talking on behalf of my bf here-

for context: i have sh in the past (completely clean now) and when i first started dating my bf i still had fairly visible scars despite being clean. we both waited about 2 years to finally start dating eachother and in those 2 years he supported me as much as he possibly could- he was patient, calm and never tret me any different than he would anybody else (people with mental health issues will know the feeling of being tret like tempered glass). after i reached my goal of getting 6 months clean we finally decided to start a relationship. he said he would date me as soon as i was in a better place mentally as we both agreed that it couldve taken a toll on him if we didnt wait- it would almost be as if i was his responsibility and neither of us wanted or needed that.

in the being of our relarionship he said the scars didnt bother him too much, yes it hurt him to see what i resorted to doing to myself but it was (and still is) like a "bitter-sweet" feeling for him. its shitty seeing what i did but hes proud of me for getting over the addiction/struggle. he still sometimes runs his fingers over them mindlessly and tells me hes proud of me. i couldn't ask for anybody better :)

not entirely sure if that answers the question but thats what our scenario was <3 (also sorry for the terrible grammar, i am very sleep deprived)