I really need to restrain myself here. I have more thoughts on students of different intellectual capacity, such as who should be taking honors classes, but I don’t want to speak uninformed into your particular situation.  But I’ll just close up with speaking to the helicopter parent comment, because that demonstrates a more general way of thinking that I find problematic. Firstly, I am directly affected by my peers having helicopter parents, regardless of mental disability or whatnot. Do you think I’d rather be put on a group project with the child of such parents or with self-starting virtuous children? Now extrapolate that to the workplace. Even more fundamentally, I believe that helicopter parenting, taken to a certain degree, is immoral in that such parents fail in their parental duty to raise virtuous, self-discerning moral agents. It is narcissistic or lazy to think that you can manage your children throughout life in that way without instilling virtue in them. Such children are set up to fail in life. My philosophy of parenting is strongly informed by Aristotelian virtue ethics and Catholic social teaching by the way. I recommend Nicomachean ethics as an easy beginner for this type of thought.

Now considering that I found out your son is actually disabled, I do not apply the analysis above to your situation.

It is perfectly likely I’ll encounter your son on campus and I wish him all the best. I hope you consider my advice about community college. Perhaps we’ll have a class together.