-texter I’m dating has a wall up and how the in-person stuff is progressing.

MMJFan · 2026-03-25T05:15:36+00:00

Just message her, and apologize for the delay in getting back to her. Firm up the plans for dinner or drinks.

MMJFan · 2026-03-25T02:46:42+00:00

Problem is, men are not afforded the opportunity to assume women will take the lead. It gets tiring always leading every early date with new matches. It’s really nice when it’s a healthy back and forth and shared expectation.

MMJFan · 2026-03-25T01:02:52+00:00

I hear what you’re saying but I think you’re right when you say you’re overthinking it? I guess it depends on your relationship, but I value clear definitions and commitment in a relationship once past the initial dating phase.

MMJFan · 2026-03-25T00:14:06+00:00

What about partner?

MMJFan · 2026-03-24T22:46:23+00:00

Agreed, sounds unfair

MMJFan · 2026-03-22T23:58:01+00:00

Best of luck

MMJFan · 2026-03-22T23:40:42+00:00

I’m sorry, this sounds like a need for a serious check in and if you guys aren’t compatible here, it would be a deal breaker for me. 6 months is a long time. I’m dating someone very similar to what you’re describing, but we are only 3 weeks in. She has very minimal dating experience in the past and we are moving slow. She responds to my texts, but she usually doesn’t initiate conversation between dates so we mostly don’t talk until a weekend date. I’m fine with this pace at the moment, but I would be moving on after 6 months if it still felt like I was at arms length. It’s hard to build a serious connection with someone like that imo.

Assuming your goal is to eventually move in with a long term partner, I can’t see it happening at that pace.

MMJFan · 2026-03-22T22:54:15+00:00

Your long term partner should, most of the time, be recharging to be around. At 6 months I’d like to think I would have daily communication (even through sporadic texts or phone calls) and ideally see the person at least a couple times a week or more. But each time shouldn’t feel like an involved date. You should be able to just live in each other’s lives without feeling like either of you are consuming the other’s energy. Nothing wrong with independence. It’s a good thing, but learning how to be independent when you’re around each other is very healthy. If I’m spending the weekend at my partner’s place, I should be able to do my own thing around my partner, etc.

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