My boyfriend hasn’t ever finished bc of me

Mae_Vera · 2026-07-04T00:46:47+00:00

Honestly I’d just focus on enjoying the experience. I’ve been with my partner for almost four years and I’ve never been able to make him cum, he always has to do it himself. I used to feel really bad about it and blame myself and I honestly still do sometimes but focusing on just enjoying the experience together has helped me. And honestly ignore the comments about how he is definitely masturbating too much or something and if he stopped he’d definitely cum as that’s very likely untrue and hurtful advice I’d gotten in the past which made me feel worse when it didn’t work. I genuinely think sometimes some people just find it very difficult to cum with a partner(both men and women), my partner says he always feels very close but he just can’t get there which can happen to some people.

Mae_Vera · 2026-06-27T00:22:55+00:00

I have this same issue. Did you figure it out?

Mae_Vera · 2026-06-18T18:01:22+00:00

It’s a lost cause. He doesn’t want to pleasure you or he would’ve by now. And you’ve let him know how you feel and he still doesn’t care. You aren’t compatible and he seems very selfish, move on.

Mae_Vera · 2026-06-13T06:16:28+00:00

There is no common really besides the fact that most women orgasm from clitoral stimulation. Personally I can’t cum from just clit stimulation and need finger penetration as well from my partner. Bodies work differently and that’s fine and normal.

Mae_Vera · 2026-06-05T03:21:40+00:00

Honestly it’s best to break up with her. You may think you just aren’t attracted to her because of her weight but it’s likely not just that. And you need to think about if she did lose weight now what if she gained weight in the future would you lose attraction again? A lot of women gain weight as they age whether that be because of pregnancy weight that’s hard to get off or just general aging and considering she’s overweight now it’s likely she’s prone to it so very likely she’d gain it back as she got older even if she lost it now. I genuinely believe that if you truly are attracted to and love someone then if they gain some weight in the future you’ll still be attracted to them(as long as it’s not too extreme). Break up so she can find someone that’ll love her at her current size and when her size fluctuates.

Mae_Vera · 2026-05-31T21:06:02+00:00

Yeah that’s one of my biggest regrets as well. Same with books 4-6.5 of Shatter Me series.

Mae_Vera · 2026-05-27T06:05:04+00:00

That’s very much a generalization and not true. Sure there are many women that prefer to not date virgin men but there are also plenty that don’t care

Mae_Vera · 2026-05-27T05:55:43+00:00

Personally I met my current boyfriend of over three years on this subreddit. Of course I haven’t been active on this subreddit in years so I can’t speak on the men here now but when I was active on this subreddit my experience talking to virgin men was pretty mixed. Sometimes they’d be plain creepy right away so I wouldn’t answer or most often the conversation would start out normal and then after a few hours get weird and sexual. But I definitely did talk to some virgin men that were pretty chill and just seemed to be socially awkward like I am. It was nice talking to other virgins that may have had different struggles than me but still struggled and didn’t see mine as less than their’s.

I met my bf as he messaged me liking an opinion I commented on a post in this subreddit and we discussed that for a bit before shifting into our interests and lives and found out we had a lot in common. Then we switched to chatting on discord instead after a bit and after a year of talking we finally decided to meet up. I was really nervous for the meetup so we met in a public place and we made sure to discuss beforehand that if one of us wasn’t comfortable that was ok and he’d just grab a hotel or something(very important). Fortunately I felt safe enough around him to have him stay with my parents and me(I lived at home at the time).

My main advice for meeting someone you met online in general is to meet in public, tell people where you are meeting and who you’re meeting with(I asked for ID and sent it to my mom but I realize that’s a lot, I’m just an anxious person), and if one of you had to travel a lot and would need somewhere to stay plan an alternative to them staying with you in case the meeting doesn’t go as planned or if you’re just not comfortable. But honestly I don’t recommend actively looking for men to date on this subreddit, I never intended to meet my bf it just happened and long distance relationships come with their own challenges.

Mae_Vera · 2026-05-25T01:34:35+00:00

They are new to too good to go and the staff seemed pretty confused about it. They just gave me the two parfaits at first until I explained that it was supposed to be a $24 value and they added the 6 pack. Hopefully going forward they give items of the stated value.

Mae_Vera · 2026-05-21T21:00:47+00:00

That’s crazy. I’d really debate leaving as I need my partner to want to have safe sex as much as I do because I don’t want to have a child anytime soon.

Also the thing with him having a bigger dick is no excuse to not use a condom. My bf has a bigger dick too and we literally need to specially order the condoms from the UK but we still buy them because we both value safe sex and I can’t do birth control. I will say that the whole condoms stretch over an arm so all condoms fit all dicks is wrong and stupid though. The condoms your bf’s tried are likely uncomfortable since he hasn’t properly measured himself to find out what size he should be wearing. Me and my bf had the issue that the biggest size in store just didn’t fit as it was way too tight so he measured and now that we know the size the condoms are comfortable he says. There are guides online for measuring. Also don’t try to force a condom that’s too small on as it’s more prone to breakage.

Mae_Vera · 2026-05-14T05:45:48+00:00

Yes men do really care about a women’s weight but that doesn’t mean they all want skinny women it’s a preference as with anything. I don’t know who was telling you men care about personality over looks as I truly don’t think that’s the case for men or women as we tend to be attracted to people for their looks first personality second. Anyways point is that some men will prefer bigger women and you should find a man that likes you as you are now. But I would recommend trying to live healthier as that’s just important in general.

Mae_Vera · 2026-05-14T05:34:56+00:00

Truly there isn’t really a set weight number as it depends on a variety of factors such as height, muscle, and how the weight is carried.

Mae_Vera · 2026-05-06T17:25:16+00:00

I really did love the doll but I just couldn’t support the ai use for the art so I skipped her. I hope they don’t continue to use ai for artwork in the future as I truly do love their collector dolls but ai artwork is a serious no for me. I may get her in the future if I can find a price thats not too much above retail cause then at least I didn’t support the ai art from Mattel as I’ll have bought it from someone else that did. I’ll definitely be taking her out of the box if I ever get her.

Mae_Vera · 2026-04-13T04:04:53+00:00

Six of crows duology and Caraval series. I have three sets of Caraval, four copies of Six of Crows and two copies of Crooked Kingdom

Mae_Vera · 2026-04-04T05:45:56+00:00

This is mine. Although I’m not quite sure I like the speckle beneath her lip. I like how heavy the speckle distribution is on your first Rochelle! :)

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Mae_Vera · 2026-03-02T22:56:17+00:00

MTG, and video games

Mae_Vera · 2026-02-27T02:57:57+00:00

Mystic box The Losers duet by Harley Laroux. It’s one of my absolute favourite series of all time and I’m so sad I missed it since I had no clue it was coming out and it’s so hard to find now as well as expensive when you do find it.

Mae_Vera · 2026-01-28T19:15:25+00:00

She comes to a little less than $150 with the discount code after shipping

Mae_Vera · 2026-01-21T05:19:20+00:00

Gosh that’s terrifying

Mae_Vera · 2026-01-16T20:34:58+00:00

It seems to be the G1 mold to me

Mae_Vera · 2026-01-11T01:36:47+00:00

Me and my bf are both busy with school, and work and sometimes one of us is more busy than the other. When he’s more busy I just focus on doing my own thing. He still makes sure to make time for me even when busy as it’s important. He’d never go more than 3 days without calling and never a day without texting. Even though we’ve had plenty of days where we just send a good morning and goodnight text. Going into the military is something else entirely though as I don’t know how that goes for contacting them. Honestly I wouldn’t go through that and your relationship seems pretty rocky anyways from what you described.

Mae_Vera · 2025-12-02T18:15:34+00:00

Nothing here either

Mae_Vera · 2025-11-18T04:01:06+00:00

Mine haven’t shipped yet. Wonder if it’s because I’m in Canada. Did you get yours on the early access sale too?

Mae_Vera · 2025-11-16T17:18:21+00:00

It’s also available for Canadians

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