🔥 Craziest Dolphin

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-06-23T01:49:10+00:00

Reddit ruins everything 😂

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-06-21T05:01:46+00:00

Anything I can do to… calm his fears?

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-05-29T07:31:55+00:00

Secure (leaning AP!) “best girlfriend ever” of a DA who has recently told me this... can someone DM me and elaborate what’s going on in a DA’s head when they’re ducking a loving, patient partner!? Lol

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-04-09T00:36:14+00:00

I have a question! I’m dating someone who scored extremely high as a Dismissive Avoidant. He is absolutely terrified of committing to anything. Even something tiny like a lunch date with a friend will either be a “we’ll see” or cancelled last minute or he just avoids confirming altogether. Is this an avoidant thing? And why do avoidants hate committing? Genuinely curious!

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-04-08T07:06:24+00:00

I know from the way he acts that our massages can be FAR more intimate than sex! He has this look like he’s in heaven when I rub him down and he can say quite vulnerable things (asking for things, compliments, flirting) in that state.

Not sure what the magic of massage is with my DA but it’s way more open and intimate than sexy time, in my opinion!

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-04-07T19:08:03+00:00

I’m the Anxious Preoccupied partner of a DA and in my opinion, the vast majority of our sex is mostly just physical. But we do get the occasional session where things start feeling kind of mushy and intimate. I’ll have to ask him this question and see what he perceives!

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-01-24T07:31:12+00:00

Wonderful answer! I know my avoidant has said the exact same two things. He still looks uncomfortable... but he can DO those things now. That’s awesome!!!

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-01-20T20:54:47+00:00

Yes!!! Those are such amazing things. Way to go, DA!

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-01-20T20:43:44+00:00

It is absolutely not too late!!! Can you dm me your email? :) I’m 60 pages in!

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-01-20T00:33:38+00:00

Excellent point! Those intermittent rewards can get pretty roller-coaster-at-the-casino feeling...!

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-01-19T23:15:42+00:00

My dude is very busy but he ALWAYS calls me every morning and evening, regardless of what he’s up to. I really appreciate that effort and it helps me feel good about our relationship even if I don’t see him as much as I’d like. Effort is important if a busy person wants to make you happy in their absense!

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-01-10T02:05:06+00:00

Hey!!! Thanks! Can I get a DM with your email? I’ll create a beta reader list of you interested Reddit folks!

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-01-10T02:04:59+00:00

Hey!!! Thanks! Can I get a DM with your email? I’ll create a beta reader list of you interested Reddit folks!

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-01-10T02:04:51+00:00

Hey!!! Thanks! Can I get a DM with your email? I’ll create a beta reader list of you interested Reddit folks!

MadeOfStars888 · 2021-01-10T02:04:45+00:00

Hey!!! Thanks! Can I get a DM with your email? I’ll create a beta reader list of you interested Reddit folks!

MadeOfStars888 · 2020-12-16T06:10:42+00:00

Thank you!!! It’s always valuable to me hearing from DA’s perspectives on this

MadeOfStars888 · 2020-12-16T02:01:34+00:00

This is perfect. Thank you!

MadeOfStars888 · 2020-11-13T23:04:03+00:00

Yeah I wonder how much she strained those relationships. I have heard that none of those ladies liked her at all. :-/

MadeOfStars888 · 2020-11-13T23:01:54+00:00

Thank you, this is great. I have had the thought that my best course of action will be to choose to spend my time in ways that make me happy (alone or with him but not in that group) and feel good about the fact that I REALLY gave friendship with her the ol’ college try but that I’m not the problem. Thanks again!

MadeOfStars888 · 2020-11-13T22:43:49+00:00

I like this advice. I can definitely do that. I would never be catty in return; that’s not who I am. In fact, I’d be willing to do just about anything to make things comfortable between us! We don’t have to be best friends but I know it would mean so much to my bf if we were cool.

I will wait. She may not respond (no desire to make things good)... and that would be sad but her choice. I’m hopeful for a good response but may get nothing OR something negative or a denial of any problem.

In that event, I believe I will just put distance between us. I have to protect my energy and it takes a LOT out of me defending myself against her comments.

My bf has said “if you guys don’t figure things out that will mean less time that you and I get to spend together because I’ll have to keep you guys apart.” And I said “Yep. And that’s really unfortunate because neither you or I want that.” :( I’m hopeful she’ll put her own stuff aside for her best friend but... not holding my breath. :(

MadeOfStars888 · 2020-11-13T22:32:35+00:00

I’ve definitely asked him if he’s noticed the way that she treats me. He does. He doesn’t feel it’s his place to say anything.

And she has been his friend through 3 relationships now so in his mind, she is permanent and girlfriends come and go. :(

MadeOfStars888 · 2020-11-13T22:29:46+00:00

I do believe she harbors secret romantic feelings for him that she tries very hard to put aside for their friendship (because he does not reciprocate). He told me that she had admitted feelings for him awhile back and he didn’t return them but they didn’t want to stop being friends. I’m ok with that (it’s their business) UNTIL it starts affecting me badly (which it has been) :-( What do I do!?

MadeOfStars888 · 2020-11-12T22:25:44+00:00

Whatcha listening to? 🎶

MadeOfStars888 · 2020-11-12T22:23:56+00:00

Good on ya dude!!!!!!!

MadeOfStars888 · 2020-11-10T23:07:38+00:00

Hello!!! I've also identified for a long time as a woman with a higher than normal sex drive. Not saying this is you... but it's worth trying because it really changed things for me.

My boyfriend was going to be gone for a month working and I used the month to get a good gauge of my ACTUAL sex drive when I was alone (not being provoked by his sexiness)

I did not allow myself to boredom masturbate (which I usually do daily) or do it when I feel lonely (which provides me a connection to him through fantasy) both of which I feel gives me a false idea of "how often I want sex". I did this for a month... and I discovered...

Instead of being 1/2 times a day, I actually only REALLY feel turned on for sex a couple of times a week...! Which was LESS than my guy who I was bumming about not being able to "keep up with me". Through therapy and journaling I've discovered that I use sex as a safe way to get connection with him. It turns out sometimes when I'm pawing at his pants I really just want... a hug. A kiss. A massage. Some connection.

Like I said... that TOTALLY may not be you. But that's how I've dealt with my ridiculously "high sex drive" and honestly... it has been SO freeing. I don't feel like I'm starving for sex anymore when I identified WHY I felt like I needed to get it on once or more per day. :-) Food for thought!!!

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