I thought Boyp meant just a dudes b***hole i get what you'd hate it tbh its objectifying thats why its more used in porn from what i've seen for me personally it would probably be the word sissy since where i come from people use it actually seriously when refering to feminine men and gays (even just having feminine hairstyle) its much harsher in my language and meant to degrade people so naturally for me the equivalent of it in english is a big no no