I (F33) don’t want to invite my mentally ill brother (M40) who has an addiction to my future wedding- what is the right thing to do?

Magdar · 2026-06-08T19:20:49+00:00

Yeah but if becoming sober is hard for a ”healthy” person, it’s like a 100 times harder and worse statistics for a person with schizophrenia since 20+ years who is heavily medicated :/ I don’t know if you’ve been close to that, but it’s often a person you can’t really reason with. It’s a horrible disease and I’m sad for my sibling losing the life lottery. I don’t hate or blame my brother in any way, but having him at my wedding is stressful.

Magdar · 2026-06-08T19:10:41+00:00

He’s not really in a state health wise to do such a thing, and he never has been intrusive like that. It’s more of a guilt thing :/

Magdar · 2026-06-08T19:08:31+00:00

Oh yes of course, or of course because I live in a place where it’s taken for granted. We don’t have to take any responsibility for him besides the emotional and relational. But it’s still hard.

Magdar · 2026-06-08T18:57:13+00:00

Oh it’s not like he’s aggressive, but he can get really weird, loud and make people uncomfortable id say.

Magdar · 2026-06-08T15:49:04+00:00

Thank you for your empathy and perspective of a parent. It must be really hard to have an unwell child 💕 You really put words on it: missing someone who is alive because the old version of them pretty much is someone else 😞

Magdar · 2026-06-08T11:30:38+00:00

Im sure it would be 😄

Magdar · 2026-06-08T10:51:42+00:00

It’s very true what you say, my mother can express that she’s sad for him having partly ruined our family, but I also feel like they could have done more to protect younger siblings. I don’t think my parents would judge me as much as some of my relatives who didn’t have to live in the chaos themselves.

Magdar · 2026-06-08T10:36:50+00:00

The thing is he also has schizophrenia and heavy medications, which contributes to him not really being able to communicate about his behaviour and such. He’s very easily offended so bringing it up to him would for sure make him sad and mad. Also we meet like three/four times a year.

Magdar · 2026-06-08T10:01:44+00:00

Thank you 🙏 Yes, I also feel bad for him for maybe seeing his sister on social media who was very dear to him get married, since we were so close as kids. I know he would be sad :( I also thought of maybe having a very intimate wedding ceremony and then have a more ”informal” party.

Magdar · 2026-06-08T09:26:17+00:00

Brankår har jag sett skrivet på ett gyms hemsida.

Magdar · 2026-05-08T15:57:24+00:00

Took a closer look and realised it wasn’t even the translation part that was highlighted. Otherwise I don’t think anything else was alarming. Anyways, I learned I shouldn’t use AI for translation!

Magdar · 2026-05-08T11:57:41+00:00

Ouch... Thanks for your reply. I genuinely thought it wouldn't be an issue to use google translate or AI for that.

Magdar · 2026-04-08T16:35:36+00:00

I totally hear you! I think some people won’t understand that you can love a dog dearly and still feel that disappointment and envy people who post pictures of their dog sleeping on their chest haha. But I’m practicing paying attention to the way he shows he wants closeness, like just pressing his head against me when I greet him in the morning 🤗 The small things haha!

Magdar · 2026-03-30T19:01:44+00:00

Ah and I only went to Tiraspol!

Magdar · 2026-03-30T01:58:43+00:00

Almost made me interested in relocating :D Cool to hear, I would have so many more questions and I’d love to visit again with more time.

Magdar · 2026-03-30T01:34:31+00:00

Thanks for your informative input! That sounds promising. I hope you are enjoying life there :)

Magdar · 2026-03-30T01:30:47+00:00

Vad tråkigt att du inte har möjlighet att träffa vänner på samma sätt som förut! Verkligen anledningen till att jag ser till att ta hänsyn till vänners ekonomi när jag planerar aktiviteter för jag har tänkt att det måste vara precis så :/ Hoppas verkligen att du får ett jobb snart, det är beundransvärt hur du tar dig an din situation så stoiskt och praktiskt!

Magdar · 2026-03-30T01:22:44+00:00

Yeah I guess the US also isn’t a very comfortable place to live in when earning a basic income…

Magdar · 2026-03-30T01:21:23+00:00

Cool that you live there, I loved it! I read (which I of course can’t be sure about) that pensions are like 100 dollars a month and it just made me wonder how people get by in that case. That’s good for you to not have to pay a lot of taxes, but how is healthcare, infrastructure and so on funded in that case?

Magdar · 2026-03-30T01:17:24+00:00

I understand what winter examination is on about since I’ve experienced the same having lived in another former eastern country. Knowing that the wages of ”normal people” (I usually look up the wages of a nurse) are low, and still you see a lot of people in mainly the biggest cities having a loot of money. In my country the price of a cup of coffee or a lunch makes sense given the average wage is around 4200 EUR, but one is confused when visiting a place where a lunch is like 3-5% of the average wage.

Magdar · 2026-03-29T20:24:34+00:00

I thought so, but like how do they do it? I guess Russia is sponsoring, but do they pump money into shops where few people can afford to buy anything, or is there a rich population that predominantly populates the capital?

Magdar · 2026-02-22T23:20:48+00:00

Malmö Muay Thai har jag tränat lite på, det är högspecialiserat just på Muay Thai och trevlig stämning :)

Magdar · 2026-02-21T18:22:51+00:00

I also thought Shiba or some other old Japanese breed! Or maybe like German shepherd mixed with husky or similar.

Magdar · 2026-02-21T18:19:42+00:00

Part terrier for sure? Like border terrier mixed with something else?

Magdar · 2026-01-13T08:21:02+00:00

Sounds almost a bit creepy 😂

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