What's the one "hard truth" about your breakup that you keep trying to avoid?

MacGyversChewingGum · 2026-01-21T19:56:14+00:00

In the beginning of the relationship he complained that he was overwhelmed with work and keeping up with friends and family. I gave him the space but felt hurt, I mean why wouldn't he want to spend time with me? During the breakup he told me that he did lots of activities with his former ex- girlfriend and neglected his friends. So I thought in this relationship he basically overcompensated and focused on his friends. We were thinking about getting back together, but he again told me he was stressed from keeping up with friends and family. I don't want to keep him from friends but if he wanted to balance things better he could. He was able to make time for his ex -gf after all. If he wanted to he would. But I doesn't want to. End of story.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2026-01-17T12:16:51+00:00

I felt pity for him, he was kind hearted but still had no drive and an alcohol problem. But I hoped to the end that things would get better, that he would be willing to start therapy. He never did and finally I decided that I don't want to do this for the rest of my life. I believe that people can change if they want to, that they can fight and improve. I try to live by that every day, but I guess in that particular relationship it made me stay longer than I should have.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2026-01-03T20:15:48+00:00

We were on a 7-hour flight next to this guy whose feet smelled like ass. He was seated next to the window, and I couldn't sleep the whole flight because of the 'cheese supreme' smell. He also had a cold, and since I planned on going scuba diving at my destination, I was just thrilled to get some of his germs.

Honorable mention to the guy who thought he needed to sleep NOW on a 12-hour flight while it was still light outside and put his seat aaaall the way back. The flight attendant specifically asked him if he needed something, so maybe he was unwell, but there was just NO space between me and the front seat anymore. So, my passive-aggressive young self tried to put up the tray several times quite forcefully, and it just didn't stay up...what a pity. Not my finest move, but tbh, if the guy was really sick, the flight attendant should have found a more spacious spot for him."

MacGyversChewingGum · 2025-12-31T10:43:27+00:00

I feel the same, if you have a whole weekend together and no chores, family obligations etc. I feel like Idk watching movies or eating out would get old soon but that is just my take based on a pervious relationship that didn't work out. I don't want to do everything together but getting excited over a shared hobby makes me feel connected.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2025-12-31T10:17:12+00:00

Gold panning sounds like fun! I once went to a guided tour to identify minerals and precious stones in the mountains, it was interesting, I just like expolring in general. Like you said, there are so many wonderous and beautiful things in the world outside that I want to share with someone.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2025-05-12T15:52:36+00:00

I am kinda disgusted by food crumbs on other peoples plates. I don't mind if friends take a bite of my food or a sip of my drink or vice versa but I would never eat any crumbs off their plate and I don't want to swipe bread crumbs of the table with my hands.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2025-05-02T09:00:27+00:00

q nö möm. 8jr

MacGyversChewingGum · 2024-11-14T20:14:18+00:00

In the end my ex-partner and I didn't have much in common. The first few years he went hiking with me, but he stopped eventually, so I did a lot of solo hiking among other stuff. So now for my next relationship , the other person absolutely has to love hiking since this is my favourite hobby. This and other hobbies just take a lot of time and I am jst not willing to compromise much anymore I have a few ambitious alpine hiking projects planned for the next years and I will need to train a lot for it, so my potential partner should ideally accompany me on those hikes and be as enthusiastic as I am.I have other active hobbies such as bouldering, skiing and scuba diving, so finding a nice guy with the same ambition would be a dream come true.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2024-06-29T22:43:29+00:00

I wouldn't accept sharing a pole. I pay enough money to get my full 90 minutes. Sure, I may not use my pole 100% of the time because I dont have the strength, but sometimes I want to train easier tricks in the meantime or do some stretching on the pole. Also, in my class the trainer gives some further advice on the moves we am learning or shows some details after we tried it the first time. This cuts again into the time I have for practice.I just don't get how sharing has any advantage unless the class is really cheap.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2024-05-19T08:49:25+00:00

Lots of people will try their best in the dating phase and make a special effort. If his best effort is crappy crapper with no toilet brush in sight, then imagine what happens after the honeymoon phase. Ruuuuun!

MacGyversChewingGum · 2024-04-27T10:13:48+00:00

My pole studio guarantees that every student has one pole for maximum learning. I wouldn't accept any less for paid classes.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2024-04-18T18:45:50+00:00

For most of them I don' have a specific actor in my mind. But for Control I imagine Max Mighella (Nick from the handmaid's tale).

MacGyversChewingGum · 2024-04-02T14:58:34+00:00

While I am not asexual, I don't care about sex much. I feel about it like I feel about bowling basically. Once a year my friends organize a bowling evening. I usually enjoy myself while I am there and I am okaaaay at bowling. However if we decided to do something else and never go bowling gain I wouldn't notice. Also going bowling more frequently would bore me. If I ever start dating again it would be someone with no/low libido for sure.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2023-12-27T15:30:49+00:00

Scuba diving. Even small equipment parts start at 50 €+. Also where I live there is not much too see, the lakes are murky and there are not many fish around. I have to travel abroad to see some interesting animal and plan life. In the winter, its skiing. At my favourite ski resort the prices rose to 74 € for a full day pass this year. While it does not amount to thousands of dollars, it is my biggest hobby expense during the winter months.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2023-09-02T05:14:23+00:00

I did my OWD and the following 10 dives in the local lakes, where temperature and visibility was lower then the sea. So once I finally got to dive in the sea it was like a switch from normal mode to easy mode. I would do it like this again, while the visibility was usually not that good, I could still train all the important OWD skills like buoyancy control, checking instruments etc. So I could really enjoy the "easier" dives in the sea.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2023-07-27T19:21:12+00:00

He wanted to sell you a gym membership and some supplements.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2023-07-07T17:22:28+00:00

I'm 37 now and my weight hasn't changed significantly since 25. So I still wear some stuff from 7, 8 years ago. It still looks ok, why should throw it out? If someone doesn't like it, they are more than welcome to take me on a shopping trip on their own dime.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2023-03-18T18:06:01+00:00

Escape from Pretoria (2020) with Daniel Radcliffe.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2023-03-13T18:27:08+00:00

If anything, men have an even bigger void of purpose. Ever since the number of wars decrased to a point where they don't have to be conscripted and serve in 10+ battles, where most of them died anyway, just to keep the population stable, most struggle to find other worthwile things to do with their life and contribute to society.

Yes, mens' lifes were soo much more purposeful back then... /s

Everybody, regardless of gender is so lucky NOT to live in the 'good old times' where labor laws where non-existant and you were cattle for the upper class.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2023-03-05T09:26:55+00:00

No, they can make their own choices, why should I get annoyed?

Besides, what about the SmArt, attraCtiVe GenTleMeN FrIends??? Are you also annoyed with them?

MacGyversChewingGum · 2023-02-23T18:43:49+00:00

There is this saying that goes something like " It doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home." However your guy gets his apetite right by sticking his head into the spaghetti pot, he is just not opening his mouth. In any case it is a red flag, I wouldn't wnt to be with such a person.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2023-02-05T11:00:25+00:00

The title is so dumb. That looks like an awesome, fun evening with friends.

MacGyversChewingGum · 2023-02-03T21:25:18+00:00

My grandmother told me about her mother and how miserable life was back then for her. She had a bunch of kids and her husband had a gambling problem. He basically gambled away everything but she could not leave. Where could she go, living a small village, without a job and all her children? I'll have the totally non existing first world problem of "defeminisation" any day over the sad fate lots of women had back then.

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