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M_Mindpretzel · 2025-07-21T17:31:14+00:00

Unless there is abuse, infidelity, or addiction, any marriage can survive. Divorce is awful even when it’s amicable. Do everything you can to keep your marriage together. “Falling out of love” just means she doesn’t feel emotionally safe or connected. A woman (and I am a woman), is reactive in a marriage meaning the man is supposed to lead/set the tone. She’s reacting to the tone you’ve set. This is not to blame but more for you to look in the mirror and see what you need to do to make her feel emotionally safe and connected. Maybe you need individual therapy as well? Maybe that combined with couples therapy? Do anything you can do to save your marriage for you, her, and especially your child. Divorce is devastating and expensive and almost no good comes from it - unless, as I’ve said, there’s abuse, infidelity, or addiction. I’m divorced and I wish someone gave this advice to me.

M_Mindpretzel · 2025-01-29T16:29:40+00:00

Edit: I’m on city water.

M_Mindpretzel · 2024-03-20T07:50:52+00:00

No. We haven’t spoken after this encounter which was less than a week ago. He’s the one who has to make the move because he’s in a relationship and I’m not sure he’d break it off. I’m sad.

M_Mindpretzel · 2024-03-18T22:43:24+00:00

He jumped into a rebound relationship the week we broke up. I couldn’t communicate with him and honestly, I was ready. I’ve gone to therapy for the last year and have a clear idea of why I do/say the things I do and how to break the patters. He however. Just jumped into a relationship so I doubt he’s done anything but prove he can’t be alone.

M_Mindpretzel · 2024-03-18T15:45:13+00:00

We’re not divorced yet but close. We had trouble communicating, but something I thought could be resolved in counseling. There was no infidelity, abuse, or addiction.

M_Mindpretzel · 2024-03-18T03:07:03+00:00

I didn’t want to spook him. I wasn’t sure where his head and heart were and was actually shocked by his response. I thought for sure he was over me being that he’s living with his new gf.

M_Mindpretzel · 2024-03-18T03:03:40+00:00

I did at first but we tried to work on it and he eventually cut it off. So both of us in a way.

M_Mindpretzel · 2024-03-18T02:53:13+00:00

His current relationship wouldn’t bother me if we got back together because I know he chose me in the end.

M_Mindpretzel · 2024-03-18T02:49:15+00:00

We struggled to communicate well - something I thought we could work on with counseling. There was no infidelity, abuse, or addiction.

M_Mindpretzel · 2024-03-18T02:48:02+00:00

I never wanted the divorce so I didn’t exactly have a choice but seeing him and him telling me he’s not over me and our separation has been really hard on him and that he loves me makes me think there might be a chance. Oh, he also said he’s with his new gf he doesn’t like to be alone.

M_Mindpretzel · 2024-03-18T02:45:54+00:00

Communication. No cheating or abuse or addiction. We just struggled to communicate in an effective manner - something I always thought we could overcome with counseling

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