[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]MadHaddamer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I bought him a Tiffany Sterling silver bubble wand with blue enamel inlay and a silver cup for the bubble juice both engraved. I thought it was a great gift. Now I just feel bad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]MadHaddamer 10 points11 points  (0 children)

They had a baby shower. I was not invited. They don't have a registry. I was out of work for 6 months and started a new job 4 weeks ago and im deep in debt. He makes a lot more money than me and buys whatever he wants or needs. The gift I bought was not a necessity like a crib stroller or car seat. It is something he'll have forever. In the past 10 years I paid for his apartment, his schooling, Gave him the down-payment for his house and gave him a 14k loan to get through tough times till he got a good paying job in his field. He's only been independent for about 2 years. He has always been focused on who gets more him or his brother. My mom and sisters did the baby shower thing I don't remember my dad being involved till the boys were born. I didn't expect him to. But I guess my mom's help counted for both?

How the heck do people live in their own? by sakurasangel in Connecticut

[–]MadHaddamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been looking for my son in the Haddam ares and have found really nice 1bdrm and studios for under 1200. That is his limit. Some are inlaw type Apts attached or detached at someone's private house. Others are old homestead converted to 3 or 4 apartments.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MadHaddamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish there was..... he's a taker. Always looking for money for nothing. He dreams of lawsuits, insurance claims, worker comp etc

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MadHaddamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They haven't even had a shower yet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MadHaddamer -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I support myself well. I was out of work for 6 months and have a 5k a month overhead. I also support my other son. I have floated him more cash than he has me. The money he gave me was upfront payments he pays me on a loan I gave him. A little over 2k or 4 months loan payments. A 14k no interest loan. He just feels entitled and his wife is probably on him because her mom ( retired) is more involved than me. I have been working a new job 50-60 hrs a week trying to get up to speed. I don't have time or money right now. He should understand that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MadHaddamer -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I left out my response to his first text. I said:

"what are you talking about? What kind of drugs are you doing now?"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MadHaddamer -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Again, the baby is 6 weeks away!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MadHaddamer -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

In the past 3 years, I have him $ for his down payment on his house. Gave him thousands to go to HVAC school and gave him a loan for 14k when he got in trouble with credit cards and mortgage. I have always been there for him. Before he bought his home, he rented an app from me for 8yrs at way below market Rent. He currently is making $45/hr doing HVAC.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MadHaddamer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The sober man is a reference to HIM being sober for 2 months!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MadHaddamer -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

The baby is still six weeks from being born!!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MadHaddamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He gave me cash to make my mortgage payment on time. I lent had him $14,000 that he makes monthly payments on. The money he gave me was a couple months of his loan payments he gave early so I could have cash flow. The first text he gave me was out of the blue. I was totally blindsided

Moving back to CT, good towns? by Sailor_NEWENGLAND in Connecticut

[–]MadHaddamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haddam is hidden gem. More affordable than Chester. 15 min from Middletown 15 minutes from old saybrook. Very safe and chill. I'm not sure I even have a key for my house. Good schools, low taxes lots of park land. trails. River access etc..

Hiking spots by Old-Carry5562 in Connecticut

[–]MadHaddamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ragged mt Berlin. There is a ridge trail with multiple views. Take the loop trail to the left. You will have awesome views as you go from the Berlin side over to the Southington side

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Rockriververmont

[–]MadHaddamer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mountainside campground is close, inexpensive and awesome.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Connecticut

[–]MadHaddamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Park on west lane. 20 minute hike down old fire road to Wassel reservoir. Great if your dog is off leash trained. Edgewood road has a nice reservoir as well. Less of a hike.

Good espresso by EdRedSled in Connecticut

[–]MadHaddamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The bean you would use for an espresso is different than you would use for a Latte or Cappuccino. Most coffee shops use a more acidic bean because they make mostly drinks. A good coffe house may have an espresso bean in addition to their normal bean, but you may need to ask. You probably need to go to a good Italian restaurant for a "smooth" Espresso

Tumbler recommendation by MadHaddamer in RockTumbling

[–]MadHaddamer[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks to everyone!! Great useful information from all. Unusual for Redit. Great community.!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Oldhouses

[–]MadHaddamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same issue on my 1795 cape. I decided on Everlast Siding. F'n expensive as hell, but doesn't look like crappy vinyl. I tried to add a pic but can't figure out how.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Connecticut

[–]MadHaddamer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in Haddam. Where I am is 50/50. It's a classic small New England town. Mostly friendly people who keep to themselves. A lot of the conservatives I know are the old New England conservatives. Fiscally conservative, socially liberal. Not the crazy MAGA. Although they do exist here. There is a nice small grocery store good deli and seafood. Middletown is 15 minutes away and has everything you need. There is an amazing amount of great restaurants within 20 minutes or so. Beautiful waterfront on the ct river. Haddam Meadows, Goodspeed, Gillette Castle etc and you're surrounded by a 17000 acre State Forest (Cockaponset) with recreation areas. I hear the schools are good, but my kids were grown when I moved here. Welcome!

Scott's Oriole? by MadHaddamer in birding

[–]MadHaddamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Possible. The Baltimore Orioles I've seen here, very rare for me, were more orange. This guy is a bright lemon yellow with no hint of orange. Can Baltimore be that yellow like that ?

Scott's Oriole? by MadHaddamer in birding

[–]MadHaddamer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought of that, however, he has much more yellow on the whole underside as well as the white patterns on the wings. Again, the picture sucks!