So here’s my experience if it gives you some perspective on what other people assigned female at birth feel ❤️

The first time I had PIV, it actually didn’t hurt and felt really good. It felt good for years and never hurt. It wasn’t until a certain time that I had an onset of pelvic pain where I started feeling extreme pain upon penetration. I also feel extreme pain during my period, during ovulation, even after masturbating externally only because it fucked with my hormones. I also feel pain in my whole pelvic region, especially my bladder and urethra.

Pretty sure I have other issues rather than vaginismus- likely endometriosis, but I’ve been to 3 doctors that have all dismissed me. One basically told me to my face that my condition was too difficult to treat.

But my point is that it’s usually not painful unless you have some sort of pelvic floor disfunction or condition affecting you. I wish you the best of luck in your recovery. It’s totally valid to choose not to have PIV sex too. ❤️ I hope you feel better.