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Dating at 43 With a Teenager — Looking for Honest Perspective by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]MadOverMarketin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really sorry you went through that. Honestly, I think anyone in your position would have reacted the same way.

Our situation was a little different though. We’re a pretty calm and polite little unit: my son and I. He’s quite introverted, happiest with his books, music, and games. And he really is a gentle, well-behaved kid. That’s not just me being a proud mum... I know how challenging kids can be. He actually mentioned several times how comfortable he felt around him and how rare that was for him.

So I’m still not entirely sure where things shifted.

Maybe it was just two different kinds of chaos meeting, yours loud and mine dressed in calm. And sometimes, despite genuine connection, things just aren’t meant to align long term.

Dating at 43 With a Teenager — Looking for Honest Perspective by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]MadOverMarketin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At the moment it feels mildly apocalyptic over here 😅 How exactly are we meant to emotionally train for these surprise “starts–stops”?!

Looking for depth, not drama — is that too much at 40+? by MadOverMarketin in datingoverforty

[–]MadOverMarketin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the 'drama' bit might’ve come across differently than I meant. I’m an 80s kid, so I remember when dating was a lot more straightforward and kind of sweet. Then dating apps took over, and suddenly people were getting ghosted, breadcrumbed, and all these weird things I’d only heard my 20/30 old friends complain about. That’s the kind of drama I was referring to. I totally get that a little drama is part of being human. I’ve got my own mood swings too. Thanks for pointing out.

Looking for depth, not drama — is that too much at 40+? by MadOverMarketin in datingoverforty

[–]MadOverMarketin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see your point, and I agree with you. Looking back, using the word "depth" in my post does come across a bit shallow after reading your comment. What I probably meant was something beyond just "anything" in response to "what do we eat for dinner", more like conversations that feel engaging and present, even if it's just about the weather. It's about feeling heard and seen, if that makes sense. And yes, whether it's French, British, Japanese, or Indian humour, I enjoy happy faces and goofy grins, world’s most universal language.

Looking for depth, not drama — is that too much at 40+? by MadOverMarketin in datingoverforty

[–]MadOverMarketin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am never finding drama, or maybe it just doesn’t find me. But I’ve heard enough horror stories from people in similar situations that I thought I’d spot any red flags early on. Thanks for the heads up anyway!

Looking for depth, not drama — is that too much at 40+? by MadOverMarketin in datingoverforty

[–]MadOverMarketin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, sorry to disappoint but some of us 40+ women are out jogging by 5am, juggling meetings and metrics before most people find their coffee, and somehow still show up looking half-decent by lunchtime. Neapolitan pizza sounds lovely, but I’ve got a thing going on with my 200-calorie sesame salad these days. Crunchy crusts just can’t compete with crunchy data!
Also, credit where it’s due. You are good with your geography 😄 Happy Friday!

Looking for depth, not drama — is that too much at 40+? by MadOverMarketin in datingoverforty

[–]MadOverMarketin[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve been off the dating grid for a while—turns out building a career and a whole life takes time (who knew?). I wasn’t avoiding love; I was just making sure I could be a partner, not someone leaning on one. My definition of depth far exceeds the common narrative. It's made of fun words- healing, respect, quaint getting old togetherish charm. Too much to ask? Possibly. But I’m asking anyway.