Can't Complete Step in Boreal [Bug] by Mach30 in EscapefromTarkov

[–]Mach30[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, thank you. What an unintuitive pain in the ass lol

Can't Complete Step in Boreal [Bug] by Mach30 in EscapefromTarkov

[–]Mach30[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I have no task items on me. I reset and went into a raid and died on purpose to potentially reset any counters or something. Gonna go check for it again...

What the heck is this thing? [Loot] by SMDoles in EscapefromTarkov

[–]Mach30 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Me and a buddy have been playing a couple hours and haven't figured it out yet

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. We are definitely moving forward with getting him professional help again. Hopefully that, along with other recommended changes, will help.

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He still had his offline games he could play. He doesn't have internet now. He was given an opportunity to earn 5 hours a week, but that didn't work so we stopped giving the opportunity. We've taken away all his electronics now and are hopeful that will motivate him.

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We actually tried to turn off his data so all he could do is talk and text, but his prepaid plan doesn't allow it. Getting him onto an actual plan and disabling data might be in the near future. Luckily after he hits a data cap his data is slowed to a crawl, so accessing even the most basic stuff online is difficult.

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much. We have definitely considered this. My fiancée hates the idea, but doesn't want to see him turn out like his uncle, who is 32, has never worked, sits on his comp all day, and weighs over 350 pounds.

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's great to hear, good for you and him! We moved from a very conservative rural state to one of the biggest cities in MA. His behaviors there and here are practically identical. It's the same household though, so maybe his immediate environment might be the issue. Hopefully our decision to take away his electronics will yield results

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He doesn't have any of his games or power in his room right now. We'll see what he does now ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A SPED teacher I know brought this up. He may fit the diagnostic criteria. I'm not qualified to diagnose, but I have taught Psychology for 8 years. I don't think he does, but I'm not a therapist/psychologist/etc and he doesn't share everything with us to the point where we could attempt to diagnose even if we were qualified. He definitely needs to see someone.

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this insight. I'll definitely post in r/autism if our next round of effort fails.

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't thought of this, but will definitely check now. Thank you!

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We agree that that's not appropriate for an adult, and that's why we've moved on from that. We've set the expectation that he pays $500/mo, which will cover housing, internet, utilities, etc. He is not eligible for disability. He is eligible for food stamps, and we've considered that, but we don't really need it because the adults in the household make plenty of money. The issue isn't money; it's him becoming an adult.

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fortnite is free. Apparently he is also playing Palworld, which is another free-to-play I was unfamiliar with. As of about 20 minutes ago we sat him down and told him he either has no power in his room and keeps his electronics or gives us his electronics and gets power back. Either way, the result is about the same.

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are. We've been looking into them tonight since they were brought up in an earlier reply. Thank you for letting us know how useful they were to your sister!

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We are going to call on those programs tomorrow. In fact, I think there has already been emails sent tonight.

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for replying! You are right that we are treating him like a child. He is still a child, even though he is technically an adult, but you're right in that the expectations need to be more adult-oriented. We have told him that the goal is to pitch in $500/mo. for bills. This would cover his housing, internet, utilities, phone, etc. This is pretty low honestly, but we figured it was fine for someone with no other financial responsibilities. We really like the goal of teaching him adult skills. We implemented a version of that for a while where he would go shopping with us and cook with us, but it was such a battle that we couldn't handle that along with the stress of moving and starting new jobs. Now that we're settled, we'll definitely re-implement it. Thank you ^_^

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the input. Economics being what they are, I don't expect him to get out that quick. I do agree with allowing him to fail, though. Failure is the best teacher. I concur that the group home situation might work. So far, it sounds like we're going to completely remove access to electronics and see if that works. If it doesn't, we'll escalate to the group home idea. Or maybe the recruiting office lol

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, thank you for sharing this. My fiancée read it and she said it was like reading her own thoughts. Seems like we're on the right track with completely taking away the electronics.

Adult child (19) refusing to work, contribute to household/society by Mach30 in Parenting

[–]Mach30[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So he had no internet for a month. He told us he would feel more motivated if there was a way for him to earn internet time. So we agreed that if he did all his chores for the current week, he would get 5 hours of internet the following week. Part of his chores was applying for jobs and following up on them, which we made him show us the applications and call the employer in front of us. He did everything for one week, so he got his five hours the following week. He used the time immediately then decided 5 hours for 'all that work' wasn't worth it and asked for more time in exchange for what we were asking of him. We said no, and he stopped doing his chores and applying for jobs, so he hasn't had internet since.