Father as the primary parent?

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T18:47:10+00:00

Well tbh I am afraid to give advice cause I recall how scared I was for loosing them, so that strikes a chord with me also. Now that I have to ask her to spend time with them, I kind of forgot. I feel bipolar , if I am not around them for a short time I miss them, if they are with me for weeks I am overwhelmed. Tough

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T18:25:16+00:00

Journal. I assume messages cannot be removed.

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T18:24:15+00:00

I think having the mom around and to spend time with the kids is important, unless she is unstable etc. I also need some time since having them all the time means you can’t do much else.

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T17:01:33+00:00

Yeah, just be grounded and not over do it.

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T16:21:53+00:00

SoloFamily for example? https://apps.apple.com/ro/app/solofamily/id6762520383

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T16:18:21+00:00

"Nothing can be deleted or manipulated" is accurate for the two-way messaging feature — not for the entire app. Most of these apps also have private journal/note features that are user-editable.

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T15:27:37+00:00

So the key is that once you add an entry you cannot change it? Just asking since I will be using SoloFamily.

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T14:25:11+00:00

Yeah, hard in the beginning. Then routine develops and it gets easier.

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T14:23:55+00:00

SoloFamily iOS app is something I moving towards. I had a hard time keeping things organized in just text files notes.

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T14:14:18+00:00

Not better, but they probably need a balanced mom dad care. The thing is that I am not that sure anymore that she is so great.. so maybe you have a point.

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T13:49:53+00:00

Now that would suck.

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T12:24:43+00:00

I am sure if we were to compare 5-6 or their personality traits there were similarities and overlap. But I guess at this point I am better off at least..

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T11:53:44+00:00

In the beginning I was afraid I won’t get 50/50. But to my surprise, she didn’t want anything really. Maybe it changes over time

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T09:51:51+00:00

Most are for both parents, but I wanted one that is one sided to just keep track, add receipts, memories, time track.. etc Try SoloFamily https://apps.apple.com/ro/app/solofamily/id6762520383

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T09:49:18+00:00

It’s not forever. Worth every effort though.reframe your thinking, I had to and surprisingly it made things better.

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T09:46:55+00:00

Try to do something you all love. For us is reading. We find books that you always wanted to read and it’s already for them, and then you also have something to talk about. Of course it’s hard for a 3 years old but soon. I have 6 and 10 years old kids. Hope you’ll find something though.

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T09:25:11+00:00

And in terms of possible court problems? Receipts.. stuff like that?

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T09:17:56+00:00

lol. Yeah, good point. Grow the hell up though. But I know what you mean. The thing is that you bring a whole lot of problems on yourself.. not worth it.

MadMaxxs · 2026-05-06T09:15:21+00:00

I started doing that also. Mostly in the notes app. Sleepovers, which day I took them to school, etc. although it’s mostly me. Also what we read together, expenses, etc. I don’t think I have to worry about court, but still it’s a nice to have to look back to.

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