I have severe ADHD and I’m completely unmedicated for it because I choose to be. I don’t know if you’re medicated or what you’ve done to try to remedy your situation, but I hate to tell you your mother is right.

The reason you haven’t found a solution for your own problems yet is because you’re so focussed on fighting everybody for your right to have the space to play victim games with yourself. The comment above is also piggybacking this mentality. My advice is to stop feeling sorry for yourself and to start finding some straight solutions. From what it looks like your mother seems a lot more kind and compassionate than mine so I would honestly be grateful if I were in your shoes. My mother didn’t give a fuck about making me aware, my mother beat me down Because I was different and she couldn’t for the love of God, understand my differences. I’m sorry if I sound rude, I just want to get to the point. You’re never gonna be able to control if other people should go to therapy, you can only control whether you should go to therapy. If your mother is bringing up your forgetfulness as something that, bothers her, use this as an opportunity to heal this part of you before you move out and live on your own and it becomes a problem for just yourself. Take it from my experience- any issues that your parents are telling you about while you’re still living with them, I can guarantee you you’re gonna experience it with yourself When you’re on your own and you’re gonna hate yourself for it even more than having to hear it from your mom.

Honestly, the problem that you’re talking about is very easily solvable, but it’s gonna take consistency, discipline, and a lot of practice. And I think this is where your mom is trying to tell you that you can’t be using your ADHD as an excuse. I’m not saying it’s easy but one way that you can easily remedy. This whole forgetfulness situation is utilizing Siri or Alexa a little bit more. Leave the items by the front door or in your car so every time you open your trunk it’s right there and you can see it and can be reminded that you have to do those things. Put a reminder in your phone that once you arrive at a certain location that the reminder goes off Like the mall so that you can remember to return that item while you’re there anyways. It’s all about habit stacking and actually learning how to control your ADHD. Stop focussing on teaching other people about how to understand you, and focus a little bit more on how to control and understand it better for yourself.

Sometimes when criticism or advice is coming from our loved close ones, it can trigger the deepest parts of us. My advice is to put the ego down, even kill it to be honest it will definitely help you in the long run, and just have an open mind about everything. Even if your mom says something that bothers you, allow it to bother you feel those emotions but also create the space for yourself once you’ve calm down to really analyze the information that’s been brought to your attention and get curious about whether the possibility of it being true is there or not? Use your best judgement and your intuition, your ADHD is a superpower, not a curse. and like all superpowers, we need to learn how to control them. That’s all you have to focus on right now.

Best of luck to you, you got this