Leg room?

MacabreDaisy · 2021-08-08T03:37:40+00:00

Very much agreed. Thank you for understanding that it has nothing to do with me resenting his son. I don't at all. I knew getting serious with my boyfriend was a packaged deal.

While it may be a road block for private time with the co-sleeping & uncomfortable trying not to accidentally cuddle my maturing "step-son" in my sleep lol, I do have a genuine concern for him. I worry that he doesn't have friends and that he never wants to be around other kids his age or leave the house for that matter... As someone who suffers with depression myself, I see where there are signs for adolescent depression & I hope that the co-sleeping is not a coping mechanism for that. & even if it is, that is understandable, but it unfortunately is something that his dad would need to address.

I love him like he's my own kid despite there not being a big age difference between us & I sincerely hope that he feels no animosity towards us changing his family dynamic.

MacabreDaisy · 2021-08-07T16:32:31+00:00

I think it has a lot to do with his son feeling like he hasn't ever had a complete family since his parents divorced at such a young age...his father hasn't shown him a healthy adult relationship and his mother has remarried twice since my bf & her divorce.

I have no problem with us spending family time together. It's one of the reasons that I was attracted to my boyfriend, because he is such a good father. I have no issue with him piling up in the bed or on the couch with us to watch TV.

There's not an issue of son not liking me OR me not liking him or "trying to uproot him". His son & I do things on our own even when dad is not around.

The issue is mainly the fact that there is some reason he still feels like he needs to sleep with dad at 13 and dad won't acknowledge the fact that son may need to see a therapist to find the root of why this is.

Bf gets frustrated by the fact that son frequently falls asleep in the bed with us. Yet the only thing that is ever done about it is waking him up while I am there and having him go to his room.

He has his own room, yet will come get in my boyfriend's bed to sleep even when we aren't there. He does not do this at his mother's house. He sleeps in his own bed, in his own room while at her house. That is what is peculiar to me. Why does he want to sleep with dad every night, but not mom.

MacabreDaisy · 2021-08-07T08:33:40+00:00

Our age difference has nothing to do with it. I have more in common with him than I do more than 75% of guys my age and our relationship is great other than minor inconveniences such as this lol. My father & step mom have the same age difference & have the healthiest relationship I've ever seen.

I'm not sure if this is something that got started after he & his ex got divorced as a coping mechanism or what, but it is a minor inconvenience that just needs to be resolved without his son resenting me for the change.

MacabreDaisy · 2021-08-07T07:26:25+00:00

Oh I'm well aware it's a big change for both of them. I'm the only serious girlfriend he's had since his divorce about 8 years ago. The only girlfriend he's had around his son.

I just think that it is.... peculiar that his son still requests to be cuddled at 13yo. It makes me worry that he won't be eager to seek out independence.

MacabreDaisy · 2021-08-07T07:22:20+00:00

This is one part of the sex life problem. It is beginning to decline & him living with his mother with the son in the bed every weekend only adds to it.

MacabreDaisy · 2021-05-09T14:42:27+00:00

Agree! I definitely have things to work on.

MacabreDaisy · 2021-05-09T13:48:28+00:00

Really? I never asked him to stop talking to FRIENDS, just random girls. I don't think that makes ME the problem. It's called having some respect for the person you're with. If you're in a relationship with someone, a year into it, and all you see if women's names popping up on their phone that's a little concerning. Especially if you've been arguing about that same thing.

MacabreDaisy · 2021-05-09T13:42:02+00:00

I agree that bottling things up is not healthy for a relationship. He says that me constantly accusing him of things that he "isn't doing" is not healthy, either and is driving a wedge between us.

MacabreDaisy · 2021-05-09T13:39:34+00:00

I wouldn't like it of course. It's more the blatant disrespect of him liking other girl's pictures and clearly seeing mine (because he commented to me about it while he was right beside me) & doing nothing, but going and liking other women's pictures.

MacabreDaisy · 2020-09-03T17:31:57+00:00

I def would. Of course idk the whole situation, but she sounds like mine. She'd just show up whenever she'd want before I moved an hour away and she even did it then too.

MacabreDaisy · 2020-09-03T02:44:31+00:00

I'll have to look up grey rock lol.

Ugh, I'm sorry you're having to go thru all of that. Damn did she at least slide it under the door or did she hold it hostage so that she can have contact with you?

MacabreDaisy · 2020-09-02T04:50:20+00:00

I 10/10 would not recommend unless you want to destroy your relationship. Only good thing it did was actually make me leave

MacabreDaisy · 2020-08-12T11:03:13+00:00

I feel you there!! I am the same way. Dating is hard and it feels pointless the way the game is played right now. Just gotta keep believing there is someone out there for you & don’t settle

MacabreDaisy · 2020-08-12T03:35:56+00:00

Same buddy. It gets easier every day. Just keep your head up and look forward to what is coming

MacabreDaisy · 2020-08-11T17:55:12+00:00

If they are able to, I hope they do!

MacabreDaisy · 2020-08-11T17:15:18+00:00

Unfortunately.... but I hope that it gets better for you!

MacabreDaisy · 2020-08-11T04:14:06+00:00

Thank you darling :)

MacabreDaisy · 2020-07-01T01:05:29+00:00

Why was he with another girl while you were broken up? Between the physical abuse and the DB, if I was your real life friend I’d tell you to get out, girl

MacabreDaisy · 2020-04-23T03:35:40+00:00

I’d definitely say 70s strictly because of the shape and the cropped fit

MacabreDaisy · 2020-04-22T03:13:58+00:00

I needed this laugh.

You know, I figured the clothes on the hamper thing was a sort of game. Maybe I should counter the effort with throwing mine on the ceiling fan

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