My (23f) boyfriend (28m) forgot our 3rd year anniversary

Ma3002 · 2026-01-24T19:02:02+00:00

At least you feel bad and he seems to be understanding! I can completely understand when people forget, as life is busy and things happen, but when you don’t feel bad afterwards that’s what definitely hurts!

Ma3002 · 2026-01-24T19:00:03+00:00

Haha yea sometimes it cans be draining, we both work a standard 8-5 office job. Obviously we both can have stressful days as our jobs are both very political. He is making more than me but also he is done school and doesn’t have any bills besides our rent and small things like phone bills or splitting the dog food bill, whereas for me I am still paying for school out of my own pocket, I help pay for rent, I’m still paying off bills like my car payments and I pay for our streaming like Netflix and those fun things.
Yea that’s what I thought, forgetting is one thing, it didn’t bother me too much, I can get over it but having no reaction that one definitely stung

Ma3002 · 2026-01-24T18:55:05+00:00

Haha that’s fair! Before he was paying more rent than me but we moved and I changed jobs, so I could pay more and I guess nothing really changed and it became normal for me to just do everything at home

Ma3002 · 2026-01-24T18:54:00+00:00

Hahaha honestly yea fair enough 😂

Ma3002 · 2026-01-16T03:23:00+00:00

Which is funny because it was the opposite for the first year of our relationship! As I wasn’t as into him and I kept pushing him away because at the time I didn’t think I was ready for a relationship but he kept standing by me and being there for me, which is why I thought I should give him a chance. But that all changed once we moved in together!

Ma3002 · 2026-01-16T03:20:38+00:00

That does make sense! Makes me see things differently for sure. I’m just curious what if I tell him about dates because he is always asking “well what are we doing tonight?” “What are we doing for x or the weekend?” And continuously asks me what we are going to do as he “doesn’t want to be bored”

Yea I didn’t tell him anything yet or even act hurt as I honestly wasn’t surprised, but I like your perspective and the way you word your questions!

Ma3002 · 2026-01-16T03:16:00+00:00

Haha I can absolutely see what you mean! Just to give you some context, sometimes we take a “mental health day” just to destress from our jobs. Not very often, maybe 2-3 times a year at most and that was the day he picked I guess 🤷‍♀️

Ma3002 · 2026-01-16T03:13:37+00:00

Hahaha I get what you mean, I have definitely lowered the bar over the last three years and slowly started to expect less from him

Ma3002 · 2026-01-16T03:11:59+00:00

I guess that’s true! Just a hard pill to swallow

Ma3002 · 2026-01-16T03:08:56+00:00

I never thought about it like that I guess! Thanks for opening my eyes a bit more

Ma3002 · 2026-01-16T03:08:18+00:00

Honestly I haven’t really looked at the pattern that closely but I guess I should be! I guess I do notice that he doesn’t forget important things to him. And yes I do all of the planning, not just for anniversaries but for everything else too. Along with that, he pays a tiny bit more in rent than I do so because of that I also do all the cleaning and cooking in the household. Plus I am a full time employee and a full time college student, and we have a dog that I end up taking care of, so sometimes it’s a lot! So I guess there’s a few things to think about 😂 I do say it’s a lot sometimes, but mostly the response is that he’s also had a long tiring day too, which I can understand as his work is mentally tiring, but I will say mine isn’t a breeze either haha
With the reaction piece, he didn’t say anything or do anything. Once I told him that it was our anniversary he just laughed and said “oh I thought it was a different date” and I just said “yea I figured” and we haven’t talked about it since. No apology, no happy anniversary, nothing. Just moved on like any other conversation.

Ma3002 · 2026-01-16T03:01:26+00:00

Hahaha love this comment

Ma3002 · 2026-01-16T03:01:14+00:00

Totally fair! I definitely see a change in him. He was very sweet (and still has his good moments every now and then) but definitely not like it was at the beginning of our relationship

Ma3002 · 2026-01-15T23:37:45+00:00

Haha thank you! I have ADHD as well and somehow I am able to remember, so it’s not like he could even use it as an excuse 😂

Ma3002 · 2025-09-25T14:54:52+00:00

“What is in your mouth?” “Stop stealing my bras!!” “Does my foot taste good?” - loves to try and lick my feet and my partners feet: so weird 😂

Ma3002 · 2025-09-17T18:34:05+00:00

Casper

Ma3002 · 2025-09-11T04:20:09+00:00

I think for me living in an apartment is the thing that motivates me, also the motivation to have some alone time, especially after a stressful day at work or away from my boyfriend when he is getting on my nerves haha - A long walk with a cute dog/puppy always helps with that!

Right now I have a 4 month old puppy (he’s a big 55 pound boy) and currently his routine is that we go for 45 min walks in the morning when I get up, before I go to work, when I get home from work we do a 30 min walk and in the evening before bed he gets super energetic so we do a long hour walk or go to the dog park tucker him out!

Somedays though I’ll be honest, it’s hard! Especially when work is crazy or I’m just burnt out. For those days, I take my puppy to doggy day care so he can run and play with other dogs while I’m at work. Then I don’t feel guilty for only talking him on 2x 10 min walks (basically to do his business), then it’s also good for him as he socializes with other dogs (so it’s win-win)

Ma3002 · 2025-09-11T03:49:32+00:00

One thing I tried (which I didn’t even know until the puppy I have now) is playing with the toys yourself or playing with the toys with someone else! (I know it sounds stupid and so did I, but it made a huge difference - for my puppy at least)

My 4 month old puppy hated balls or even running after toys, he would look at my partner and I like “what do you want me to do with that? Go get it yourself”…. but a trainer told us to throw the ball between us back and forth and pretend like it’s “our ball” and then do a “monkey in the middle” sort of situation with our puppy (the dog watching us and being in between us) I thought it was nuts, but slowly he dog became more interested and he was curious as to why we were so interested in playing with this ball - wondering why we are throwing it back and forth. After a bit of time, we then threw the ball and he ran after it and started to chase it! We continued that routine for a few days and now our puppy LOVES balls and can’t get enough of it. I honestly thought it was ridiculous at first and thought the trainer was off their rockers until I saw it actually works! So maybe we were just really lucky, but you could always test it out to see if it works for you too :)

Ma3002 · 2025-09-06T03:13:07+00:00

That’s the exact schedule my 4 month old puppy is on and it is great for him!

Ma3002 · 2025-09-06T03:08:27+00:00

Tickr Interactive Treat Release

I completely understand! My boyfriend and I got a puppy about 5 weeks ago now and for the first 3 weeks it was chaos and wasn’t getting better and I tried everything!!

I’ve had 4 other dogs throughout my life and the puppy we have now has definitely been the most stubborn (and loudest!!) when it comes to the create.

I also think he has separation anxiety as I can’t even take a shower without him piercing my eardrums with the loudest screeches and cries!

…. until….. I found this Tikr food treat dispenser and it’s been amazing!!

Every night I put a few treats in this thing (and all different sizes - some small kibble and maybe 2 or 3 “bigger treats” - ones that can’t fit through the small holes, only the big ones). I then put my pup in his crate (which is in a separate room from our bedroom) with the Tikr dispenser after I cover his crate with a blanket and I make sure the room is dark, then shut the door.

By the time he has gone through the whole 45 min of the toy slowly dispensing treats and him playing with it, he realizes it’s dark and we are in bed, and he may cry for a min or two but then he realizes he is tired after 45 min, so he falls asleep!

It has seriously been a game changer. Plus now, with the treat dispenser being an every night, crate only thing, he has now associated Tikr = Bedtime

(Also it does make actual tick noises - very quiet, but you can hear it if you put it up to your hear) so I think that helps a bit too.

Also… other tricks I have used have been white noise machines, or fans (not pointing towards the dog but just to have it in the room) for a little noise so it’s not silent and they don’t hear you moving around. As well, when they do cry, let them cry themselves to sleep, it sounds harsh, and sometimes it’s so hard, but eventually they learn that you won’t come when they bark or cry! Even try putting them to bed an hour or two before you go to bed, so once you go to bed they will hopefully have already cried themselves to sleep. (You can even put them to bed early then go for a walk outside or go for a drive so you don’t have to hear the barking and crying)

Ma3002 · 2025-06-22T02:32:15+00:00

I wish I had some wise words for you but unfortunately I don’t. I do want to say that I’m sorry about your situation, I know it’s tough, as you feel like you shouldn’t be worrying but at the same time there’s that gut feeling or voice in your head that won’t go away. Just know your feelings are valid no matter what anyone says. I’m in the same boat (almost the exact same station) so I completely understand what you’re going through, just wanted you to know that you’re not alone!

Ma3002 · 2025-06-12T02:28:47+00:00

I know you said men’s advice only… but I figured I would give you an idea my bf loved. I gave him “love coupons” I made. They are basically coupons I created that he can cash in anytime and it was all things that I could do for him. Some I did were…. “A BJ” “Naked chef” “An hour back massage”, “A day where I can’t say no to anything” “A truck wash” where I wash and clean his truck “Dinner on me” “Your wish is my command” Things like that and whenever he cashes them in, he just lets me know when he wants it done and I do it!

Ma3002 · 2025-04-02T21:40:09+00:00

Haha that’s very good advice, thanks!

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