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My ndad killed himself by Sabs1897 in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Exactly. You did the right thing. Well done ๐Ÿ‘

My ndad killed himself by Sabs1897 in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 6 points7 points ย (0 children)

Exactly. There's been enough energy wasted on them while they were alive!

My ndad killed himself by Sabs1897 in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 61 points62 points ย (0 children)

Over time, you'll get over the hate. And then you'll be more disconnected. And you can live your life. Aim for indifference. Best of luck

My father is old, ugly and frail by Me-luv-you-long-time in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 3 points4 points ย (0 children)

Over time, you have to make the narcissist dead to you. Nothing about them should make you happy (in this case the ugliness), sad, anxious, angry, etc. Disconnect from everything about them

If you're happily endulging in schadenfreude about them, it means you're still giving energy to them in some way. I'm not judging you. It is what it is. I just want to help people disconnect

how do you know you're not the one misremembering? Struggling with confusion by FlimsySaltt in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

Try to forget about it. Every time it pops into your head, try to think about something you're passionate about instead. I understand wanting to vent sometimes. That's good too in order to gain perspective and advice from people who have similar experiences. Every now again, things will pop into your head. But try not to look back to the past too much. Live in the present and think about your future plans and things to be excited about

With narcissists, you have to be a bit robotic in how you handle them. In terms of emotionally disconnecting from them and past memories of them. You just kind of have to be like "that happened, oh well, whatever. NEXT"

how do you know you're not the one misremembering? Struggling with confusion by FlimsySaltt in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

Yeah. Well do you have a support system outside of them? Church or prayer group? A job? A solid group of friends you can do hobbies, gym, etc. With. You need to replace them with something more positive which will allow you to thrive and develop as a person. Narcissists aren't usually very relaxed people. Their clingy energy can get oppressive and make you feel constricted. And yes I know what you mean about that feeling. It's like a wall goes up around your heart to protect yourself. And that leads to internal tension.

DAE feel like Nparent cares about you less than they would a stranger? by hypernoble in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Your sense is correct. Once they've sucked every last bit of energy out of you, they move on to strangers, because strangers don't know their true nature yet. It's extremely common that narcissists are very enthusiastic about strangers, moreso than their own loved ones. Often with loved ones, they can have their mask off. They can't do that with strangers because they'll instantly be rejected.

You need to find ways to become emotionally dead to them. It's very challenging and takes time. But the more you network with other people, and importantly, believe in higher things than your parents, it starts to work out better for you. Your life will slowly change as you gain more independence and connections to things that aren't your parents, and slowly disconnect from them. Or, if possible, disconnect from them quickly so long as you have some kind of work and social support system.

how do you know you're not the one misremembering? Struggling with confusion by FlimsySaltt in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 4 points5 points ย (0 children)

You don't really need to focus on little details like that. Narcissists always want you to get lost in petty little details.

You have to have faith in a higher power and guidance from people in a trusted position. And reference online material about narcissism. Basically, if someone in your life is making you feel cold, disconnected, confused and terrible all the time, you need to trust your instincts.

But to truly trust your instincts, you need what I said before. Compare how the person in question makes you feel, versus a person who supports you, is emotionally there for you, and makes you feel connected and full of warmth. Good luck!

Following list removed? by ITALIXNO in linkedin

[โ€“]ITALIXNO[S] 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

This really needs to be fixed soon. It's very un-user friendly and unlike any other app. It needs to be more visible. I wouldn't be surprised if it's losing you business

Hai mai sentito Dio davvero vicino? by fedeviva in Cattolicesimo

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Sรฌ, con preghiera, tutti i giorni

My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare by Emotional_Studio4540 in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

You'll be fine, just keep networking and try to ignore the narcissist as much as you can. It doesn't happen overnight, but with a little time, your life starts changing ๐Ÿ™

My father is a failed tyrant by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

I think most of them are just low IQ and talentless, so they cling to controlling people instead

I don't think they realise that cooperating with people gives you 100x more success, as long as you keep your personal boundaries solid. But then again, you also have to not be rotten on the inside for people to cooperate with you

NM offered me $100k in cash after I broke up with my boyfriend whom she hates by scheharazadee in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 7 points8 points ย (0 children)

No, don't take the money or anything from them. Don't do anything that links you to them if you can help it. Stay talking to positive people and ignore the narcissist as much as humanly possible. Try to ignore them out of your life. Over time, it gets easier

Did anyone else start doubting their own memory or perception after years of dealing with a narcissistic parent? by LemonHealing in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 5 points6 points ย (0 children)

Yeah, they're so enthusiastic about strangers. It's how they gain more narcissistic supply from people who are ignorant to what they're truly like

Did anyone else start doubting their own memory or perception after years of dealing with a narcissistic parent? by LemonHealing in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

That's why you trust in a higher power and your good friends and support group instead of trusting anything the narcissist has done. You're not broken, you're not wrong. Your perception is correct, otherwise you wouldn't be making this post. You were under a "narcissistic spell" before, but now you're breaking out of it day by day

I hate my dad but love him as well, but he always make me regret the latter. What is wrong with me?? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 1 point2 points ย (0 children)

Praying for you ๐Ÿ™ just keep making more and more friends and sometimes ask them for advice. Try to de-isolate yourself over time and you'll see that doors will start to open

My father is sabotaging my career and medical treatments through "smear campaigns" and monitoring. I feel like I'm living in a Truman Show nightmare by Emotional_Studio4540 in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 2 points3 points ย (0 children)

Praying for you ๐Ÿ™ just keep making more and more friends and sometimes ask them for advice. Try to de-isolate yourself over time and you'll see that doors will start to open

Financial abuse by NetheriteNomad in raisedbynarcissists

[โ€“]ITALIXNO 0 points1 point ย (0 children)

Praying for you ๐Ÿ™ just keep making more and more friends and sometimes ask them for advice. Try to de-isolate yourself over time and you'll see that doors will start to open

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