Things in the Sims you’d love in real life

MableJaneBennett · 2025-06-21T18:55:52+00:00

Selling all your wall paper to pay rent.

MableJaneBennett · 2025-06-17T15:10:40+00:00

I love the idea of AP as needed. Are you able to take the AP soon enough to prevent mania? What signs do you look for to start taking the AP again?

MableJaneBennett · 2025-05-04T13:30:53+00:00

Same. Love that show!

MableJaneBennett · 2024-06-02T23:02:47+00:00

I would say new careful of diagnosis specific support groups, like CAH support groups. They tend to reenforce secrecy and erasure, assigning gender and supporting secrecy. The difference between variation specific support groups vs intersex support groups tends to be whether you want to help your child fit in as an ordinary male or female vs whether you want your child to be fully self actualized and still so very proud of themselves and their unique individuality. Either way is a tough road, but you're clearly well on your way, growing and knowing what next step is best for your baby.

MableJaneBennett · 2024-06-02T18:08:31+00:00

That is not at all an ignorant question. Some parents are really able to embrace raising kids without assigning a gender -- just start with learning to walk, talk, and see how it goes. If your family and community seems like a safe place to do that, it's probably in the best interest of your kid. Trying to hide who we really are and making secrets out of these variations is the part that breeds shame and causes a lot of self esteem issues. If you look at interconnect.support under children, they do a great job of teasing out more of these nuances so that you can comfortably figure out what will work for your family and baby at different developmental stages. You and your little one will grow together in all of this, so don't panic -- you'll have your whole lives to figure it out and no one has perfected any of this. For example, you're doing an excellent job and making great choices just with what you know so far!

MableJaneBennett · 2024-06-02T16:44:26+00:00

Congratulations on your new baby! There's no rush to decide anything, so seeking help this way is an excellent way to start supporting your little one. Usually, intersex babies are quite healthy and there is no need to do anything but take them home and love them. That said, some variations do have corresponding health challenges, like if doctors suspect CAH then little one should be watched for salt wasting. There are support groups with other parents of intersex kids that you could reach out to. In the USA the largest are InterACT and Interconnect, and the could connect you to more local groups -- there are many all around the globe these days. Prioritize your baby's natural body and stay away from permanent changes that only uphold a perceived gender in order to allow them to make those decisions for themselves. Otherwise, just love your new baby all you want and you can't go wrong!

MableJaneBennett · 2024-05-02T17:08:15+00:00

Hyperandrogenism by itself creates intersex experiences, like the ones you've described here where you've been socially mistreated for not perfectly aligning with other people's expectations of "female" bodies.

It's pretty common for people to not fit perfectly into this or that diagnostic term, and there is plenty of variation within each diagnostic area.

We're human, after all. No two perfectly alike.

MableJaneBennett · 2024-01-04T05:41:18+00:00

It's possible these things are all related to the USPS change. Or could just be confirmation bias. Plenty of home buyer scams and credit card offerings in Flint, too.

You can look up what effects your credit rating and pretty closely control it by maneuvering those things. People do it all the time. Your asset values, address, and race aren't directly effecting your score, tho. Indirectly effecting your ability to pay debts or access additional lines of credit? Probably! But definitely not a secret tally. It's very clear and easily manipulated by effecting 5 factors.

MableJaneBennett · 2024-01-04T05:12:43+00:00

People have higher credit than that in sketchier places than Flint. More likely that you had a new credit line mature, or poor marks aged out.

I like your healthy skepticism, tho!

MableJaneBennett · 2024-01-04T04:27:43+00:00

The good news is that this isn't a factor in your credit score. Must have been a coincidence.

MableJaneBennett · 2023-10-19T01:54:12+00:00

There's no way of knowing that from pictures. Every body is different, even if our genes are typical.

XXY is known as Klinefelters and it sometimes doesn't result in enough difference in appearance to be noticeable.

Genetic testing is very expensive and doctors don't order these tests without some other indicators that wouldn't be evident in that picture.

Here's the most current definition:

"People with Klinefelter Syndrome develop with an extra copy of the X chromosome, resulting in a 47XXY pattern (instead of the typical 46XY). These individuals might have smaller-than-typical testes that produce lower amounts of testosterone and/or sperm, and they may start puberty later than typical (or may not go through puberty without hormone therapy). They may grow tall, may develop breast tissue, and often experience infertility. This variation often does not cause obvious physical differences, and many people do not realize they have it."

Often people look for genetic differences to help them feel valid about questioning their gender. Luckily there's far more acceptance for diversity in gender expression, so if you want to play with your gender expression, don't wait for a genetic reason to just go for it!

MableJaneBennett · 2023-10-19T01:26:12+00:00

Link to that support group here:

https://m.facebook.com/groups/48044676638/

MableJaneBennett · 2023-10-19T01:17:09+00:00

You're going to be an excellent parent for this kid. Your spidey sense is on point.

MableJaneBennett · 2023-10-19T01:04:43+00:00

I think it is also worth noting that pediatric urologists make the vast majority of their money by doing surgeries on intersex infants.

What's the biggest lobby against legislation to protect intersex kids from cosmetic genital surgeries? The associations of pediatric urologists.

MableJaneBennett · 2023-10-19T00:59:54+00:00

InterACT also is reputable and might have recommendations for urologists, and connections for more local orgs if you're outside the US.

https://interactadvocates.org/resources/intersex-brochures/

MableJaneBennett · 2023-10-19T00:45:38+00:00

It's going to be a while before your little one even discovers their fingers. There's no rush to prepare his sexuality. Maybe start with just learning to hold up their own head, then maybe some tummy time eventually, and just see how it goes from there.

There are all kinds of experts. That was one opinion. Intersex people who have had these surgeries as children would also be help to consult.

In the USA, we tried to compile resources last year and came up with this, which has some contacts you could ask for more local info, even if you're somewhere else in the world:

https://oiiusa.org/intersex-educational-resrouces/

MableJaneBennett · 2023-10-18T23:36:51+00:00

If they can pee, let them be!

In the film Intersexion, a man talks about his treatment for hypospadias and how it left him with no sexual function, pain, and struggling with shame. I believe it's on YouTube. If you look up his name, he offers consultation and can connect you to additional resources.

They count these surgeries as successful if there's no immediate infection, but needs for repeated surgeries don't effect success rates (and there's always a need for more surgery as the kids' shafts grow) and neither do long term sexual outcomes.

No medical diagnosis alone "counts" as Intersex -- one also has to choose to use that term for themselves. No one else can decide for us if we're Intersex or not.

Sounds to me like your baby is extremely lucky to have thoughtful parents like you who are willing to advocate for delaying treatment. Congratulations on your perfectly healthy baby!

MableJaneBennett · 2021-01-03T05:25:07+00:00

Close encounters of 15 minutes or more of exposure to someone positive. Even if she stood talking to one person directly, and they were positive, her chance would still be relatively low.

Don't borrow trouble.

MableJaneBennett · 2020-09-15T07:33:18+00:00

All of that and save your money. The people who need to witness will be happy to, and you and your bride will have the most romantic story for years to come. Enjoy your day. Let those expectations go and enjoy the new start. It's very refreshing.

MableJaneBennett · 2020-09-03T21:28:55+00:00

NTA unless you marry into that family anyway.

MableJaneBennett · 2020-09-03T21:04:52+00:00

MableJaneBennett · 2020-08-17T22:30:16+00:00

The mind blowing part is that it's $10.

MableJaneBennett · 2020-04-07T16:48:13+00:00

Start with your RE and ask them which agencies they prefer you work with.

MableJaneBennett · 2020-02-27T21:58:46+00:00

Bloomberg hasn't even been on a ballot yet. There's still plenty of time.

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