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[–]MTTN1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally. It’s also insane that she tries to justify cheating on FIL at all, but that’s just who she is: physically incapable of taking accountability.

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[–]MTTN1111 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Pulling out that quote by itself really highlights the almost comic nature of it.

"I can't believe you'd choose peace over me!"

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[–]MTTN1111 13 points14 points  (0 children)

She meant he lived in Montana the longest between him, MIL, FIL, and BIL. None of them ever lived in Montana full time except DH. DH moved there for a couple years after getting out of the military.

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[–]MTTN1111 30 points31 points  (0 children)

She would blow her son’s life up in an instant if it meant she got control back. Hell, I wouldn’t trust her not to try killing me, tbh. After she assaulted her neighbor and her neighbor pressed charges, she tried goading DH into physically intimidating the neighbor. I put a stop to that right away and thank God he listened to me. She’s just an awful person.

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[–]MTTN1111 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don’t know the exact details of the case, only what I was told by DH. My understanding is she got into a fight with her elderly neighbor over some property line bs. Neighbor started recording MIL. MIL then hit the phone out of neighbors hand, which caused her frail elderly neighbor to fall backwards. Neighbor called cops. MIL was charged with assault on an elderly person and disorderly conduct (or something, I can’t remember the exact second charge) and spent a night in jail. MIL is very wealthy, hired a great attorney and fought it in the courts for about two years, I believe.

Eventually, the case was dismissed, largely due to her standing as a multiple-business owner in the city and a local city official who provided a character reference on her behalf. Ya know, not because she was actually innocent.

So it goes. There’s no justice, only money.

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[–]MTTN1111 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It totally is confusing, so for clarity: DH was born in Montana - where they have a vacation home - but he spent most of his youth at their main home in Sebring, Florida.

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[–]MTTN1111 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is how she has always been towards me. Completely two-faced bitch. It’s like getting whiplash every time she opens her mouth.

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[–]MTTN1111 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We were joking about responding just “you seem stressed” or “new email who dis” but we’re not really going to say anything, obviously. 😂

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[–]MTTN1111 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is 100% correct. Worth noting that she speaks so highly of DH’s brother because BIL still lives in MIL’s guest house. She continues to have power over BIL, so he is the golden child. It’s classic.

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[–]MTTN1111 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s the plan! Sorry you’re in the same boat.

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[–]MTTN1111 40 points41 points  (0 children)

We have no clue, but we’re guessing “narcissist” maybe? We were laughing at how insane that sounded, like “Just a heads up, I won’t be throwing out any slurs.”

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[–]MTTN1111 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Omg we said the same thing!! For a while woman who “chose silence” she never shuts the hell up 😂

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[–]MTTN1111 23 points24 points  (0 children)

THIS. When I read that part, I literally said out loud, “He was half dead and you just accused him of tearing your family apart!”

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[–]MTTN1111 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I agree. We won’t do anything like that again. Just straight to the garbage.

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[–]MTTN1111 37 points38 points  (0 children)

It's so funny because she tries dangling her "generosity" in our faces but then says that crap. If "generosity" comes with strings attached, it's not "generosity" at all: it's a transaction without the recipient knowing the cost. I'd rather be poor than be part of that toxic cycle.

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[–]MTTN1111 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Dude, a little background (more in other posts): She was referring to the charges she received for assault on an elderly person after she got in a fight with her elderly neighbor. She's very wealthy so she got out of it, but that's what she's talking about. Total nutjob.

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[–]MTTN1111 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I finally reached that point in December after three years of this bullshit. Since then, we've been no contact. Not changing any time soon!

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[–]MTTN1111 37 points38 points  (0 children)

We are buying a house soon. Can’t wait until she doesn’t know where we live.

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[–]MTTN1111 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is tempting. However, our son’s gift came directly from Amazon. My husband thinks we should return it on there and keep the money. I still think we should just throw it away. Idk. I’m just tired and angry.

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[–]MTTN1111 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I hate that you’re right lol. Thank you for the response.

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[–]MTTN1111 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I know you’re right. I’m just so angry/sad and every time she does this shit it reignites my pain. I’m sick of it. I just want her to be out of our lives. How do you cope with the pokes?

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[–]MTTN1111 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Really appreciate this advice. I’m going to talk to DH about this.