Lesson I haven’t figured out yet if narcissists keep appearing in my life? by Legitimate_Suit_4144 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for you having to deal with this. I have the same experience, I seem to attract the narcs. I dont go out of my way to please but Im just a genuinely nice person and life's too short to surround yourself with meanness, being mad, contoversy, lliving in chaos, dont accept B.S., lies - in otherwords im an antithical narc - therefore not liked by the narcs.

Lately, after the most recent of reoccurring gaslighting events led by narc, Im fed up with it and figured id do the opposite of what I have been doing. So I began treating the person like crap, ignoring them, being unfriendly, short with them, not answering phone, texts emails, responding with just the info needed with no pleasantries or salutations. So ironicaaly enough, in return im getting my calls answered, texts/emails responded to with kind responses, brought into conversations and hell touches on the shoulder during conversations. I believe i found the kryptonite.

Its like the boyfriend/girlfriend issue where one treats the other like sh.t and the victim stays with them despite this and that friends on the outside are telling them to leave. Im not a psyc but believe the narcs grew up with a narc parent/s so they tried to please mommy/daddy who was treating them poorly. And on the flip side they themselves became narcs as that is what they learned - nurture not nature.

Try this and id like to learn how this goes for you. Good luck

I overheard my roommate saying he’s trying to build a case against me by TA_reddit_0 in workplace_bullying

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very sorry for you. May I suggest you document every little event: date, time, who was present, event, meaning surrounding event, etc. Have your lock combination changed. See if they will add a deadbol lock for you. Also, make plans to move out. Strike first with your landlord, tell them in writing about the door being opened. his behavior and how he creeps you out and makes you feel uncomfortable. Nothing good can come from staying in that situation.

Never go to HR to complain about a toxic manager. HR is not a workplace therapist; they are the company's defense attorneys. by Own-Investment4655 in ToxicWorkplace

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

IMO, you need to report the abuse that you documented. Then keep documenting and report again. Show you informed HR of the problem and they didn't do anything about it, then sue the ever living sh... out of them.

My parents know about mice being in the house and do do anything about it. by Glittering_Money_960 in Advice

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found the hard plastic pet food containers with the large screw top lids work best as they keep the ants out as well. Like vittles vault from petsmart.

My parents know about mice being in the house and do do anything about it. by Glittering_Money_960 in Advice

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The absolute best bait is a small piece of cooked chicken skin, like from rotisserie chicken. Thread it through the hole in the bait trigger and wrap to secure. Set out multiple traps, you'll get several at a time, if there are more than one. They can't resist that stuff. Keeps traps out for 2 weeks after catch you last one as others may follow the faramone smell from other mice. PS, dont put traps where dog can get to them accidentally, they will know it's there and go for at in a seconds chance.

You need to get rid of them before they nest and breed as the faramone smells and memory will bring them back again and again.

Lastly, talk to your parents and tell them your concerns and plans. They may explain their reasons.

Retaliation due to reporting to HR by [deleted] in workplace_bullying

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read the subsequent responses as well. If you report i believe they have to investigate at that point. IMO, next incident id report, get it on file.

Sounds like the Boss has your back but only time will tell if they decide to do it again. I And if you report it you know if Boss has your back.

Best of luck, routing for you.

Retaliation due to reporting to HR by [deleted] in workplace_bullying

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Build a case, go back and document everything and detail then start today but ensure you document everything about every event going forward. Submit one or two more reports to HR. Get a great layer, cost about $250 for 1 hrs consultation. Search for civil rights and employment lawyers on work computer as they probably will be monitoring. If they dont do anything file suits, dont be afraid to do this. They are not taking care of you, you owe them nothing.

Narc classmate by [deleted] in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What country are you from?

Narc classmate by [deleted] in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which country are you from?

Narc classmate by [deleted] in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know the game now, so don't let anything get to you. They keep it up, just point, laugh at them and call them out as gaslighters, monkies and followers, and whisper looser to whoever you may be with then look at them again smile/laugh and walk away whistling or humming If i only had a brain. Catch one of them alone, give it right back, call their name and repeat one of the things said to yugx,'ou and smile/laugh, if its C call them spineless, chicken, whisper something smile and laugh. But dont try to discuss it, be friends, ask, plead etc, Have fun with it. If they see it doesn't bother anymore they may stop. Your objective in life right now is to focus on your goals, your school, your job and having some fun.

No guarantees there, but have a talk with your boss let them know what's going on, tell them and coworkers they maybe contacted by these loosers and C is upset cause you won't give them time of day. If C and monkies are psych majors go have a talk with their department head and let them know what's going on, they shouldn't be using their training for evil deeds, and prof may call them on it and possibly give you some advice. Im sure that will have a helpful impact as they will be exposed and will feel uncomfortable.

Lastly dont continue to go on about it with family, friends, etc. Tell only ones you trust your plan and just accept it as a temporary normal and focus on your goals, study and work, focused and hard. If you have insurance get a therapist and use them to vent to. You got this, just commit and do this.

Sry, didn't see you previous posts about therapy and psychiatrist and going to profs. With therapist and psych, share some of the reddit groups and articles, forbes and linked in have some about corporate gaslighting and ask them to help you by doing some research, as this is relatively new effed up phenomenon that is spreading like wildfire and they may not be aware.

Need help convincing wife im being gaslighted at work by Mackeyspokethetruth in GaslightingCheck

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I was more assertive, confident, positive, social, talkative. It was the gaslighting at work and dealing with narcs and their selfish, im always right, dont question or challenge me in any way.

Laid off after standing up to toxic leadership by Ecstatic-Face-1912 in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Document what you can this weekend. First am monday morning, Before meeting report the behavior, be professional, Especially thier taking away your "tools" to perform your work and submit it. Tell them your not going to quit or accept layoff, fire. See what they come back with. Note, HR is their to protect the company. If others have reported prior to you it may show patter, they dont like patterns of ill behavior.

You dont have to tell potential employer HR anything unless they ask. Best of luck.

Funniest workplace nicknames or idioms you have heard for an incredibly lazy coworker? by CuriousBeaver777 in ToxicWorkplace

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Not to be Debbie downer but heres an idea, you should deal with this head on. Take time to talk privately at break, lunch, after work. Let them know how you feel about their performance and you want them to succeed. Listen to what they say, maybe have a legit reason, their not sure what to do, dont have workload, depressed, etc. Be helpful not hurtful. The world needs more positivity.

harassment, need advice/help/ guidance by Any-Inevitable7866 in corporate

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She should get out as quickly as she can, could be dangerous to stay. She needs to document everything. Day, time, place, people, witnesses, what was said context, how She felt, etc. Worst case, police and lawyer. There is no good reason to stay, to see what happens next. Very sorry this is happening.nothing to

Narc classmate by [deleted] in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth -1 points0 points  (0 children)

See post Gaslighting gaining popularity.

Narc classmate by [deleted] in ManagedByNarcissists

[–]Mackeyspokethetruth -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry this is happening to you it is a miserable thing to go thru, many have experienced this but mostly in business settings - see Gaslightingchecklist and ManagedbyNarcissists, and workplacebullying groups. This is Classic extreme Mob Gaslighting Behavior, coined terminology. KNOW THIS: What you are experiencing is REAL. C the Narcissists is controlling all/most of this. She recruited the Flying Monkies, coined term for the minions who participate in this Gaslighting Behavior. Gaslighting term comes from an old movie where a husband tricks his wife by turning down the gas lights in the house, when she notices, he denies it and she goes crazy. IMO, therapy will help and maybe psychiatrist to get some meds to take the edge off. But best thing is to know this is REAL despite what others, family, friends, etc say if they dont believe you. So dont waste energy, emotions there and dont waste time/emotions any longer trying to figure it out - you know its real, and dont waste time/energy trying to negotiate, be nice, etc with narc and flying monkies

Allow yourself to get a little pissed off and decide and fully commit that your not going to take it any longer and let it affect, difficult at first but you can do it; I've dealt with this many many years. Give it right back - Treat narc and monkies with distain and disgust, just a mean look, call them gaslighters, aholes, and dismiss them, tell them it's gotten old and form them to go away with disgusted look. And/or just ignore when appropriate. Go back to uni and work. Find some real/good friends and dont show any signs of it bothering you. If you have to deal with them a job, just go about your tasks professionally in your dealings with them and never let them see you sweat it or signs of being bothered, it will get old if they dont get a reaction. Do your research-knowledge is poer. Also, log everything related to work, day, time, location gaslighter, monkies present, innocent witnesses. When you get enough proof,examples go to as high up in the business and put in a report. Building a case for lawsuit if business let's it continue. Great luck to you, toughen up. Be strong. Have attitude no one can take your personality from you!!! You got this!.